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So I loan some money to a friend who wanted to but a CD player for his car and was short a little bit. He promised to pay me his next payday. When that day came he made an excuse about not getting enough hours and needed the money to cover his gas and a date with his gf.

Next payday he just 'forgets' and spends it on bullshit stuff. Now, Three months later, he hasn't paid me. I tell him to pawn the stereo and give me my money and he just tells me to f#ck off he's does not have the money to pay me and he is not going to.

So what do you think I should do? I got bills due too! I need the money!

Stop hanging around with the 'friend' and make a mental note to be careful who you loan money to next time. Short of stealing the money, you're probably not going to get it back. Kind of sucks for you, but... :shrugs: Well, it's no secret that life's not fair.

Why loan money to a friend when they could go to a fucking bank?

Beat him over the head with the Repo'ed CD! :D

beat the crap out of him = assault and battery
'repo' the CD player = larceny
beat the crap out of him WITH the repo'd CD player = assault and battery
forgive him and sing cumbyah with the muppets = unwise as well

How much money was involved? If it's less than $100, chalk it up to a lesson in life that came pretty cheap. If it's more, consider small claims court. Note that:
1) oral contracts (http://www.expertlaw.com/library/pubarticles/Business_Law/contract_law.html) are difficult to prove.
2) It will help if you can summon a witness, better several witnesses.

Next time you hang out with your "friend" go somewhere you need to drive to. Make sure this friend drives. Go somewhere like the movies or something. When both of you are inside and your feind is preoccupied politley exuse yourself. Goto the car, make sure you left the car door unlocked then piss all over the driver's seat! HAHA It may not teach him the lesson you want him to learn but you can secretly laugh with victory everytime you see this friend.

:D

But still try to get the money from your friend, never let that go. Remind your friend everytime you see them. Tell people your with, em-bare-ass this person every chance you get about how he didn't pay you back. Make sure no one ever lends this person money when you around.


I have another one:

Go get something to eat in a resturaunt with this person, say to the waitress you would like the food on "one bill". After you eat get up and leave and leave your friend with the check. Do not look back, just keep walking.

what an asshole!

there is no jerk like the jerk who gets mad at YOU for doing him a favor

maybe you can let his gf know just what a loser he is?

Have him killed. He is clearly a menace.

Write off the loss as the price of friendship, and then never have any friends again.

Expect responsibility from the responsible: Every one else: Burn them.

Go get something to eat in a resturaunt with this person, say to the waitress you would like the food on "one bill". After you eat get up and leave and leave your friend with the check. Do not look back, just keep walking.

This is what I would do. Stick him with the bill.

Destroy him, the take his woman as a war prize. ;)

Capture his woman, and every day, mail him one of her fingers until you get money. If you have to, go to toes. And if he still hasn't payed you back...then I'll think of something else just as evil. ;)

you call him a dumbass, but who is the one with the semi free cd player, and who is the one out money.

If the embarrassment trick fails, use the free meal ticket. When that fails, and everybody that is mutual is aware, and it still fails. Then you MUST seek revenge, a new set of tires should cost more than you loaned him. If not, gotta hate it when the oil pan plug falls out!

When he has to pawn the cd player, go with him, make yourself seen, invite your name to be on the ticket as well. A re-pawned, pawned stereo cost twice as much to get un-pawned!

Remember, dead beats show up when THEY need something, a friend arrives un-announced.

i've heard that its hard to actually successfully put sugar into a gas tank and get it to go past the filter and not leave a visible mess. i've heard that syrup solves that problem nicely, cheap off brand pancake topping. caro, maple, corn any type you choose, flows right threw gas filler filters, comes in a convenient squeeze bottle just about the right size.

this is of course a bad thing and no one should ever do it!!!!!!!

you call him a dumbass, but who is the one with the semi free cd player, and who is the one out money.

Something tells me you borrow a lot of money...

To Bozzy,

A friend is lost quickest over money matters than any other (though it is followed closely by rooming with them). It is definitely a show of true colors. Its quite possible that aforementioned person chose the CD player over your friendship. He is probably one who is of the mentality of the person I quoted (free for me, to hell with you), which means the friendship itself is probably no small loss, as people like that tend to go through them pretty quickly.

My advice, engage your friend in a debate of sorts. Use a topic he is interested in to spark involvement. Allow it to get heated. During the debate, lead him into corners about things like loyalty, generosity, and finally, when you have him locked, debt. Let him tell you all the horrible things he would do if someone ripped him off. A good example might be something along the lines of casualing asking him what he would do if the bank suddenly put a hold on his account. You have to be sly, since most people will catch on to those types of traps if they are ill concealed.

When he is finished, if he hasn't realized his hypocrisy already, feel free to rub it in.

