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Sorry, but I got a classic teen problem I gotta deal with and I want to know what you think. Again, sorry for my idiotic post.

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Could you maybe elaborate?

I would have to say around five years old. Now, I know what you're all thinking; I must be insane. But seriously, you forget that there are far more forms of romantic love than sex. There's the platonic form, which is shared between many children and never realized or acknowledged because the adults believe that it is impossible for them to know what love is.

ok, but romantic form, how about that?

Debatable, depending on the person's mental maturity. I'd say 15 at least.

But then again, what do I know? I'm only sixteen and pining after a girl whose boyfriend lives in Chicago. (I live in Pennsylvania. They're not even remotely close.)

I would have to say around five years old. Now, I know what you're all thinking; I must be insane. But seriously, you forget that there are far more forms of romantic love than sex. There's the platonic form, which is shared between many children and never realized or acknowledged because the adults believe that it is impossible for them to know what love is.
Yeah feel free to marry Horses
Umm oh wrong thread err 5 but love is a dangerous thing

ok, but romantic form, how about that?

Pretty young. :eek:

http://media.ebaumsworld.com/index.php?e=humpingbaby.mpg

Why must I be mocked? None of you apparently have ever been in love. For me, just being with the person I love is enough, and that's the way that most kids would feel. Sexual desire is not required for love in any respect at all.

Why must I be mocked? None of you apparently have ever been in love. For me, just being with the person I love is enough, and that's the way that most kids would feel. Sexual desire is not required for love in any respect at all.
love, okay.... but IN love?

I say 12

Why must I be mocked? None of you apparently have ever been in love. For me, just being with the person I love is enough, and that's the way that most kids would feel. Sexual desire is not required for love in any respect at all.
Yes, but that's still a romantic love. What about when that is possible?

It depends on what you mean...

By "in love," a lot of people actually mean "infatuated." This is simply a chemical reaction that occurs in our brains when we feel a deep attraction to someone. This attraction often leads to a sort of idealized fantasy version of who and what the other person is and that leads to infatuation. Because that infatuation is such a powerful feeling, people, especially when they are young and inexperienced, tend to trust it completely and believe that it means something very important; like that they are truly in love and are "meant to be together."

So, you don't have to be any particular age to be "in love."

That feeling of infatuation can, does, and, invariably, WILL wear off. You may still feel attracted to that person afterwards, but the initial jolt goes away. If, when it does, you still want to be with that person, and are still compatible, then you have something that can work in a more long term setting.

But, if you are only a teenager, why think long term with anyone? Personally, I don't think that anyone should get married any younger than twenty-five or twenty-six, but, that's debateable.

But, you didn't give a lot of background on your particular situation, so I'm not sure what exactly your particular issue is.

Yes, but that's still a romantic love. What about when that is possible?
When romantic love is possible? Again, I say five years old. It's a very mild and much different form, but it still exists.

I would say real "romantic" love isn't possible until the brain is fully developed.

Late teens, at the earliest.

I would say real "romantic" love isn't possible until the brain is fully developed.

Late teens, at the earliest.

:eek: I seem to be running behind schedule!

I would say real "romantic" love isn't possible until the brain is fully developed.

Late teens, at the earliest.
The brain becomes fully developed around age 13.

And siaque, I know what you're talking about, but it's not like that this time, and I think my feelings might actually be real. And I'm 15, by the way.

i dunno,if we set an age,the universe might have someone fall in love before that to spite us all.i cant set an age,because mental maturity unlike what society claims isnt close to set in stone.physical maturity yes,but not mental,in the least.

The brain becomes fully developed around age 13.

And siaque, I know what you're talking about, but it's not like that this time, and I think my feelings might actually be real. And I'm 15, by the way.


New research on how people think and plan ahead indicates otherwise. Which is why adults are far more risk averse than teens.

Well, these responses are really nice. I mostly expected people to say, oh, you're too young, it's just a silly crush, you're so CUTE!!! or something. You guys are great.

New research on how people think and plan ahead indicates otherwise. Which is why adults are far more risk averse than teens.

I'm WAAAY behind schedule! :eek:

Well, these responses are really nice. I mostly expected people to say, oh, you're too young, it's just a silly crush, you're so CUTE!!! or something. You guys are great.
I would have been the last person to say such a thing because I've been in love for over two years with one person, over the internet, in what is most definitely one of the weirdest relationships in existence. We've met in person once. For more details, visit www.ansemreport.com/forums and look for the General Love thread in the General Insanity forum. Look then to the 2nd or 3rd page and you'll find my explanation on the whole deal.

I would have been the last person to say such a thing because I've been in love for over two years with one person, over the internet, in what is most definitely one of the weirdest relationships in existence. We've met in person once. For more details, visit www.ansemreport.com/forums and look for the General Love thread in the General Insanity forum. Look then to the 2nd or 3rd page and you'll find my explanation on the whole deal.
Uh... *blink*

Uh... *blink*
http://www.ansemreport.com/forums/viewtopic.php?t=82&start=15
That's a direct link to the topic; just look to the second post on that page; it'll clearly be by me because the poster is named PIcaRDMPC.

:eek: I seem to be running behind schedule! Do you mean in front of schedule? If you're in love before then, that's what you'd mean…

…not late teens. I'd say around 14, possibly 13. I wouldn't know, because when I was 13 I wasn't in love…

old enough to open PLAYBOY
:p

old enough to open PLAYBOY
:p Whatever. I don't understand, and I probably never will.

I can say with certainty that there is no brain difference between 14 and 15. Does this help, in any small way?

Sorry, but I got a classic teen problem I gotta deal with and I want to know what you think. Again, sorry for my idiotic post.
Define "in love," please. :)

14 I think.

5 years old. My cousin brother said he want to marry his girlfriend in pre-school.

Eh, it's all a point of maturity, I suppose. Physical attraction occurs at a very early age, and spikes during puberty. Capacity for meaningful emotional bonding, on the other hand, seems to begin early on and plummet during puberty ( :fluffle: <--like so). Still, it's often hard to distinguish between scientifically-definable chemical reactions and emotional bonding. Once a person can tell the difference, I'd say they're ready to be in love.

Pretty young. :eek:

http://media.ebaumsworld.com/index.php?e=humpingbaby.mpg


oooo-thats one of my fav websites!

about falling in love: I think you know it when you know it. Maybe there are levels of love, I tend not to overanalyze it. No one here can tell you if you are or are not in love. So if youre 15 and love someone, then great. Will you end up with the person you fall in love with at the age of 15 for the rest of your life? Most likely not. But I know you can definitely fall in love more than once. Life's short......get to :fluffle: ing