NationStates Jolt Archive

hi i'm new and all to the nationstaes game.

this will probably be my 1st of many posts here, but here goes:

my parents fight. while its not as often as one would expect, the fights they do get into SUCK! it's been the same for all my life; i can remember it from when i was as young as three (and i'm now in highschool).

their fighting had gone and f---ed up a lot of vacations weve taken, part of my home life, and ruined a couple milestones in my life (when i graduated from middleschool like five minutes into leaving the school they got into some dumb fight). and there always seems to be a fight whenever my dad leaves right before a business trip

they claim they wont ever divorce but im getting really cynical about it

ive given up on getting advice or trust from either of my parents, and i cant even go to any of my closest friends about it because i dont want people to know they're fighting.

i know that the fighting isnt due to my actions (as a bunch of kids who have parents fighting blame themselves) but i need an outlet to express this to :headbang:

hi i'm new and all to the nationstaes game.

this will probably be my 1st of many posts here, but here goes:

my parents fight. while its not as often as one would expect, the fights they do get into SUCK! it's been the same for all my life; i can remember it from when i was as young as three (and i'm now in highschool).

their fighting had gone and f---ed up a lot of vacations weve taken, part of my home life, and ruined a couple milestones in my life (when i graduated from middleschool like five minutes into leaving the school they got into some dumb fight). and there always seems to be a fight whenever my dad leaves right before a business trip

they claim they wont ever divorce but im getting really cynical about it

ive given up on getting advice or trust from either of my parents, and i cant even go to any of my closest friends about it because i dont want people to know they're fighting.

i know that the fighting isnt due to my actions (as a bunch of kids who have parents fighting blame themselves) but i need an outlet to express this to :headbang:
I know this is small comfort, but this isn't an unusual circumstance at all. Many married couples will argue, sometimes vociferously. Where the problem comes in is if they have loud arguments almost every day, or if there is some sort of physical violence or psychological/emotional abuse. If this is the case, you should talk to your school guidance counselor ( if you trust them ), or call one of the many "help" lines. There are quite a few of these around for teens and you might want to check the directory for any within your area or State.

In any event, you should find someone you trust with whom you can discuss this, just for your own peace of mind. The hazard for you is that you may unconsciously repeat this problem in any long-term relationships you have as you become an adult. I'm sure you don't want this, but it can be very difficult to guard against.

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