This, of course, assumes you want to ever talk to the poor dumb bastard ever again. If not, then I hear epoxy has done some very interesting things for the revenge business. Oh, and stun guns wreak havoc on car electronics (and irresponsible ex-friends, if you are feeling particularly indignant)

Find an asian grocer, sometimes large normal grocery stores will carry this too.

It is called Phu Quoc Nuc Mam, or Vietnamese Fish Sauce, or just "fish sauce."

It is the liquid i assume they get when they let a barrel of fish rot for a month and then squeeze out the juice.

Few things on earth smell worse, and a large bottle will set you back a couple dollars at the most.

Break the window of his car and dump a bottle of the vile stuff into his upholstry.

The smell will never come out.

i have a friend who still owes me $2 now he's played back a dollar (after a week no doubt) but is making me go to some else who owes him the other dollar whom is just as recluent to give it back :headbang:

If I was in your place things would go something like this:

Me: So, uh, about that money you owe me? Yeah. That money. Well, it's collection time, my friend.

Friend: Eat shit.

Me: Am I to take that to mean that you are REFUSING to pay me what is owed?

Friend: That's right, bitch.

That's when I allow a thunderhead of a scowl to break across my face and I rumble,"Then steel yourself for the reckoning!"

This scene would be immediately followed by savage and relentless acts of attrition and red vengeance.

What the world needs is for good, upstanding people to stop taking shit from useless people like this and start stomping faces. Naked force has solved far, far more problems than any other method throughout history. Remember that when dealing with fucks like this.

Thr prik took an even $100 bucks. I was with him at the store and he said he'd have the cash at payday. He gave me the cash he had then I put it on my credit card - since paid off.

There is not longer a friendship - Good feelings tend to end after someone tells me to f-off.

Small claims would cost too much, take too long, and he still does not have to pay.

I am not a vandal. I have too much self-respect for that.

A CD-whoopin may end up being misunderstood by the law - which pretty much leaves me with the muppets. I can't believe more people here don't like the muppets..

Maybe if I beat him with a muppet??

BTW - sorry for multi-posts on this. I am on dialup until my house is repaired. I had some difficulty posting this thread. I couldn't delete the others. Maybe a mod could merge them or something?

None of the above--get away from the jerk.

I was in a similar (but worse) position a few years ago.
Quick recap: I was working only part-time (just $300 p/week). My g/f had just left me for a moron. No, truly, he was a simpleton, which really annoyed me. It felt 'wrong'. An intelligent guy like myself (who's completed over 50 papers at University up til Masters level) being dumped for a guy didn't (read couldn't) finish High School. I felt insulted. But I digress.
Anyway, so I was forced to advertise for a flatmate. After several weeks I was desperate so took in the first one who was interested (against my better judgement - he seemed very dodgy. I was right). Anyway, to cut a long story short, he was irregular with the rent, til he didn't pay for a couple of weeks, he ran up a $400 phone bill and to top it off stole the money out of the money jar I had hidden in my wardrobe (left the 5 & 10 cent pieces though). There was approx $600 in there. I was waiting til it got full before I was going to take it to the bank (I always wait til it's full, no matter how broke I am - a point of principle).
So I locked him out and told him I was going to sell his stuff to pay for the debt. Know what the prick did? Call the police! Legally, even though he admitted to the cops he owed me money, I still couldn't hold his stuff. I had to stand there with the cop and watch him carry all his crap out. In retrospect, I realised I should have just left it on the side of the road with a sign saying "Free" when he was out.
I mentioned to the cop that I seriously considered doing a serious bit of grevious to him (FYI, I'm 192cm and 105kg, and at that time could bench 160kg. He was a little taller than me, maybe 195cm and probably 30-35kg lighter - so the thumping would have been memorable for him). The cop gave me one of the best pieces of advice I've recieved:
He told me wasting a loser like that wasn't worth it. It wouldn't get my money back. All it'd do is get me a criminal record (cause an asshole like that would never accept his punishment but as soon as he was able going whinning to the police) which would seriously limit my future opportunities. There's a shitload of jobs (including teaching which I'm now doing) and countries(like HK where I'm now living) I wouldn't be able to do or go to.
The cop told me a loser like that will just continue living that way until either he rips someone off who doesn't care about their future or will end up when he's 40 a lonely pathetic unemployed old man no-one wants to know, cause everyone will know his reputation. Or both. The cop also said, at that stage I'll be happy, successful, have a good job and lots of friends. So what have I really lost?
As the adage goes: "The best revenge is living well"
So do what I did - chalk it up to experience, put it behind you, be more careful about who you lend money to in future, and forget you ever knew the pathetic loser. Of course, before you do, invite out for a hike somewhere really remote and drive off, leaving him there to walk back.