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Sorry to those that aren't. I just broke up with my girlfriend because I found out she decided to sleep with her ex while he was down here for a weekend.

Again, I apologize to those girls that actually are faithful. Just me ranting.

Well just break up with her and then a few years down the line maybe you will score with her again and ruin some other guy's life. Just don't be a baby about it and whine to everybody like you are doing right now or everyone will think you are a loser.

So are guys. It happens.

Oh man, that sucks. First of all, good job breaking up with her, just don't go running back should you get lonely (you know it happens). Second, go get drunk and forget about her for a night. Third, calm down and don't insult the entire gender! :p

Be happy you dumped her now and not several ex-boyfriend-lovers later AND before you caught some STD from her. She'll get hers. Don't worry.

*pats*

At least you found out early. Imagine if you hadn't found out until after marrying her, or something awful like that.

Now you can move on and find someone who *doesn't* suck.

sorry to hear that

well I still say you find someone who sucks though

that way you know you wont be dissapointed


(take that anyway you want cuz it works on more than one level)

only on NS do I get answers like this. I love you guys (and girls)! :)

Men, women, old, young...we are all lying sluts. The trick is to get in touch with your inner lying slut and feel good about it.

Men, women, old, young...we are all lying sluts. The trick is to get in touch with your inner lying slut and feel good about it.
Erm... what about those of us who are virgins? :p

Erm... what about those of us who are virgins? :p

Wanna be lying sluts.

Sorry to those that aren't. I just broke up with my girlfriend because I found out she decided to sleep with her ex while he was down here for a weekend.

Again, I apologize to those girls that actually are faithful. Just me ranting.
You got off lightly, my friend - My first girlfriend was the maddest bitch on God's own earth;

- While I was going out with her, she went off several times with other guys.
- When I went to see her (she lived about 100 miles away) she got her dates messed up and one of her other blokes turned up while I was there.
- She accused me of 'being like my (violent, now dead) dad' for taking offence to this and walking away. I never raised my voice to her, let alone a hand.
- Started a hate campaign against me that lost me a good half-dozen friends when I finally did leave her. She continues to stalk me to this day.
- Whenever she talks to any of the girls I now know, her tales about me are getting progressively more Hollywood-style terrible. I'm surprised I'm not being cast as a murdering baby-rapist by her by now. Unfortunately for her most people know about her ever-increasing madness by now.

That was my first girlfriend, too - no wonder I was scared off relationships for more than a year. Mad bitch.

Be thankful you got out now - I hung on for far too long thinking I could get my ex past her problems and just ended up hurting myself more into the bargain. It sounds stupid, but it's better to do it like a band-aid - straight off. It stings like hell, but it's much better than dragging it out in the hope she'll change - people like that don't change.

You got off lightly, my friend - My first girlfriend was the maddest bitch on God's own earth;

- While I was going out with her, she went off several times with other guys.
- When I went to see her (she lived about 100 miles away) she got her dates messed up and one of her other blokes turned up while I was there.
- She accused me of 'being like my (violent, now dead) dad' for taking offence to this and walking away. I never raised my voice to her, let alone a hand.
- Started a hate campaign against me that lost me a good half-dozen friends when I finally did leave her. She continues to stalk me to this day.
- Whenever she talks to any of the girls I now know, her tales about me are getting progressively more Hollywood-style terrible. I'm surprised I'm not being cast as a murdering baby-rapist by her by now. Unfortunately for her most people know about her ever-increasing madness by now.

That was my first girlfriend, too - no wonder I was scared off relationships for more than a year. Mad bitch.

Be thankful you got out now - I hung on for far too long thinking I could get my ex past her problems and just ended up hurting myself more into the bargain. It sounds stupid, but it's better to do it like a band-aid - straight off. It stings like hell, but it's much better than dragging it out in the hope she'll change - people like that don't change.

Wow, I'm sorry. I've generally had good relationships, but this one went a bit out there. I have a friend you could talk to who could do a really good job of shutting your ex up. You should have seen what he did to his last girlfriend. She lied about being raped to date him (round 3) and he completely detsroyed her when he found out.

You know what would really show her? Going and having sex with many beautiful women, all at once. That would really put her in her place.

Oh man, that sucks. First of all, good job breaking up with her, just don't go running back should you get lonely (you know it happens). Second, go get drunk and forget about her for a night. Third, calm down and don't insult the entire gender! :p

Fourth, sleep with her best friend.

Fourth, sleep with her best friend.
You set the bar too low. Best friend AND sister... or mother if she's sisterless. Brother? (Worth it for the horror factor)

Wanna be lying sluts.
Gee... thanks... :p

You set the bar too low. Best friend AND sister... or mother if she's sisterless. Brother? (Worth it for the horror factor)

Best friend, sister, mother. Together.

