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im wondering how many people out there can actually put their hand up and say "im happy" - not just right now but generally, reflecting on your life in general.

Happiness is a choice you can make irrespective of circumstances.

No, I came out of hospital a few hours ago after an operation so a big fat no from me!

No, I came out of hospital a few hours ago after an operation so a big fat no from me!
You seem to be still living. This is a plus, yes? :)

You seem to be still living. This is a plus, yes? :)
What makes you think i'm living? Honestly, why do people always jump to conclusions?

Yeap, I am happy. I've been particularly very happy of late too. :D

I am always happy.....

or hung over

I don't believe anyone can be truly happy, and as such, voted no.

I am truly happy... sumtimes i get down but honestly i do have a form of happiness deep down inside of me :) i was especially happy 2day 2... 4 no reason... i just was... it was soooo much fun

I don't believe anyone can be truly happy, and as such, voted no.
im going with this
interesting: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3532572.stm seeing as most of us appear to be teenagers (or 'young adults') according to http://forums2.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=377929

I'm just not doing what I want at the moment, so I can't be happy. Soon, though, my plan will come to fruition, mwahahahahahaHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

I don't believe anyone can be truly happy, and as such, voted no.
Anyone can be truly unhappy?

Happiness is highly over-rated, but it's nice while it lasts. :D

Yes i think that some people r truly unhappy 2... :(

Happiness... it is a fictional word to appease children.

Happiness... it is a fictional word to appease children.

So am i now a child just because i believe in happiness? is it like believing in Santa Claus or something... if so i don care i am quite happy living believing it...

Happiness... it is a fictional word to appease children.
Like "shut up, you stupid brat"?

Like "shut up, you stupid brat"?

No, more like, "You look like you need a lift home. Would you like a sweetie?"

Well im 24 now and i can honestly say its been living hell so ive voted no basicly cause its been miserable for me 90% of the time so far. (and no theres no such thing as choosing to be happy regardless of circumstances :rolleyes: )

How things will be in the future i cant be certain.

I spent my childhood wrapped in cotton... So when I entered secondary education, I was exposed to hell... I lost the ability to smile, and it has been at least 7 years scince I last gave a real smile.

I spent my childhood wrapped in cotton... So when I entered secondary education, I was exposed to hell... I lost the ability to smile, and it has been at least 7 years scince I last gave a real smile.

awww... well life hasnt been like that 4 me... im in secondary school n and i was smiling (properly) all day...

im in secondary school n and i was smiling (properly) all day...

good for you (not sarcasm). ive been sitting here thinking what a worthless tub of shit i am today, which is why i started this thread.
anyway, here's another interesting one if anyones readin em http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3877327.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3066065.stm

No, more like, "You look like you need a lift home. Would you like a sweetie?"
*takes notes*
Any other suggestions?

Well im 24 now and i can honestly say its been living hell so ive voted no basicly cause its been miserable for me 90% of the time so far. (and no theres no such thing as choosing to be happy regardless of circumstances :rolleyes: )

How things will be in the future i cant be certain.
Well, I'm 61 now and I can honestly say that I've been through seven different kinds of hell and 1/2 of Georgia in my life, but I voted "yes" because I've learned that happiness, like love, is a decision you make and not something outside you which controls you without any volition on your part.

:)

"Happiness" is an over-used term. I feel that there are few people who are genuinely happy. Also however very few people are genuinely unhappy. There is the vast majority of people in between who have what is called "contentment". This is the group of people who are overall happy with life but who wouldn't mind a new car, job or a nice holiday etc.

"Contentment" is much more common than "happiness".

good for you (not sarcasm). ive been sitting here thinking what a worthless tub of shit i am today, which is why i started this thread.
anyway, here's another interesting one if anyones readin em http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3877327.stm http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3066065.stm

For gods sake... they've got a gene for everything! Next they'll find the Legless Pirates gene!

For gods sake... they've got a gene for everything! Next they'll find the Legless Pirates gene!
lol

"Happiness" is an over-used term. I feel that there are few people who are genuinely happy. Also however very few people are genuinely unhappy. There is the vast majority of people in between who have what is called "contentment". This is the group of people who are overall happy with life but who wouldn't mind a new car, job or a nice holiday etc.

"Contentment" is much more common than "happiness".
Why settle? Determining your own happiness does not depend upon how much money you make, or whether you have a new car, or a better job, or whether you can take a holiday or not.

Why settle? Determining your own happiness does not depend upon how much money you make, or whether you have a new car, or a better job, or whether you can take a holiday or not.

I agree. I was merely making a social observation, not justifying it.

I'm happy. I used to be quite miserable but the last 6-7 years I've been really quite cheerful :D

For gods sake... they've got a gene for everything! Next they'll find the Legless Pirates gene!
The lab called: you're infected

I'm happy. I used to be quite miserable but the last 6-7 years I've been really quite cheerful :D
What changed?

I'm in the fragile state of being almost happy, so I could go either way without notice.

What changed?
He got pubes :D

He got pubes :D
ROFLMAO!!! Um ... no comment! :D

I'm in the fragile state of being almost happy, so I could go either way without notice.
Which direction you take is entirely up to you.

What changed?
I got too busy to be introspective anymore and one day I woke up and thought "wow, I'm happy, when did that happen?". Fortunately I was too busy to think about it to much and before long I forgot to be suprised about it.

