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Because I'm missing my Ritalin somewhere, I was inspired by that other post, what do Women want. Now =P The obvious answer is Sex. But.. :rolleyes: I wanted to hear all us guys say..
"Honestly... we value personality... trust us....please?"

So to take that bullet for the team prior to... Let me place my Number one wish for a women.
1. Looks. -Now before you go all kung-fu on my arse. Let me explain that I don't want some Skinny Rail-Road. I'll shut up there, Cause there IS no good way to state this one. I just have Unique views of 'beauty'.

:p Anyways, I'm curious to see how this goes. :gundge:

Personally, I'd look for a gal that could go toe to toe with me.

It's just not any fun otherwise...

A cello-playing torch-singing-in-french chick, who's okay that I use the word chick.





I can wait........













I'll just get comfortable........

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Because I'm missing my Ritalin somewhere, I was inspired by that other post, what do Women want. Now =P The obvious answer is Sex. But.. :rolleyes: I wanted to hear all us guys say..
"Honestly... we value personality... trust us....please?"

So to take that bullet for the team prior to... Let me place my Number one wish for a women.
1. Looks. -Now before you go all kung-fu on my arse. Let me explain that I don't want some Skinny Rail-Road. I'll shut up there, Cause there IS no good way to state this one. I just have Unique views of 'beauty'.

:p Anyways, I'm curious to see how this goes. :gundge:
heres a ebtter question, who actually thinks skinny as a rail is attractive

What's the old line- a large breasted nympho whose dad is the owner of a liqour store

heres a ebtter question, who actually thinks skinny as a rail is attractive

Uh, maybe rails. At least the logistics are there.

I would have to say I could go for a chick that likes doing nothing, and just spending time together.

I'm sure someone in the world does....

People who say looks don't matter are mostly lying retards. This goes for both men and women. There are those odd 1 or 2 who honestly don't care... but that's rare.

So...

Morals
Would never date a girl that was slutty. This is super-important.

Personality
I have to get along with them well... be able to talk to them, enjoy being with them, etc. Also super-important.

Looks
Not expecting someone who's super hot or anything, but seriously if it makes me sick looking at them, I'm not going to be attracted to them. It'll sound shallow, but honestly overweight is a huge turn off... Preferably pretty/cute at least. Important, but not as much so as their morals/personality.

Intelligence
Again, they don't have to be a genious of some sort, but if they are a total dumbass I will get too annoyed with them... a bit less important again than looks.

Politics
As I'm super into politics, it'd be nice if she had similar political views as me. This is not really important at all though, in fact most of the girls I've ever been attracted to are liberal supporters =/ (We actually have a liberal party in Canada). But yeah... it'd be nice but this is way down at the bottom of the list.

I'm sure I'm missing something...

By far one of the things I find most attrative is a girl who feels comfortable about herself. Forget those polite little pseudo-burps...I want to just see a chick just belt one out!

Furthermore....playing video games....big winner, right there.

:mp5: Halo2... :sniper: LOL

:fluffle: Oh honey.....lol

Honestly, just a chick who isn't so uptight all the time....RELAX!

I can't really say what attracts me most, except that whatever it is, it isn't looks. I rarely notice looks until I've gotten to know a girl very well. At that point, I'm inclined to think they are exceptionally beautiful.

I've never dated someone who wasn't already my friend (although my current girlfriend became a "friend" faster than anyone else).

Personality really is the most important aspect to any relationship (especially when that includes enjoying Halo, Dynasty Warriors, GTA, role-playing and writing. I'm in love.)

Well if the definition of an American is...

1. Ignorant
2. Fat
3. Lazy
4. Unintelligent
5. Religously psycho

Then it's safe to say I want someone who's NOT an American who happens to live in America and also has American citizenship....just like me...*rolls eyes* Gee, what're the chances though?

Well if the definition of an American is...

1. Ignorant
2. Fat
3. Lazy
4. Unintelligent
5. Religously psycho

Then it's safe to say I want someone who's NOT an American who happens to live in America and also has American citizenship....just like me...*rolls eyes* Gee, what're the chances though?

The definition of an American is a U.S. citizen/national :) Sorry your definition doesn't work.

Idiot.

The definition of an American is a U.S. citizen/national :) Sorry your definition doesn't work.

Idiot.
AMERICANS don't get sarcasm?


In Soviet Russia, sarcasm doesn't understand you!

I don't live in America :) Wrong again.

But seriously, don't throw politics into a thread like this that's completely irrelevant to politics... we have enough of that anyways.

I don't live in America :) Wrong again.

But seriously, don't throw politics into a thread like this that's completely irrelevant to politics... we have enough of that anyways.
Yeah, I see no politics. You fail! :)

:)

:)

:)

It's the happy police, I swear.

I am not quite sure what I want. I know that an above-average level of intelligence is requisite, as I would be bored otherwise. Similar interests and beliefs doesn't hurt--I think philosophers are extremely sexy ;) . I probably wouldn't be able to have a relationship with a conservative, as I have very intense political convictions. Overly religious is a turn-off, but only because this typically means they do less thinking for themselves. Willingness to express her own beliefs strongly also is good, as long as they aren't radically different from mine. For example, the girl I'm currently in love with is very attached to animals, even moreso than I am. This is good. But she doesn't like bugs, which I do, but that doesn't really bother me. Different, but not extreme differences. Self-confidence is attractive. And little or no masking of feeling, emotions, or intent, as I think a truly candid girl is appealing. Looks aren't necessary, but they help. I am oddly averse to significantly overweight girls, though not as a friend (I have a female friend who is), just as a love interest; but I have no idea why this is. Sex can not be top on her list of priorities.