Wow, I'm sorry. I've generally had good relationships, but this one went a bit out there. I have a friend you could talk to who could do a really good job of shutting your ex up. You should have seen what he did to his last girlfriend. She lied about being raped to date him (round 3) and he completely detsroyed her when he found out.
You couldn't get through to my ex if you had a sledgehammer.
She lied to me about her mate being run over (didn't happen), her supposedly stabbing the guy who did it (didn't happen)... supposed arrests, supposed injuries, supposed court cases... (this is before, during and after we were together - we split up last September and the last story I got fed was in about August this year). She's now utterly convinced herself that she's right over any man. Here's a few more things:

- She quit college because the male teachers corrected her. That's what teachers are supposed to do when you're wrong, but she was having none of it.
- She thinks it's perfectly reasonable for her to go off and shag as many men as she wants provided her current 'boyfriend' doesn't find out, but I once went shopping with a female friend of mine and she went psycho for 3 days.
- She's been known to turn the TV off should anything praising men over women be on, and then sulk for hours - and to videotape anything about women being better than men to quote at anyone she can find who'll listen.

I've got many tales of further nutterage from her in categories ranging from diet to TV habits to hygiene. Her psyche is a psychologist's dream, and something I'd have been deeply interested in plumbing had I not had an emotional interest in her which blinded me (for a while) to the utter madness involved.

Some people think they had a bad first relationship... (not lessening the hurt you must feel - at least I already had the first inklings mine was utterly barmy by the time the real evilness started, presumably you didn't have that).

Gee... thanks... :p

I still like you:)

tough, but I think we could get her.

Best friend, sister, mother. Together.
I like the way you think. Also, you left out the brother. Too much?

I like the way you think. Also, you left out the brother. Too much?

I'm assuming BLARG is a heterosexual male. If I am incorrect, I will append the suggestion.

I know all about the psycho ex thing, I went out with this one girl who lied to me about everything even her family (her mother was raped by, split up with and had the same man die at 3 seperate occasions(her father) )
second of all, she was loaded (her family owns several hotels) and she paid for nothing at all, she didnt even offer (I believe in equality, none of the B.S. "The man should pay" crap, not my fault I wasnt born rich)
third, she would tell me how hot other guys were (if I did so much as look at an attractive woman, she'd go insane)
lastly, she told me she had brain cancer, and was cutting herself so that I'd get back together with her

it made me swear off of insane girls forever
my advice to guys who meet someone like that: Stay the hell away!

and my advice to the guy with the psycho ex, subscribe her to dirty magazines, and "Accidentally" e-mail pictures of yourself having sex with other women to her, even if you're photoshopped in...

and my advice to the guy with the psycho ex, subscribe her to dirty magazines, and "Accidentally" e-mail pictures of yourself having sex with other women to her, even if you're photoshopped in...
Haha, well I already know she has a burning hatred of any woman I even speak to, even now... Jealousy is a wonderful thing, but understandable as my current ladyfriend is funny, attractive and frighteningly intelligent whereas she's a boring, pale blob who, due to refusing to learn anything from any man since she was about 9 and the prevalance of male teachers, is as thick as pig-shite.

That'll teach her for being a bitch.

I am the lying slut though. I'm a guy but for relatiosnhips are about the chase, once I'm dating a girl it's no fun.

I still like you:)Awww, yay! :D :fluffle:

whereas she's a boring, pale blob who, due to refusing to learn anything from any man since she was about 9 and the prevalance of male teachers, is as thick as pig-shite.There's simply got to be some kind of explanation for this girl, even if it's one that would never drive most people to this extreme... I did know a lady once, who was raped, and subsequently couldn't manage to speak to a man. She was a nice girl, but incredibly damaged by the experience that wasn't in any way her fault. No, she wasn't psycho like in this case, just unable to interact with men anymore. I really felt for her.

I just really think there must be some kind of explanation for this psychoticness...

:fluffle:

I like the way you think.:D

Go on a tequila binge and wake up three days later in a gutter having shagged your way through as many slutty hookers as you can afford with all your cash and credit cards gone, a liver the size of Texas, memory loss and covered in vomit. It's all up from there. As a bonus you can get to go on Dr. Phil and whinge/play victim and be subjected to inane self-help "psychology".

Yep this is the place to winge bout all the x's.
Women, cant live with them, cant live without them. You all know its true :P

Yep this is the place to winge bout all the x's.
Women, cant live with them, cant live without them. You all know its true :P

Yeah, that is very true, but the same goes for guys as well...

Luckily I've never been in the situation of having to deal with a crazy ex... but I did have a boyfriend cheat on me... and he told me every dirty detail about what they did, all of a week after we broke up...

We're really good friends now, luckily we were both mature enough to not let a rotten relationship ruin the friendship... but I still get every dirty detail... (I don't mind that much, I don't feel any jealously or anything)
We're both with new partners and very happy with them, and are happy for each other... we even turn to each other for advice at times :P

*Rolls his eyes.*

Revenge will get you no where, hopefully when you wake up tomorrow you'll realize that. Just get yourself over it as soon as possible and don't dwell on these things.

I'm sure your former girlfriend just made one mistake and probably can hardly be labeled a 'slut' for it -- she may even be sorry for it. But whatever. Forgive her and move on, forgive.

I'm assuming BLARG is a heterosexual male.

Bingo.

I'm assuming BLARG is a heterosexual male. If I am incorrect, I will append the suggestion.
Now, why should silly labels like "heterosexual" define people? In the cause of revenge, all personality traits are null and void.

