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Without looking to judge them and their looks (anotherwards blindly kiss them). No other information is allowed. Would you trust fate or say to hell with it and look before you touch? It would be someone of the preferred gender if you have a preference. Do you leap, or look? Meaning if you look, it is impossible for you to enjoy anything with this person ever again except this one kiss.

Yes. But I always top...

What part of them would I be kissing?

They had better get used to the idea that I'm not going to lube them up, either.

lol.. I am going to say that if you leap without looking, both of your lips will meet perfectly.

Kinky.

No.

If the stranger was female and not obviously suffering from some contagious disease, why not? If I had no information, no.

Yuck. What if it's the wrong sex?

provided they were female

Nadkor provided they were female
Today 4:49 PM

Dunbarrow Yuck. What if it's the wrong sex?
Today 4:48 PM

Drunk commies If the stranger was female and not obviously suffering from some contagious disease, why not? If I had no information, no.

Read the initial post. It is a person of preferred gender and on the lips of that person. There are no possible repercussions other than possibly kissing someone of not your preference in looks. But on top of that it could be the person of your dreams.

My answer is a resounding perhaps!

Yuck. What if it's the wrong sex?

There is no wrong sex.

There is no wrong sex.

Looks like you and I have twice the chance for a date on Saturday night (if I was still single).

Let's clear up the problem statement:

In this hypothetical situation, you are allowed the following guarantees:

If you have a gender preference, the person you're kissing is of that gender. (id est, it's a woman, for heterosexual men and homosexual women; it's a man, for heterrosexual women and homosexual men).
You are kissing the person on the lips. Nowhere else.
There is no risk of bodily harm to you, either acute or chronic, as a result of kissing this person. This includes, but is not limited to: communicable disease, violently jealous significant other, political assassination attempt, etc.
There is no risk of serious defamation of your name or character. (e.g. you have a significant other and this is a deliberate attempt to make it look like you're cheating, the person is a celebrity being followed by paparatzi (sp?), the person turns out to be a spy and the government thinks you're an enemy-of-the-state, the person is a litigation-happy nutcase who sues you for not being the person he/she thought he/she was kissing, etc.)
You incur no legal or financial liabilities as a result of the kiss.
Forming a serious romantic relationship with the person as a result of the kiss is optional. Not mandatory. Not prohibited. Optional.


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Technically, I'd have to say "No." If someone suddenly grabbed me and started moving in for a kiss, I probably would not (immediately) know what was going on and I would resist the person to figure out who grabbed me and why.

Once given the point where I see that a woman I don't know is trying to kiss me, I would look at her face in the split-second that I have. If I judge her to be unattractive, then ideally, I wouldn't want to be so rude as to rebuff her (after all, in some situations, "a kiss is just a kiss", and it shouldn't be a big deal). Ideally, I'd like to think that I'd be forgiving about that sort of thing. Realistically, though, I'd probably hesitate enough that she'd notice and would be put off.

If it's an attractive woman, then I'd definitely go for it. In either case, I'd look first.

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I use the word "forgiving" with reason. Let's reverse the situation: If I were to approach a woman, whom I didn't know, who was standing under mistletoe (and she didn't realize it), and who didn't notice my approach (and thus couldn't give me any "buying signals" like a smile, a wink, or any body posture and facial expression that says "Come here and kiss me, Big Boy!"), and I tried to kiss her, then that would constitute a violation of her personal space. (Personal space being defined as the minimum separation distance necessary for non-intimate contact. Typically 2 or 3 feet from the nearest person in non-crowded conditions.) So, to return to the original hypothetical situation, if I were standing under mistletoe and didn't know it, and a woman I found unattractive tried to kiss me, then I'd be within my rights to say "I'm flattered, but please don't. Mistletoe? What mistletoe? Sorry, my mistake." It'd be a bit rude, but I didn't ask to have someone else enter my personal space.

The situation changes slightly if whoever is standing under the mistletoe is doing so deliberately. In that case, whoever is standing under the mistletoe is inviting an approach. If I'm the one standing under the mistletoe deliberately, then I accept that anyone might try to come up and kiss me, even someone I might find unattractive. So, I have less excuse than normal to rebuff an approach. However, in that case, I'd also be prepared for that contingency and psychlogically prepared to kiss a woman blindly.

"Think about it for a moment."

--The Democratic States of Cogitation
Founder and Delegate of The Realm of Ambrosia

No. The only person I'd ever kiss like that is my wife...

As long as I got no disease, or they had tic tacs, adn were a chic. i'd be set.

i said maybe

i would never initiate the kiss of a stranger standing under the mistletoe, not even if he were the sexiest man alive, let alone kiss him sight unseen

but, if i were inadvertantly standing under the mistletoe and a man kissed me on the lips (CLOSED MOUTH!!) in a gentlemanly way i would go right along with it. it IS that time of year and i would be pleased to be treated so nicely.

No. The only person I'd ever kiss like that is my wife...
Hmmm.... That reminds me: A kiss can mean different things to different people.

Faithfull-freedom: Can we change the hypothetical to include the possibility of kissing on the cheek? It might be interesting to see how some people change their responses according to this.

I, personally, would be less hesitant to kiss on the cheek than kiss on the lips.

--The Democratic States of Cogitation
"Think about it for a moment."
Founder and Delegate of The Realm of Ambrosia

No. The only person I'd ever kiss like that is my wife...

This is a test of fate meaning it could very well be your current wife/husband or significant other. I should of clarified this earlier hehe oops

There is no wrong sex.
Yes there is. If you don't look and end up kissing someone of the same sex, then that could be defined as "kissing someone of the wrong sex". Or if you prefer the PC version, erroneously kissing someone of the same sex.

I, personally, would be less hesitant to kiss on the cheek than kiss on the lips.

But why? The mouth is where you speak your truth. I do see what your saying but I just don't think its that big of deal anymore.

Absolutely not. I don't know where they've been.

This is a test of fate meaning it could very well be your current wife/husband or significant other. I should of clarified this earlier hehe oops

A spouse/partner wouldn't constitute a "stranger".

A spouse/partner wouldn't constitute a "stranger".

Its a stranger because you have no idea who it is though. If you knew who it was either way they would not be a stranger.

Didn't read the first post.

Answer is still "no".

Well, you only live once, so in that respect, its a yes, as long as its just a harmless peck - without any commited attachment; and of course, the other party would have to be in agreement with the situation as well, Im not about to force myself upon anyone.

Now, on the other hand, I would have to think about whether I was doing it for the sake of tradition, or for the spirit of finding new love? I dont want to meet the woman I fall in love with in that way, but you never know do you? That she might just be the one, and if without succumbing to this moment and this kiss, I lose the chance to fall in love with a lady that I would be otherwise spend the rest of my days pining for.... well thats just too awful a thought to complete isnt it?

In any event, if I were to do such a thing, it would have to be in a very charming fashion, and with concern for respectability. I would not wish to harm anyones pride or dignity by going over the top. This would have to be executed in the utmost of gentleman like conduct.

That said, what if there was someone Id really like to see under the mistletoe, who in a sense, is yet a stranger to me... does it count if I dont know who im kissing, and then its revealed to be a person as such?

Now that, is a situation I long for most graciously! :fluffle:

Some I would kiss. Others, might get something up their a**.

Only if I had just eaten a garlic slathered chili dog and still had bits of onion in my teeth.

if I did it would only be coincidence as I have never seen mistletoe