Overall, someone I could just have as an engaging friend, as my intellect is what needs appeasing before my body.

a woman who can gook well, who has a good job, who is good in bed, who isn't fairly smart and personality compatability, I don't want some hyper-emotional maniac, I want someone calm and rational.

Men also want women who will give them space when they need it, like, Saturday afternoon college football time.

I'm sure someone in the world does....

People who say looks don't matter are mostly lying retards. This goes for both men and women. There are those odd 1 or 2 who honestly don't care... but that's rare.

So...

Morals
Would never date a girl that was slutty. This is super-important.

Personality
I have to get along with them well... be able to talk to them, enjoy being with them, etc. Also super-important.

Looks
Not expecting someone who's super hot or anything, but seriously if it makes me sick looking at them, I'm not going to be attracted to them. It'll sound shallow, but honestly overweight is a huge turn off... Preferably pretty/cute at least. Important, but not as much so as their morals/personality.

Intelligence
Again, they don't have to be a genious of some sort, but if they are a total dumbass I will get too annoyed with them... a bit less important again than looks.

Politics
As I'm super into politics, it'd be nice if she had similar political views as me. This is not really important at all though, in fact most of the girls I've ever been attracted to are liberal supporters =/ (We actually have a liberal party in Canada). But yeah... it'd be nice but this is way down at the bottom of the list.

I'm sure I'm missing something...

Ditto

Except for the political part, unless she was a far-right or far-left.

Well, generally speaking, the question is academic for me anyway, but here goes with my set of criteria:

1) Looks. By this, I don't mean that looks are the first and foremost thing that I look for by putting it first. I'm putting it in chronological order: when objectively considering whether I want to have a relationship with a woman, the first thing I honestly look at is whether or not she's attractive. If she's not, forget it. If she is, then she's at the very least in the door.

2) Intelligence. This is crucial, because I like women who know what the hell they're talking about, as well as what the hell I'm talking about. Looks might get you in the door, but a sharp mind is what keeps me from losing interest long enough to form an attachment.

3) Kindness/Virtue. This is the fundamental property that women must, unconditionally have. By "virtue", I don't mean the more modern conception, of sexual. . .how should I put it. . .innocence, I guess. What I mean is that she is the kind of person who works to better herself and works to better the people around her. This is the kind of woman I want to have in my life, more than anything else. I want someone who will push me to be better than I am, and will be someone I want to make myself better just to please. That, I think, is about as good as it gets in a relationship, or at least, to ask anything more would just be greedy.

Now, would this combination ever exist in the same woman? I don't know. I do know that if she does exist, she either hasn't met me, or she's skipped over me for someone better.

What all humans want:

Instant gratification with no consequence.

im not big on feminazi's ideologically yet i find feminists highly attractive (ok maybe not Germaine Greer...traitor!). I think its the idea of a strong spirit, someone who can challenge me and argue with me..an equal if you will. Intelligence is a big big thing for me, it may be rude but i simply can't handle a girl with the IQ of a door knob (not that IQ is the best measurement of intelligence). A girl with a self-depreciating sense of humour is also good, and a sharp wit (like Blackadder).

Let's make this a good list of what I want as a man.

1. The keystone of any good relationship is romance. Now what is romance you ask? In my definition is encompasses both the looks and the attitude fo a person. If a girl isn't attractive I'm not going to try to become an interest of thiers. I'm definitely not going to be with a lady who cares only for herself and her wants, I have needs too.

2. I want a women who shares similar work interests and ethics. A couple that shares a joint venture is mroe stable than those that don't in my opinion.

3. third I want a woman who has similar moral and spiritual views as I do. Without that I think a relationship will eventually end in ruin.

4. If I can't get along fairly well with a woman's family and she can't get along with mine then I'll stop a relationship pretty quick. Extended family is very important when it comes to caring for each others needs and for possible future child rearing.

5. I need a woman who will work hard and stay away from frivolous pursuits such as gambling and excessive drinking.

6. Lastly I want a woman who shares a similar background as myself both politically, economically, and socially.

These are the traits taht I want as a man. Hopefully thier not too shallow and selfish.

Personality? Honestly, we just want sex.

6. Lastly I want a woman who shares a similar background as myself both politically, economically, and socially.
You care whether a woman has the same socio-economic or political background as you? That seems pretty shallow to me. I can understand similar beliefs, but background is drawing the line too far for me.

A politically knowledgable liberal who likes to have friendly debates. Looks wouldn't hurt either.

well... i want to say looks aren't important, but honestly... they help alot, but if i'm attracted to someone's personality, they tend to become much more better looking... lol... i have to admit, i don't like a lot of weight, i prefer someone who isn't extreamly religious, unless they're beliefs are similar to mine, someone who's into politics preferably, but after that election, i've kinda been stayin away... too... pissed... they gotta love music, and i would prefer a punk rocker like me... go sex pistols and offspring!... um... gots to like led zeppelin too, but have an open mind to classical and light jazz, nice smooooooooooth jazz... um... yeah... ok then... smart peoples too... but as long as they're fun... oh... anime!!!

All right, here it goes

Looks- First impressions count. The longer a relationship lasts, the less important they are, but you've got to have attraction, otherwise it's just friendship, which just isn't the same. Generally I prefer dark hair and someone who's reasonably in shape. Ridiculously thin is not attractive. A nice smile is a good thing.

Personality- Kindness is important. I get hurt fairly easily, unfortunately, so it's very important that the woman is a compassionate person. Some sanity is nice, though a little craziness could be good too cause it would keep things interesting. If I can't get along with the woman, then obviously there can be no relationship. Preferably not timid in the slightest.

Intelligence- Must be able to hold an interesting conversation. Wit is very nice. Her being a lot smarter than me would be a huge turn on for me as well.

Views- Must be a fairly tolerant person. Especially of my music, if she's not into it that is. Preferably very liberal. I'd like her to be outspoken, and for her to feel very strongly about her views. I probably wouldn't be able to date anyone right-of-center though, cause I'd get into arguments with her too much.

she has to be a good drunk
an athiest
attractive
sexually secure
ambitious
intelligent
humerous
have a big personality, so as not to get swalloed by mine
not be shallow
have common interests at least some of the time
educated
wish to travel
enjoy giving non reciprocated oral sex
want to fund my tastes in expensive camera gear

lucky me i've found someone who is everything but the last two :)

I'd be a lying, pussified, metrosexual, limpwristed, femininnyst, whipped, dominated, subjugated shadow of an excuse of a man if I lied to myself and the world and said that I wanted all sorts of high-brow, spiritual, intellectual qualifications or qualities from women I'm attracted to.

Sex. It's about sex. Attraction is based on sexual preferences, obviously, and try as I might I can't bring "politically active" into the category of "sexual preferences." Intellectual women don't necessarily turn me on. Wearing glasses, though? I dig that.

And I'm not out for life partners, and a whole lot of people really aren't (look at the divorce rates if you doubt that), and I'm not searching for a mate for my SOUL. "Soulmate." Pfft. What, so our souls mate? They have soul sex? Protoplasmic porno. Mmm. Whatever.

Anyway, I'm not a superficial sexist, I'm honest. I'm not confusing my physical desire for spiritual, emotional or other things. Those are all secondary to whether the overall produc- I mean woman, is attractive to me.

Exactly WHAT though, it's personal and probably varies from man to man, the specific things that we look for. And ignore that Freudian crap, we're not looking for Mom. At least, no one but momma's boys.

She has to be very open-minded.

She must be courageous, relentless, tough, reckless, and kind. Since the combination of these few traits requires other virtues, such as fitness and the kind of intelligence I most admire, I may fall in love with anyone whom that describes.

Someone who'll show up naked with beer and sit quietly until the ball game is over. ;)

Right now I just want it to be Christmas...

...oh, did you mean in a relationship? Well, it would have been nice if my ex and I could have carried on conversations that lasted more than four or five sentences.

Frankly I don't know what I want, but I do know that: personality comes before looks, looks matter to an extent, they can't be religious to any heavy amount (agnostics, athiests, those who believe but don't care are good), and they can't be stupid as a doornail.
Any questions now ask away i'll answer to the best of my abilities

Trust me, the list will change as you mature no matter what's on it.

Keep that in mind and reread the previous posts. Then guess the age of the poster.

Trust me, the list will change as you mature no matter what's on it.

Keep that in mind and reread the previous posts. Then guess the age of the poster.

Ooh, ooh, guess my age!

Ooh, ooh, guess my age!Interesting but short post, still has a bit of a sexual inuendo. Under 30, mid to late twenties I'd say.

Interesting but short post, still has a bit of a sexual inuendo. Under 30, mid to late twenties I'd say.

21.

I guess I'm a tad more mature than I should be for my age?

21.

I guess I'm a tad more mature than I should be for my age?Don't get a big head, a post that short is hard to narrow down.

Don't get a big head, a post that short is hard to narrow down.

My head couldn't possibly get any bigger.

My head couldn't possibly get any bigger.Ok, that was a 21 year old's post.

What you want and what you get are usually diferent things.

Wants? Mindstaristan pretty much nailed it. It's also good if she's willing to share in taking on lifes chores (cooking, cleaning, shopping, taking out the trash, picking up the bill - shit work). Also, she has to buy her own damnned feminine products and not get pissy about me not doing so. Buying tampons are right the fuck out!

I do not want a spoiled brat. Been there, done that. The sex could never be good enough to put up with that shit ever again. Also can't stand a jealous psycho hose-beast. Problem with this one is you don't generally find out ther're like this until it's way too late.

In the end, it's all about compatability, compromise, trust, and friendship. A girl who can give a good blow-job is always a bonus too. And, yes, there is such a thing as a bad blowjob. Stop sucking my dick? What an insane thing to have to say, but I've had to. It was the saddest day of my life.

Oh, yeah. I almost forgot. She can't get pissed off when I get back out of bed and go out to rant on the NS forums all night. God I love my woman! :D

Great body and amazing sex.
She shouldn't be a bitch, nor an obidient slave. Somewhere in between.
Not being better than me in anything manly, or hiding it from me if she is.
Be a good conversationalist.
Not be opposed to being a housewife to at least some degree.


I am 16, but I read a lot, and in some ways I am more mature than my age.
The requirements that i posted, are not for this time, but when i will be looking for a more permanent relationship.

"In Soviet Russia, sarcasm doesn't understand you!"


Waaahahaha. Ha. Oh man. Let's date.

Despite how obviously unimportant it is, nobody can really say that he's not attracted to somebody who's physically appealing. Fortunately, definitions of physically appealing vary greatly from person to person, and I, for some reason, eventually find myself physically attracted to every girl that I get to know on a personal level. That said, here's what's important to me.

Confidence. Nothing drives me crazy faster than a girl who frequently whines about being fat, ugly, and unpopular (with males and otherwise).

Displays of independent thought. I can't bear to look at a girl in brand-name clothing. I just can't see myself having an interesting conversation with her.

Assertiveness (but not controlling). I like a girl who can take care of her own needs. When she can't, I'd like her to say so. My first girlfriend held a grudge against me because I didn't take her to my high school prom. She was assertive enough to have her friend tell me that she wanted to go. If I'd had any desire to go to the prom, I would have asked her friend first.

Other than those, I can deal with just about anything, but I prefer girls who are interested in math/science/computers, enjoy outdoor activities and sports, are liberal (or, even better, Libertarian), are atheist, are good conversationalists, and/or are at least as smart as I am. I know, it's a lot to ask.

A nice, lovely, bright european girl with a beautiful voice who can play the cello or violin and enjoys music, food, learning, books and language as much as I do, or can be charming in putting up with it all. Preferably somone who understands and appreciates the beauty and innate perfection of every moment. Mainly because I dont care much for a worrywort or anyone who takes things too seriously.

What do men want?
Quite simply, to be fed and get laid.

Really, every man here can agree, they'd be happy with a woman if they can have sex with her, and she feeds him.

What do men want?
Quite simply, to be fed and get laid.

Really, every man here can agree, they'd be happy with a woman if they can have sex with her, and she feeds him.
I would get bored with a woman like that.

thats about as true as saying women just want a husband who is rich and handsome.

yes, sex is good. i want more than sex. and im a man. oh well, generalisations dont work.

A man's primary drive is for sex. (A woman's primary drive is for security, but that's a whole other thread).

Anyone who says otherwise is lying.

I would get bored with a woman like that.


Lol, so? I wasn't saying that's all men want. But that happens to be the only common ground between all ideas of what men want. Or at least the only common ground I've ever seen.

A man's primary drive is for sex. (A woman's primary drive is for security, but that's a whole other thread).

Anyone who says otherwise is lying.


Don't generalize me. I'm not a monkey.

A lot of things, most importantly, probably: Sexual Compensation (http://www.leasticoulddo.com/comics/comics4.php?date=20041129) (<= links to harmless but funny webcomic).

I want to have fun. Period.











and beer... mmmm beer

SEX!

Sex is the only thing men want, anyone whos says otherwise is a prissy homosexual.

SEX!

Sex is the only thing men want, anyone whos says otherwise is a prissy homosexual.
sex? what's sex?

sex, yes... but also other "important" qualities...
like a chick who smokes pot and likes good music (well thats my preference anyway)

SEX!

Sex is the only thing men want, anyone whos says otherwise is a prissy homosexual.
No it isn't. No I'm not.

I had a list of what I wanted. Then I found that I needed something else.

I needed someone who would tell me when I was wrong, Love me whatever, Let me take care of them But be able to take care of themselves. Respect me and demand respect back.

Looks - If she wasn't attractive I wouldn't have started dating her.

Sex didn't make the list. It's good but not a frequent as I might like it.

It's not perfect but we work, and were happy :fluffle:

I had a list of what I wanted. Then I found that I needed something else.

I needed someone who would tell me when I was wrong, Love me whatever, Let me take care of them But be able to take care of themselves. Respect me and demand respect back.

Looks - If she wasn't attractive I wouldn't have started dating her.

Sex didn't make the list. It's good but not a frequent as I might like it.

It's not perfect but we work, and were happy :fluffle:
Should get a prize this post.

I am confused about this sex thing everyone is talking about all the time...

I am confused about this sex thing everyone is talking about all the time...
Well, you see it's....or rather it's more...no that's not it, it's kind of....dammit!

I am confused about this sex thing everyone is talking about all the time...

It's kinda like olympic inter-gender wrestling, but it draws bigger crowds, and the man always seems lose - well at least in my experience.

I am confused about this sex thing everyone is talking about all the time...

Ok you see this is how it is, When a man really loves a woman, he takes his......... and places it.............. so you see then they.............. and then nine months later..........

I look first for intellect and creativity, then a decided lack of inhibitions, honesty, a deep need for affection, independence of attitude, an effort to keep herself in shape, etc.

After all I've been through in my life, I prefer a woman who has been through a lot herself and who has come out on top ... a winner ... someone with whom I can stand back to back in a fight to the finish and never have to worry about her abilities as a true warrior. God, I love women like that! Damn! :D

Chris Rock said it best. Feed me, fuck me, and leave me alone.

Personally, I look for a combination of things. Firstly, they've got to have a nice personality, cos the last thing you want is to find out you're dating some psychopathic bitch-queen of hell.

Second, sounding shallow, is looks. But, as seems to be a recurring theme, I'm not interested in "super-fit" girls. They, generally speaking, are the ones who turn out to be sluts or "one better" girls - the ones who dump you the second they get a slightly better offer, and then come crawling back when they realise it wasn't.

Third has got to be interests. A girl has got to be able to have a laugh and a joke, and not take life too seriously. Anyone whos up for going out clubbing, catching a movie, or just chilling watching England or GB get beaten at sport of any kind. Oh, and religion is fairly important. I'm an atheist, and dated a Christian for about a year. For that entire year, she kept trying to "show [me] the light". Suffice to say, that put me off any extremely religious girls.

-Intelligence for sure, I couldn't have a relationship longer then one week with someone who doesn't share my interest in science.
-Looks, can't deny it.
-A kind of adventurous spirit, like 'hey let's take the plane to tokyo next weekend' :)
-Never dated a religious nut, but if a girl would try to 'save my soul' I would probably run away screeming
-And eh, someone who doesn't want to change me..

Men also want women who will give them space when they need it, like, Saturday afternoon college football time. Some, certainly. I dont care about that timeframe. The best way I ever heard it phrased:

Most men want the same thing. They want a kind, caring, attentive, attractive, preferably faithful(monogomous, that is) mate who will just leave them alone.

I have no idea how married couples make it work. Only once have I intentionally moved in with a woman that I wound up involved with. I know all women aren't like her. At least, not in the extremes. She was an insecure, semi-shallow, neurotic mess who was terminally upset at life because it didn't match the bullshit fairytales she was told as a child.

Someone asked if anyone finds the rail-thin girls attractive: Hard to call. For me, I'll freely admit physical necessity. She must be appealing from the shoulders up, that's my #1 criteria. If I dont like what's above, I'll never go below. I dont care if her legs are the envy of every cheerleader in the world, if she's got a face like a pitbull. Demonstrating intelligence isn't mandatory, but she cannot display any blatant ingorance, either. I met a few that were damn cute, fun to be with, and not only grossly misinformed on things (basic, real-world and biological things), but refused to believe they could be wrong about them. I showed them to the door.

Stupid people shouldn't breed. There's days where I wonder if I fit in that qualifier, but I chose not to reproduce years ago, and I've only met 3 women in my entire life that would stand a chance of persuading me otherwise. They're smart enough that they wont. ;)

This is what I think guys want...

A woman who will let them be guys... Ya know watching sports, playing pool the occasional night out at the bar and us trusting that they won't be picking up some slut at the bar, if he is with you then he is with you.

A woman who is a lady in the streets and a porn star between she sheets... 'Nuff Said....

Someone who can stand up for herself but be willing to try a different way of doing things....

A woman who has enough sense to come in out of the rain....

Loyalty... Someone to back them up when the going gets tough... Even if it is just giving them a beer and an hr of TV when they get home from a sucky day....

For women to realize that them being quiet does not meant they do not care about you... Sometimes they just do not have anything to say... Or they are thinking about sports scores or the latest power tool or gadget they want... no big deal...

Yes? No?

What do men want?

Blowjobs and hookers.

i gotta say, man, i've got a thing for chicks in boxers....

And shaved pussies. I could lick a bald clam for hours.

This is what I think guys want...

A woman who will let them be guys... Ya know watching sports, playing pool the occasional night out at the bar and us trusting that they won't be picking up some slut at the bar, if he is with you then he is with you.

A woman who is a lady in the streets and a porn star between she sheets... 'Nuff Said....

Someone who can stand up for herself but be willing to try a different way of doing things....

A woman who has enough sense to come in out of the rain....

Loyalty... Someone to back them up when the going gets tough... Even if it is just giving them a beer and an hr of TV when they get home from a sucky day....

For women to realize that them being quiet does not meant they do not care about you... Sometimes they just do not have anything to say... Or they are thinking about sports scores or the latest power tool or gadget they want... no big deal...

Yes? No?
Hmmm! Not bad, not bad! Did you read my post above? Lots of similarities! :)

This is what I think guys want...

A woman who will let them be guys... Ya know watching sports, playing pool the occasional night out at the bar and us trusting that they won't be picking up some slut at the bar, if he is with you then he is with you.

A woman who is a lady in the streets and a porn star between she sheets... 'Nuff Said....

Someone who can stand up for herself but be willing to try a different way of doing things....

A woman who has enough sense to come in out of the rain....

Loyalty... Someone to back them up when the going gets tough... Even if it is just giving them a beer and an hr of TV when they get home from a sucky day....

For women to realize that them being quiet does not meant they do not care about you... Sometimes they just do not have anything to say... Or they are thinking about sports scores or the latest power tool or gadget they want... no big deal...

Yes? No?

Yes, that's pretty good. It doesn't fit me precisely, but I wouldn't expect it to do so.

What do men want?

Blowjobs and hookers.
Isn't blowjobs from hookers?

1. Personality
2. Intelligence
3. Looks

ok sry guys i know u probably dont want a womens point of view but ill give it dont listen if u dont want to. i think all guys truly want a nice chick who can cook a meal, take home to mom but when they get home do things that would make mommy dearest cringe. a girl whose not afriad to state her mind but still listen to u when u have ur own opinion. someone who wont freak out over the little thngs and isnt up tight. but all the guys who are true sleez balls screw that perseption up for u. ;)

What I want is everything in the right combination. If there is a highest priority, it would be faith in God, but I also want love, romance, honesty, sexuality, companionship, friendship, humor, beauty, intimacy, thoughtfullness, kindness, spirituality, devotion, faithfulness, loyalty, spontineity, humility, self-confidence, stability, compatibility, common interests and a few other things I haven't thought of at the moment. I really want all of that. Is my wife all of those things? No, but she's pretty close. The point is, we all want perfection and none of us are perfect. Then we grow together toward perfection.

Men also want women who will give them space when they need it, like, Saturday afternoon college football time.

What if the woman WATCHES saturday afternoon college football?

1. Personality
2. Intelligence
3. Looks

Ditto. I think that covers it all without being too specific. :D

I think maybe u all just want a chick who just wants u for u and will just plain be there

Letting me do her in the ass would be nice ;)

alot of guys think thats really gross i dont know y but they just do.

Wow, who woulda thought?

The same as the women thread, different people want different things!

It annoys the hell out of me when people attribute things to a collective, and use them to judge individuals.

How about: Just like Women, Men are all individuals and have different likes and dislikes?

Craig

If I said:
" A Bitch that knows her place..."
I'd be from the south, somewhere like Alabama.

If I said:
" I want a professional woman with her own views..."
I'd watch Ally McBeal and live somwhere near Boston.

If I said:
"Quiero una chica flaca y sexy, con un tremendo culo"
I'd be livin in Puerto Rico, which I do.

But Originally from the states, somewhere near Boston (RI, which is close), however since I don't watch Ally McBeal I say:
"I want a ncie girl with great personality and an even greater ass"

Sex, sex, and oh sex?

Most men are chauvenist pigs. My last boyfriend told me he was disappointed I wouldn't have sex with him. Obviously I dumped him right afterwards, but GOD. Can't you guys be a little...less shallow?

Chris Rock said it best. Feed me, fuck me, and leave me alone.

Chris Rock is awesome. But, you guys need to a) stop falling in love with yourself b) stop being so stupid and c) get over your penis.

Listen,
Where in my previous post did it say:
"Suck my dick" or
"hey, nice dress, but you know what woudl look better on you? ME"

I said personality for a reason, duh, I like a woman with depth. Great ass comes second which is why it is written second.

Also, women today think that no matter what a guy does it some how is part of the master plan to get in their pants. NEWS FLASH It's not. Some guys, like myself are kind. (and no I'm not gay)

Listen, America was founded on the principle that women had no rights, and we had an awesome country. In the 1960's bitches decided that they would be rebellious and try to get some rights, and when those high pussy ass men didn't slap them down, out country went to hell. Here's the deal ladies, what we want is simple:
1. STFU! We are right!
2. Make me a damn sandwich already, I'm hungry!
3. Don't forget the damn beer!
4. If your mouth is still open, then you might as well use it on my dick.
5. STFU! We are not, I repeat, NOT cuddling. Go make me another sandwich.

if u have an additude like that the only girls ull ever get are abused hoes sry but its true. u would never get a chick like me if u came at me like that.sry.

Wow, who woulda thought?

The same as the women thread, different people want different things!

It annoys the hell out of me when people attribute things to a collective, and use them to judge individuals.

How about: Just like Women, Men are all individuals and have different likes and dislikes?
I try to say the same thing, but either get ignored or told I don't know what the hell I'm talking about.

alot of guys think thats really gross i dont know y but they just do.
The responses I've usually gotten when I asked were that it's just plain funny. I don't really know what I think.

I have to find the person attractive for me to even think about anything else. That said if I found guys attractive then I do believe that I could have a relationship with one. I guess what I mean is that it's not about some universal attractiveness factor that some people have and others don't. Everyone has different tastes and that's what determines who they find attractive or not.

The person has to perceive the world in a way that is close to my perception of things. That's pretty all-encompassing really. Perception involves how you react to certain situations, how you come to conclusions when faced with different problems. How you construct your "reality". No two people perceive everything in the exact same way, or possibly not even one single thing, but general similarities make for a more stable relationship in the long run.

Along with that, they would have to be in the position to share time and space with me. I think people leave this out, maybe because it's a given requirement, but in the world today it's a lot easier to meet people from far away places. I've done . . . maybe still kinda doing . . . the long-distance thing. For me it's been a little too painful in numerous ways. I think that it's very possible to meet a person that you really love and want to be with, but have things turn out badly because of the separation. If the distance is only temporary then I think it's not so much of a big deal, but at some point I'd have to be with the person in person.

I think it's somewhat obvious to want someone to be faithful when it comes to an exclusive relationship. That's how I treat any relationship. It's also the only kind of relationship I would ever pursue so I would expect as much from my partner.

I'd definitely have to have someone who is sexually . . . adventurous? I'm not sure if that's the right word, but someone who is comfortable with sex and sexuality. Someone who knows what they like and who isn't afraid to try new things, even if only once. Adding to that I think that they have to at least like some of the things I like as well.

Lastly, and possibly the one thing that I really wouldn't compromise on, is someone who is open and truthful. I thrive on being able to communicate with people I'm involved with and if I don't have that or I feel like they're not being open with me then I tend to get frustrated. I also need someone who will be direct and assertive yet still understanding when it comes to getting me to be open and truthful as well. I tend to be somewhat stubborn in that regard, but I do learn. I just don't react well to the extremes of apathy or constant prying.

gnosticos- when u asked who? sry i must be tired lol.

gnosticos- when u asked who? sry i must be tired lol.
No, it hasn't been for quite a while. I gave up.