Maybe you should even try to stay friends with her.

Maybe you should even try to stay friends with her.
Funniest.....post.....ever!

*Rolls his eyes.*

Revenge will get you no where, hopefully when you wake up tomorrow you'll realize that. Just get yourself over it as soon as possible and don't dwell on these things.

I'm sure your former girlfriend just made one mistake and probably can hardly be labeled a 'slut' for it -- she may even be sorry for it. But whatever. Forgive her and move on, forgive.

Shhh, threesomes cure all that ails ya'. I'm not advocating sleeping with all those people for revenge, but for their own inherent values.

Forgive the poor girl. She obviously accidentally fell on the man's penis.

Funniest.....post.....ever!

I'm just saying you have to be mature about these things. Why waste your time hating somebody's guts over something so trivial (trivial IMO anyway). You just have to be strong and not dwell on this stuff.

It's much better to forgive than go out of your way to despise a person and make life hell for them -- at least when it's something so minor like this. We all have our faults, after all -- not a soul can claim to be perfect. We all have 'stuffed up' from time to time and more often than not we regret our mistakes.

It is understandle that you're hurt and upset, especially if you loved her but don't hate her. Just hate what she did.

I'm just saying you have to be mature about these things. Why waste your time hating somebody's guts over something so trivial (trivial IMO anyway). You just have to be strong and not dwell on this stuff.

It's much better to forgive than go out of your way to despise a person and make life hell for them -- at least when it's something so minor like this. We all have our faults, after all -- not a soul can claim to be perfect. We all have 'stuffed up' from time to time and more often than not we regret our mistakes.

It is understandle that you're hurt and upset, especially if you loved her but don't hate her. Just hate what she did.


Write her out of your life completely. Dont bear a grudge or go out of your way to be mean....just simply ignore her.

I'm just saying you have to be mature about these things. Why waste your time hating somebody's guts over something so trivial (trivial IMO anyway). You just have to be strong and not dwell on this stuff.

It's much better to forgive than go out of your way to despise a person and make life hell for them -- at least when it's something so minor like this. We all have our faults, after all -- not a soul can claim to be perfect. We all have 'stuffed up' from time to time and more often than not we regret our mistakes.

It is understandle that you're hurt and upset, especially if you loved her but don't hate her. Just hate what she did.

Real maturity is just never speaking to your exes ( sp- ?) ever. Just ignore them completely and refuse to acknowledge they even exist. That way both parties can get on with their lives.

Sorry to those that aren't. I just broke up with my girlfriend because I found out she decided to sleep with her ex while he was down here for a weekend.

Again, I apologize to those girls that actually are faithful. Just me ranting.

I'd be ironic and cruel and buy parting gifts for them as a couple to open together. Like what, you say? A pair of tweezers for her and some vaginal cream for him. And then put on the little gift tag "So you can enjoy each other more." :)

Real maturity is just never speaking to your exes ( sp- ?) ever. Just ignore them completely and refuse to acknowledge they even exist. That way both parties can get on with their lives.

I agree with this. Maturity is knowing when you're better off without a person in your life, and then acting on it.

Liars (and that is the important issue, the LYING) and cheaters have no place in a healthy persons circle of friends. If you find them out, your best bet is to drop them completely.

Anyone care to guess how small my circle of friends is?

Real maturity is just never speaking to your exes ( sp- ?) ever. Just ignore them completely and refuse to acknowledge they even exist. That way both parties can get on with their lives.

Sorry but I disagree there. IMO real maturity lies in realising that (in most cases) there was a friendship before/as well as a romantic/sexual relationship and there can be after as well. Obviously, there doesn't HAVE to be and in most cases it probably isn't a great idea, but still...

That said, I think that in this case revenge is the way to go. I just wanted to say that not ALL exes are evil, just most of them ;) . Apart from abuse, I think lying is the worst act in a relationship. If someone consistently lies to you, then you're way better off without them.

As for not dwelling on things.... I don't think that's happening here. Venting can be fun and creative :p . Why deny yourself the pleasure of a little theoretical plotting? :D

I understand where you are comin from man

I just found out that at three points in our relationship she slept with other people (I found out about all of them about two weeks ago)

(the first time pissed me off the most)

Her friend died in a boating accident … I drove her down to visit her friends that knew him and his family they live in the cities about 2 hrs away or so I took off of work … missed a family event and went all night without sleep just to get her there and then my ass back so I could go to work in the morning


I find out later that she spent about half of her time there in bed with her friend :-P

I was and still am ROYALY pissed


Anyways sorry for the rant … I have a lot of nice female friend out there that have been nice (in a non naughty way) to help me get over it (we broke up)

I would recommend a good female friend for when u want to talk (they have some insight into the female gender that most guys don’t lol) and then the drunk and forget her is also an awesome tool as well

Oh yeah - and as for horror ex stories - try coming home early and the first thing you see when you pull into the driveway is you bf standing there in (REALLY BAD!) drag waiting for someone to come past so he can flash at them (expose his bits) :eek: Not a good image, I tell you - I STILL can't get the image out of my head, no matter what I try... :headbang: