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R.I.P. Ken, my future father-in-law...2/17/1947-12/21/2004

Ice Hockey Players
23-12-2004, 07:12
Well, no longer is he my future father-in-law, as he suffered a fatal heart attack yesterday morning and was pronounced dead at 11-something A.M. This came after Apples and Bununus, my girlfriend and future wife, called 911 to help him and he urged her to call off the squad. He fought the emergency workers and didn't want to go to the hospital. (He had refused medical treatment consistently for many years despite a chronic shoulder problem, allergies, and a persistent cough.)

I don't think I will ever forget waking up to hear my cell phone ring at 9:47 AM yesterday morning, about an hour or so before I usually get up due to my evening job, and my girlfriend on the other end frantically shouting, "Ken's having a heart attack!" Normally if she called me at an odd hour I would go back to sleep, but no way in hell was I doing that. I jumped in the shower, threw on some clothes, and scrambled to the hospital...well, not really; the squad was taking care of him, and I had to explain what was going on to my folks, so I got there shortly before he was pronouced dead.

The especially heartbreaking thing about all this is that Ken was lost in the exact same manner in which Apples and Bununus lost her father 12 years ago - a sudden heart attack. Both of them were feeling fine shortly before their downfalls; Ken and I were chatting like normal the night before on the way home from work (yes, we were co-workers.) It was cold as hell, so cold that my car didn't even blow hot air when the engine was warm. Ever since, I haven't been back to work, and neither has Apples and Bununus or her mom. We returned Ken's Christmas gifts; he was getting an Xbox and I was waiting to play some games with him. He was going to teach her a card trick before he died, but never got the chance.

Ken was a graduate of Ohio State University and a veteran of the Vietnam War, serving in the Marine Corps and earning a Purple Heart after a grenade hit him. He had three sons by a previous marriage and a stepdaughter whom I intend to marry one day. Services are this Friday for him; it still doesn't register with me or anyone else here hearing "Ken's dead." It still doesn't make sense.
Evinsia
23-12-2004, 07:22
I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss.
Donutsia
23-12-2004, 07:33
Damn that sucks. Death never makes sense and a feeling kind of like phantom limb will happen, especially since you knew him for a while. At some point your probably gonna think of Ken and totally forget he's dead for a minute, then ya remember in an instant. That day's gonna suck. Damn death sucks.
LannaN
23-12-2004, 07:59
God's enternal light shine on him... Rest in peace.
BLARGistania
23-12-2004, 08:40
I offer my condolences. As petty as that sounds, I offer them.

Out of curiosity and don't take this to be an asinie statement - you fiance and future mother-in-law, Apples and Bununusm where did they get their names? They are quite odd.
Ice Hockey Players
23-12-2004, 14:50
I offer my condolences. As petty as that sounds, I offer them.

Out of curiosity and don't take this to be an asinie statement - you fiance and future mother-in-law, Apples and Bununusm where did they get their names? They are quite odd.

Fair question. Do a nation search on "Apples and Bununus" and you will find her nation and her motto, which is from some song she sung when she was younger. (Needless to say, "bununu" is a variation on "banana". For those who look at it and say "huh?" it is pronounced buh-NOO-noo.)

Thanks for your supportive words. Once they wake up, I will relay them. For now, it's just me, the dog, and the cat, who seem oblivious to the fact that he's not coming home. Though truthfully, I think the cat would be less than broken up about that, since Ken was the one who shoved pills down his throat when he was sick, and he never seems to have gotten over that.
Stephistan
23-12-2004, 14:55
My condolences. Really sorry to hear that. :(
Apples and Bununus
27-12-2004, 06:26
Thank you for all of your prayers. Ken was a wonderful man, he taught me so much that I will never forget. To my dear Ice Hockey Players- thank you for all of your help. FYI Ice Hockey Players asked me Apples and Bununus to marry him on Christmas, of course I said yes. Thanks to everyone out there for the encouragement. Seasons Greetings to one and all!
Tanara
27-12-2004, 06:32
My most heartfelt condolences. May all your memories of Ken bring you naught but joy. May he rest in the light.
Kahta
27-12-2004, 06:35
I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss.
Gnostikos
27-12-2004, 06:36
His flesh will become one with the soil, and he will feed furture generations of life. He will continue on his way through the cycle of nature. I can think of no greater fate for a living being. I am sorry for the sense of loss you must be feeling...it is one of the most confusing emotions I've ever had to deal with. My deepest commiseration to you.
Defensor Fidei
27-12-2004, 06:38
Requiescant In Pace...
Sarzonia
27-12-2004, 07:40
Oh no! You have my condolences.
Candah
27-12-2004, 07:49
Oh my...

I'm sorry to hear that, I truly am :(