In Soviet Russia, sarcasm doesn't understand you!

Stealing taglines from Slashdot.org is no way to run a message board! :D

k so im gonna say what women want now. Well at least i want a nice guy whose funny dosent know how to cook and wont just go to sleep everynight . lol thats it.

its too bad you dont live where i do

Personality - i prefer a bit quiet, not quiet, and with who I can talk easily... And look is important too!

Hehehe, I'm pretty sure Soflguy is joking (and just trying to get a rise out of people who dont realise). If not, then he really does have some problems...

To everyone who got offended at what I wrote... calm down. I don't believe any of that. Let me tell you from my perspective. A girl has to be the following:
1. Cute... not stellar stunning or anything. I prefer the modest look... I think it is sooo much sexier than showing off your whole body.
2. Personality... If a guy sees you are cute then walks up to talk to you and you have the personality of a brick, hyena, lion, etc... you can expect he will just turn and walk away. Be able to laugh (at yourself and us) and dont be uptight, because that scares guys away (yes, most of us are easily scared away).
3. Intelligence... Please, do not tell me that Iran is what you did from a wierd guy last night. As stupid as that sounds... it has happened.
And, finally, above all... BE YOURSELF!! We are trying, so you do the same. And if we say something stupid because were a LOT more nervous than we look, dont laugh at us, just be glad were at least giving it a shot.

I don't know what men want, really. I guess that's why I'm not much of one anymore...

LOL

affection :)

this sux y is it there are really great guys on here but none of them live in my town or any town i've lived in. i really want to meet a nice but funny guy whose not scared to be him self. one thats not scared of a little intamacy too.

Originally Posted by The Roxburry
"alot of guys think thats really gross i dont know y but they just do."

I suspect it has more to do with how oral an individual is, but I don't know for sure. The best approach is to be prepared to do whatever your partner truly enjoys.

I've always had this rule for myself that ill try anything once within reason and if i like it ill try it again.

everything!



...and more

So how many people have actually met somone who met their standards?

Actually, I have. My standards aren't impossibly high, because I'm not impossibly high either. Can't expect gold if your copper.

Yes. If you can't live up to your standards: lower them :D

i can truthfully say i have met one guy who is but there's no possibility of him and i ever getting together so im on the hunt i dont know y its so hard i dont have really high standards.

Am I the only one who's not looking for anything specific? Physically attractive, yes, but I've found many different types of people physically attractive. Intelligent, yes, but if they're not a rocket scientist that's okay too. I think my only make-or-break criterion is "Did you like the movie Say Anything?"

i can truthfully say i have met one guy who is but there's no possibility of him and i ever getting together so im on the hunt i dont know y its so hard i dont have really high standards.

Maybe it's the places you are looking??

thats probably true im not really a very good girl so i dont hang out in the best places to find a good guy.

thats probably true im not really a very good girl so i dont hang out in the best places to find a good guy.

I wouldn't presume to make a value judgment about whether or not you are good, bad or otherwise, but in my experience most people go to bars and clubs looking to find companions. What that means, at the very least, is that you have limited your choices to the type of people who frequent bars. Plus an occasional person who goes to a bar to see a game because he has no cable or something like that.

Anyway, you might consider libraries, churches, community volunteer organizations, bookstore/coffeehouses. Obviously there are no gaurentees no matter where you go looking, but you might increase your odds of finding what you are looking for.

1. Personality
2. Intelligence
3. Looks

Yep, that's pretty accurate uh... in a general kind of way.

Or

k so im gonna say what women want now. Well at least i want a nice guy whose funny dosent know how to cook and wont just go to sleep everynight . lol thats it.
Yay, I'm a nice insomniac(sp) who can't cook, Will you have my babies!

thats probably true im not really a very good girl....
Excuse me, but haven't we met somewhere before? :)

So how many people have actually met somone who met their standards?
I have. Married her, as a matter of fact. Then after about 25 years of marriage, both of our standards changed. Se la vie. :)

if u have an additude like that the only girls ull ever get are abused hoes sry but its true. u would never get a chick like me if u came at me like that.sry.

Are the vowel keys on your keyboard missing?

Eutrusca- maybe im not sure ;)

I did not read all the post but I find it all amusing. We are all stating what we want in a woman.
should it not be said that each person likes diffrent things. and in order to know what men really want. would be a list of over several things times the appox. 3billion males on the planet.
let us all agree that when we find diffrent things on diffrent people attractive.

maybe u should all admit what u want is me and ill find a way to work it out lol j/k

maybe u should all admit what u want is me and ill find a way to work it out lol j/k

that, and a peanut butter and jelly sandwich

a pb&j is an insult to my cooking skills i could do a 3 course meal instead

a pb&j is an insult to my cooking skills i could do a 3 course meal instead

I think you missed the point, darlin...

I think i did also id make a great blonde lol

I think i did also id make a great blonde lol

You shouldn't insult blondes you know......

theres 2 different types of blondes the personality and the hair color

If you're coming to the NationStates forum to pick someone up, you're either cheap or desperate.

Although I'm not above adultery, I've learned to make better choices in partners.

I'm sure, Roxy, that you'll find what you're looking for if you hang it out long enough. Worked for me in my youth, but then again, more than a few mistakes were made.

theres 2 different types of blondes the personality and the hair color

"Blonde" is not a personality, its a hair colour. "Ditzy" is the word you're looking for.

"I think i did also id make a great ditz lol" would probably be more appropriate :).

Not to be mean, just kind of a silly little thing that gets on my nerves.

Ok, I'm a married woman, but I'll put in my two cents on what it SEEMS like men want, drawing from personal experience and talks with girlfriends.

Men want someone who is generally upbeat. Not bouncy-hyper, but guys seem to hate the kind of girl who is always having a bad day for no reason etc. A guy might get sucked into the negative girl vortex for a while, especially if the sex is good, but eventually he figures out that it's just too draining and there are normal girls out there.

Men want someone who can flirt. Guys like to be flirted with, especially in ways that make them feel good about themselves. Even 'macho' guys that seem really full of themselves want a girl that makes them feel really special. Flirting is best done subtly, and packs alot of punch if you do it in front of his male friends. The flipside of this is that the fastest way to turn a guy off is to insult him in front of other men.

Men don't want a 'high maintenance' woman, nor do they want a no-maintenance woman. High maintenance girl is alot like bad day girl. She's draining and depressing to be around. But, that doesn't mean you get to be totally independent either. A man's gotta feel needed.

Healthy, clean and groomed. OK, this is the looks part, it probably should be at the top. Different guys like different thngs, but most all guys (except some wierd fetishists) like a woman that is healthy...so not really thin, but not obese either. They want her to be clean...in the US that usuallly means shaved too (at least armpits and legs) smelling nice, smooth skin, clean, trimmed nails, nice teeth. She needs to be groomed, that is, she needs to look like she takes care of herself. Some guys like makeup, some don't, but it nees to look like you made some effort instead of looking like you just rolled out of bed with a hangover. As for physical stature, its a very individual thing. Most guys I've talked to are creeped out by visible ribcage, but aren't much for real fatties either. Breasts are good, hips are good (very biological, these men...they want someone who looks like she can breed and feed) a butt is sometimes good. It takes a special guy to go for a chick with bigger biceps than him. Some muscle is good, lots is bad. That about wraps it up.

Guys, feel free to correct me if I have it all wrong :)

Brandvin

Eutrusca- maybe im not sure ;)
ROFL! Well, then we've obviously never met, 'cause you would remember it. :D

Men just want enough money and or power to buy a woman, and like Ted DiBiasi said, "Everybody's got a price."

Upbeat girl, yes.
Normal, yes.
Good sex - well, some guys don't know what good sex is until much later.
I hate flirting. I hate girls who flirt. And I'm not full of myself.
High maintenance sucks. Somewhere in the middle, yes.
Yes on the grooming, but a lot of guys don't wash themselves well, so you'll have to hold them to it.

Sorry Guys but u do think about it to much along with football.
:( u really should pay more attention 2 us women :D we really are wot u want and where would be without us !

Sorry Guys but u do think about it to much along with football.
:( u really should pay more attention 2 us women :D we really are wot u want and where would be without us !

I don't follow any sports. Of any kind. And although I married a woman (and I love women), I've also been with men and love them as well.

So there.

Ok, I'm a married woman, but I'll put in my two cents on what it SEEMS like men want, drawing from personal experience and talks with girlfriends.
I'm going to make a Flaw Pie out of this. :D

Men want someone who is generally upbeat.
No, I don't.
Not bouncy-hyper, but guys seem to hate the kind of girl who is always having a bad day for no reason etc.
There are always reasons.


Men want someone who can flirt.
Nah.

Guys like to be flirted with, especially in ways that make them feel good about themselves.
No, I don't.

Flirting is best done subtly, and packs alot of punch if you do it in front of his male friends.
Now I feel physically sick.

The flipside of this is that the fastest way to turn a guy off is to insult him in front of other men.
I think I fell in love with my soul-mate the first time she called me "an arrogant little bitch" in front of all of her friends. :D

Men don't want a 'high maintenance' woman, nor do they want a no-maintenance woman. High maintenance girl is alot like bad day girl. She's draining and depressing to be around. But, that doesn't mean you get to be totally independent either. A man's gotta feel needed.
I have no idea what you're on about. "High-maintenance"? What are you, machines?

Healthy, clean and groomed.
I'm a bit of a hygiene freak...fortunately so is my partner.

Different guys like different things
I think this may be the only part of your post that I can agree with.

Appearance is important, in the sense that a female should not make you cringe to look at her. She should also care about her appearance and make an effort to look cute. It's amazing what a female's attitude about herself can do. If she (even subconsciously) thinks that she is attractive, then she is much more likely to be attractive (end vice versa).

A quality female must also have a good personality. This includes being able to be serious when appropriate and to relax and have fun when appropriate. A female should also possess some level of intelligence (this especially includes common sense), very dumb girls tend to frustrate guys.

This hardly needs to be said, but most guys will be more attracted to girls who they know are attracted to them. There are always exceptions, but if a guy knows he has no chance with one girl, but another girl has her eye on him, he will tend to be more attracted to the second one. Also, everything is a competition to a guy, so if a couple of guys are attracted to and trying to win a single girl, then it is likely that other guys will be attracted to her (whether or not they realize this).

I can only speak for myself, but I have observed that this is the case a lot of times.

U know theres not much else for me to put in here except that i think all guys do think about sex a lot but still want a decent girl. and so im out bye guys.

Men want a woman that can see the pleasure in the art of equality. I think women may want this as well?