I got too busy to be introspective anymore and one day I woke up and thought "wow, I'm happy, when did that happen?". Fortunately I was too busy to think about it to much and before long I forgot to be suprised about it.
Too much introspection will do that sometimes. Don't lose your sense of wonder. :)

Too much introspection will do that sometimes. Don't lose your sense of wonder. :)
Get no argument from me! I spend alot of time going 'wow, how cool is that' at the world. Makes the place much more interesting, although you do have to put up with people giving you funny looks :D

Yes, I am happy. Though had you asked me this time yesterday, I'd've said no, I'm miserable as sin. Whether you believe it or not, things really can change that quickly.

Yes, I am happy. Though had you asked me this time yesterday, I'd've said no, I'm miserable as sin. Whether you believe it or not, things really can change that quickly.
Having a good day then? Cool.

Ach. Ha! Gut time, er, gut afternoon.

Which direction you take is entirely up to you.

Yeah it's taken me a while to realise this, but I know what I want, I have a plan, and I'm putting it into action: all signs point to -> :D

Get no argument from me! I spend alot of time going 'wow, how cool is that' at the world. Makes the place much more interesting, although you do have to put up with people giving you funny looks :D
( shrug ) F**k 'em if they can't take a joke! :D

Yeah it's taken me a while to realise this, but I know what I want, I have a plan, and I'm putting it into action: all signs point to -> :D
And if your plan falls through??

( shrug ) F**k 'em if they can't take a joke! :D
:sniper: :D

:sniper: :D
LOL! It was a figure of speech! It was a figure of speech! Don't SHOOT 'em! LOL!

LOL! It was a figure of speech! It was a figure of speech! Don't SHOOT 'em! LOL!
Too happy to kill, maybe some flesh wounds though, that wouldn't spoil the mood...mwuahahaha

Too happy to kill, maybe some flesh wounds though, that wouldn't spoil the mood...mwuahahaha
Your Horrorscope: Happy, but demented! :D

Your Horrorscope: Happy, but demented! :D
Its oh so true I fear...

Its oh so true I fear...
Not a problem! Just look at it this way ... not only will you remain happy, but people will leave you the hell alone! LOL!

Not a problem! Just look at it this way ... not only will you remain happy, but people will leave you the hell alone! LOL!
Ah, perfect, it'll save me the effort of depopulating the surrounding area :D
BTW, did you know that deliberately smiling even when you are miserable actually makes you happier! How cool is that? We got built in happy pills!

And if your plan falls through??

The beauty of my plans is they are simple, very small scale, and nuemerous. I don't have deluded grand plans such as 'write a best selling novel' or 'get a date with Miss. X', I have simpler short term goals such as catching up with old friends, trying new things, and run a half marathon (which I am training for just now).

I read from somewhere, someone said that

"Happiness is based on control". The more control you have of your life, the more happy you are.

If your life is spinning out of control, exp: Your grades are dropping, your parents are fighting, your sister is hitting, your GF is cheating.

Your most likely not going to be happy.

Nobody can trully be absolutely happy.

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As for me, I'm relatively happy, though my life is taking a new turn with uni decisions, plus financial uncertainties with parents deeply in debt from a failed business.

I'm not in control with most of my future, but hey, I'm at least happy that I got a roof, nice bed to sleep on, and I'm healthy as an ox. And with my beliefs that 'God is in total control'. I have to say i'm happy.

*Though I accidentally voted for 'no', which I can't redo. I'm not happy about that*

I read from somewhere, someone said that

"Happiness is based on control". The more control you have of your life, the more happy you are.
Personally speaking I found not trying to be in control of everything and just getting on with it did it for me.

Personally speaking I found not trying to be in control of everything and just getting on with it did it for me.


So your in Control with yourself for not wasting time on what you can't (?) :D

I guess happiness cannot be summed in a sentence then. :p

So your in Control with yourself for not wasting time on what you can't (?) :D

I guess happiness cannot be summed in a sentence then. :p
Sounds good to me! :D

I read from somewhere, someone said that

"Happiness is based on control". The more control you have of your life, the more happy you are.

If your life is spinning out of control, exp: Your grades are dropping, your parents are fighting, your sister is hitting, your GF is cheating.

Your most likely not going to be happy.

Nobody can trully be absolutely happy.

There are a great deal of people, myself included, who seem to enjoy the struggle caused by being out of control. It isn't intentional for the most part.

It has a great deal to do with procrastination, and is a subconscious reaction to the rush a person feels with solving problems.

These individuals will always be putting themselves in problematic situations and probably are never satisfied with their present situations. They are bored when things are good, and generally unhappy when things are interesting. So in effect are never really truely happy.

I'm happier than i've ever been, but not quite there yet

I'm happy, and when I think about it, a lot of people have it worse than me and don't complain either. Happiness is relative, and if you decide you're happy, then you are.

I don't know if I want to get serious this early in the thread, but I'm afraid I subscribe to Schopenhauer's theory on the world and happiness in general.

Although, reading his essays did actually make me feel a bit happier

A wise person once told me:
"If you want to be happy for a day-get married."
"If you want to be happy for 2 days, kill your pig and eat it"
"If you want to be happy for life-learn to fish" :cool:

I haven't been unhappy for years, whenever something happens that might make me unhappy then I just think, "Hey doesn't bother me what they think, just as long as they say it behind my back. Then ill get them back later in life."

Don't worry, be happy.

I'm always happy, :). Even when I'm stressed or sick, or I've had a bad day at work. I realize that I have a great life, and don't let the little things get me down (or the big things for that matter). I figure if I'm happy then maybe it will be contagious, and the next person I meet might have a better day! And I totally disagree with you Tuesday Heights, lots of people can be truly happy, if you know what you want, and you actually try and get/do the things that make you happy, then you CAN be truly happy.