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I can only speak of my man
I love him because
he is wise, fun, kind, patient, mature, immature, loving, passionate, compassionate, friendly, sweet, romantic, poetic, brave, strong,and much much more. I love him because he loves me. Because he will call just to say I love you. because he doesn't let a day go by without letting me know that in one way or another.Because he is strong when I am weak and lets me do the same for him. Because he cares enough to cry with me and to laugh as well. Because he listens when I need him to and shuts me up when I need to shut up. Because we are not perfect, but we strive to be, together. Because having spent a year of my life with him, I cannot envision life without him. Because he makes even the darkest days brighter. Because even in a fight we always end with I love you.

anyone else have any reasons? why do you love your other half?

I hate guys. Except for a few, and they're all ... insane.

As a hetrosexual guy, I...uhm...




...really have no answer for this :p

lol well i wont be offended if you praise your females

I love my wife because she is everything I'm not, yet we make eachother laughs.

We're both cat people too. That helps. *nod*

yeah Jim likes my cat punkin as well so that is cool.

We are cute??

I love my wife because she is everything I'm not, yet we make eachother laughs.

We're both cat people too. That helps. *nod*

All other play aside: I agree. Me and my future wife laugh. And we can be serious as we need to be.

nevermore.

Men are living proof that women can take a joke :D:D.

Seriously though, my husband and I have been together for 10 years, and I would'nt swap him for anyone. We get on very well with each other and have mostly the same interests. He's one special guy :).

They drink more beer than (most) women

All of your men take it up the butt.

I love women because:

Then clean your dishes.
They bring your beers.
They prepare your diner.
They clean up your house.
...

I love women because:

Then clean your dishes.
They bring your beers.
They prepare your diner.
They clean up your house.
...

:eek: You've got some nerve...


*runs off to hide under table*

I love women because:

Then clean your dishes.
They bring your beers.
They prepare your diner.
They clean up your house.
...


well, actually i do that for my gf as she has a far harder job than i do so....

Can I ask an honest question:

Why do so many women seem attracted to utter assholes, and repelled by "nice guys"? Is it that they can't differentiate confidence from arrogance? They mistake kindness for weakness? Or is it that they want a guy who treats them badly so they have something to complain about, or to satisfy some martyr complex? Or maybe they think they can change the guy and get the "diamond in the rough"?

The whole phenomenon has me truly baffled...

Can I ask an honest question:

Why do so many women seem attracted to utter assholes, and repelled by "nice guys"? Is it that they can't differentiate confidence from arrogance? They mistake kindness for weakness? Or is it that they want a guy who treats them badly so they have something to complain about, or to satisfy some martyr complex? Or maybe they think they can change the guy and get the "diamond in the rough"?

The whole phenomenon has me truly baffled...There is no strict rule. It is not as simple as a computer program.

Can I ask an honest question:

Why do so many women seem attracted to utter assholes, and repelled by "nice guys"? Is it that they can't differentiate confidence from arrogance? They mistake kindness for weakness? Or is it that they want a guy who treats them badly so they have something to complain about, or to satisfy some martyr complex? Or maybe they think they can change the guy and get the "diamond in the rough"?

The whole phenomenon has me truly baffled...

for most women ONE asshole is enough to make them smarten up and choose more wisely next time. of course this means they have to date a bunch of assholes until they find the ONE who they get serious about then time has to pass before they realize what a huge mistake they have made. assholes can seem to be a reallly good idea before you settle down with one and find the truth

SOME women are addicted to DRAMA. the excitement of being with a bad man, the incredible ups and downs, make their lives seem more important than the poor fool who married a good man and is living a calm life. they want their lives to be like those they see in soap operas. these women will always choose assholes, even ones who beat them, over a good man who will never make them miserable.

its no different from men choosing to date bitches or airheads. you know men who only date women who treat them like dirt or like a wallet. it all seems like he's WINNING over the poor fool who dates a good woman and is living a calm life. it takes a while of living with her before he realizes just what a bad deal he has with her.

so i guess what im saying is that good people have to wait until the rest of us catch up with a bit of maturity before they start getting the attention they deserve.

Love my woman cause she puts up with me


:p :fluffle:

Can I ask an honest question:

Why do so many women seem attracted to utter assholes, and repelled by "nice guys"? Is it that they can't differentiate confidence from arrogance? They mistake kindness for weakness? Or is it that they want a guy who treats them badly so they have something to complain about, or to satisfy some martyr complex? Or maybe they think they can change the guy and get the "diamond in the rough"?

The whole phenomenon has me truly baffled...

Well, I'm attracted to evil-overlords. It gets kind of tricky picking between the arsehats and the gentlemen forms, because there's no easy way to tell between them.

'Nice guy's make me self-conscious, and feel like I have to be extra super good ++, and make me stress about them 'deserving better', because I have shockingly low self esteem (teenagerhood, bah). Plus, I like being submissive in the bedroom (the metaphorical one, at any rate), and good guys don't tend to offer that.

But then, it's possible that I'm quite, quite insane also, so there you go. Maybe I'll grow out of it.

Saw a very interesting article about this very point. I wish I had a link for you but I can no longer find it.

It was about this psychological need these women have to find a treasure. A man who is kind, makes them feel like the kindness he gives to THEM is cheapened. It doesn't seem like much more than the kindness he gives to others. But these women have a fantasy of finding a rogue with a heart of gold, a man who treats others roughly, but who can be "CHANGED", who will continue to treat others roughly, but will treat their loyal woman like a dazzling jewel. They subject themselves to the rough treatment, on the assumption that they have the strength to burrow through to win the prize.

My take on the whole phenomenon: Forget those women. They aren't representative of the whole. For you to want to change them and their outlook is as futile and stupid as their wish to change the scoundrel. Comfort them, urge them to change, but avoid them... you do not need them.

Saw a very interesting article about this very point. I wish I had a link for you but I can no longer find it.

It was about this psychological need these women have to find a treasure. A man who is kind, makes them feel like the kindness he gives to THEM is cheapened. It doesn't seem like much more than the kindness he gives to others. But these women have a fantasy of finding a rogue with a heart of gold, a man who treats others roughly, but who can be "CHANGED", who will continue to treat others roughly, but will treat their loyal woman like a dazzling jewel. They subject themselves to the rough treatment, on the assumption that they have the strength to burrow through to win the prize.

My take on the whole phenomenon: Forget those women. They aren't representative of the whole. For you to want to change them and their outlook is as futile and stupid as their wish to change the scoundrel. Comfort them, urge them to change, but avoid them... you do not need them.

I have to admit being turned-off by people who try to be nice to everyone. Mainly because I'm cynical, and so can't imagine why anyone would be so free with trust, but also because I'm a stead-fast supporter of 'A friend to all is a friend to none'. It's why I don't hold with dogs. If you love everyone equally, your love isn't worth very much (just like you can't have good without bad, or light without dark, you can't have love without hate. Or at the very least a lack of love for some).

But then again... I mentioned being a teenager, right? that rare breed unable to distunguish hormones from brain patterns? Yeahhh... I think I should just stop posting, perhaps...

*Edited to add: -so much for staying out of it-*
I would never stoop to trying to 'change' anyone. If they're that bad I feel the need to change them, I wouldn't go out with them in the first place. Luckily I don't see a majority of 'flaws' as a bad thing (insanity, for example), so there's not that much I'd ever feel the need to 'change'. Stupidity being one of the only ones I can think of right now, in fact.

Hum, ok. I shall try to refrain posting now (my spelling and coherency is deteriorating...)

I always look for a woman who has a tattoo. I see a woman with a tattoo and I'm thinking, OK, here's a gal who's capable of making a decision she'll regret in the future.

anyone else have any reasons? why do you love your other half?

Well, he's good to me. When I'm having trouble reading the text for my master's thesis, he'll read me the book so I can take notes. (I have dyslexia and reading tends to take a little longer for me.) He spent days putting together "Vicious Circles" puzzles for my classroom. He's sensitive, but he isn't a pushover. And he's incredibly smart. I have a lot of respect for him.

well its like this, its a human thing

I don't have 'an other half'. And after reading this thread, I'm glad I don't.

I love my my women (yes women...im polyamourous) cuz their closer to being my best friends then just a typical realtionship...we got motorbike riding and paintballing and fishing and such together...yet we also go for walks on the beach and kiss and watch movies and everything...in short, cuz their my comrades, they're my friends, so I love em beyond all things.

Well, I'm attracted to evil-overlords. It gets kind of tricky picking between the arsehats and the gentlemen forms, because there's no easy way to tell between them.

'Nice guy's make me self-conscious, and feel like I have to be extra super good ++, and make me stress about them 'deserving better', because I have shockingly low self esteem (teenagerhood, bah). Plus, I like being submissive in the bedroom (the metaphorical one, at any rate), and good guys don't tend to offer that.

But then, it's possible that I'm quite, quite insane also, so there you go. Maybe I'll grow out of it.

Maybe we could go and rule the world together.

i did think my boyfriend was amazing. he loved me and he never hesitated to say it. he always looked out for me and supported all my decisions and always thought of me when making decisions of his own. i met his friends and family and he met mine. everyone got on amazingly. he stuck up for me and comforted me when things went wrong. he held my hand and promised me hed never leave. he made me feel wanted and completely loved. he made me feel confident and he made me love him totally with all my heart.

i DID think my boyfriend was amazing. till i realsied he was an egomaniac, a bastard and a liar. i havnt spoke to my boyfrined in weeks. he told my best friend that he thought that he and i should go on a break as he was feeling depressed and needed to sort his head out and he didnt want to take anything out on me. after initially worrying about him and wondering why he wouldnt let me support and help him him through his problems like he had with me. how dumb i had been. the very next day i was told that he was going out with someone else and was the happiest hed ever been. he still hasnt broken up with me officially, tho i think this is the longest break im ever going to be on.

i did think my boyfriend was amazing. he loved me and he never hesitated to say it. he always looked out for me and supported all my decisions and always thought of me when making decisions of his own. i met his friends and family and he met mine. everyone got on amazingly. he stuck up for me and comforted me when things went wrong. he held my hand and promised me hed never leave. he made me feel wanted and completely loved. he made me feel confident and he made me love him totally with all my heart.

i DID think my boyfriend was amazing. till i realsied he was an egomaniac, a bastard and a liar. i havnt spoke to my boyfrined in weeks. he told my best friend that he thought that he and i should go on a break as he was feeling depressed and needed to sort his head out and he didnt want to take anything out on me. after initially worrying about him and wondering why he wouldnt let me support and help him him through his problems like he had with me. how dumb i had been. the very next day i was told that he was going out with someone else and was the happiest hed ever been. he still hasnt broken up with me officially, tho i think this is the longest break im ever going to be on.
men are a bitch

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:
not all guys.... :D

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:

That's an old fairy tale. Men go for the redheads more :p

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:

Czu they are usally hotties with bodies and were mostly thinking about the screw not the commitment.

That's an old fairy tale. Men go for the redheads more :p
erm... no :eek:

Maybe we could go and rule the world together.

Flattered as I am, I have no interest in co-ruling the world (just want to bathe in the presence of the ruler).

Plus, I'd probably drive you mad: "Are we taking over England yet? Are we? I want to go to England! I don't care if there are weaker nations we could take over first! I want England! Rar!!!"

Not to mention I have to wait until my pink and black hair fringe-entensions grow out before participating in evil-overlord pursuance. No overlord would be seen dead with a pink-and-black-fringed consort.

You'll just have to rule alone for a while :p

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:

I much prefer brunettes. Blondes, especially stupid-looking fake blondes, aren't my type.

Women... *sigh* Can't live with em, can't live without sex...

Seriously though... women are allright. Just need to figure out what they want cuz NONE! of them seem to know. And they need to figure out that men CANNOT! read their minds so they need to STOP! getting mad at me when I have no idea what they are thinking.

Other then that its all good.

Maybe its just because my ex took about 15 drugs starting with z, x, and q.

Flattered as I am, I have no interest in co-ruling the world (just want to bathe in the presence of the ruler).

Plus, I'd probably drive you mad: "Are we taking over England yet? Are we? I want to go to England! I don't care if there are weaker nations we could take over first! I want England! Rar!!!"

Not to mention I have to wait until my pink and black hair fringe-entensions grow out before participating in evil-overlord pursuance. No overlord would be seen dead with a pink-and-black-fringed consort.

You'll just have to rule alone for a while :p

*tears up and rus to room slams door* I hate you!

*tears up and rus to room slams door* I hate you!

Because I am unworthy?

And tsktsk, door slamming. Not very over-lordy

Seriously though... women are allright. Just need to figure out what they want cuz NONE! of them seem to know. And they need to figure out that men CANNOT! read their minds so they need to STOP! getting mad at me when I have no idea what they are thinking.

hear hear!

Best tactic is to faking to know what they mean and want

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:
It is not a matter of hair color at all. It is a matter of being sexy.
intelligence, character, blah blah... Does not matter at all. All that matter is sex.

i used to be a redhead, its true, guys do not fancy gingers, its just a fact of life, therefore i am now a brunette, and if i may say so myself brunettes are much hotter, and have much better luck with men, apart from my bastard ex, than redheads. no offence to anyone who still suffers from this tragic disease.

ick, no personality? that sounds like a little bimboish whore who sucks your money dry in exchange for sex and doesnt do anything remotly fun (well sex is fun, but not really that fun if you dont love the person) so no, not all guys guy for the blonde with no personality...I dont care about hair color or figure (that much...its gotta be healthy, but a little overweight or a little underweight isnt a big deal really) Id rather a girl whos fun to hang out with and go stuff over a glorfied whore....

Not to mention I have to wait until my pink and black hair fringe-entensions grow out before participating in evil-overlord pursuance. No overlord would be seen dead with a pink-and-black-fringed consort.

I would. If she can also be sent on assassination missions. You know, professional expectations.

ick, no personality? that sounds like a little bimboish whore who sucks your money dry in exchange for sex and doesnt do anything remotly fun (well sex is fun, but not really that fun if you dont love the person) so no, not all guys guy for the blonde with no personality...I dont care about hair color or figure (that much...its gotta be healthy, but a little overweight or a little underweight isnt a big deal really) Id rather a girl whos fun to hang out with and go stuff over a glorfied whore....
so what ur saying is, we have to be pretty much a perfect figure, a few pounds here or there are acceptable in your eyes. well thanks for letting us lasses know what standards we have to live up to in your eyes.
ive actually thrown away all standards cos lets face it even if u do gte ur ideal bloke/lass ur only gonna break up or find each others faults, and whats the point of havin a dream partner if they have faults, its just a bit of a bubble burst aint it.
:sniper:

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:
Many men look at women as symbols of status, and usually a blond is "worth" more than non-blond. Somehow they think they have achieved more. Don't ask me why it's like this.

Same as in the woman who goes for the asshole imagining she can change him and that all her friends will be jealous because he did it for her.

Many men look at women as symbols of status, and usually a blond is "worth" more than non-blond. Somehow they think they have achieved more. Don't ask me why it's like this.

Same as in the woman who goes for the asshole imagining she can change him and that all her friends will be jealous because he did it for her.
erm.... no

Can I ask an honest question:

Why do so many women seem attracted to utter assholes, and repelled by "nice guys"? Is it that they can't differentiate confidence from arrogance? They mistake kindness for weakness? Or is it that they want a guy who treats them badly so they have something to complain about, or to satisfy some martyr complex? Or maybe they think they can change the guy and get the "diamond in the rough"?

The whole phenomenon has me truly baffled...

Honestly, I think it's the last one. Women seem to have an innate urge to "fix" men. The fact is, it never happens, and they end up married to a complete jerk.

erm.... no
Care to elaborate?

I love my wife because we are somewhat oppisites in many ways. But we are the same as in we are both real with who we are and what we want in life. She is perfect in grammar and puncuation and I don't care much for it. She would rather read the book and I would rather watch the movie. She likes sports and I like just watching it with her. My wife walks up to anyone and sparks a conversation up and I would rather just pass by with a smile and a nod. We both love ourselves and one another and have found this purity through God.

Care to elaborate?
OK... it isn't true (menwise)(unless they're stupid)(or sexists)

I can only speak of my man
I love him because
he is wise, fun, kind, patient, mature, immature, loving, passionate, compassionate, friendly, sweet, romantic, poetic, brave, strong,and much much more. I love him because he loves me. Because he will call just to say I love you. because he doesn't let a day go by without letting me know that in one way or another.Because he is strong when I am weak and lets me do the same for him. Because he cares enough to cry with me and to laugh as well. Because he listens when I need him to and shuts me up when I need to shut up. Because we are not perfect, but we strive to be, together. Because having spent a year of my life with him, I cannot envision life without him. Because he makes even the darkest days brighter. Because even in a fight we always end with I love you.

anyone else have any reasons? why do you love your other half?

i am extremely fond of my hetero life partner because he is inexplicably enchanted by what i believe are some of my worst qualities. he puts up with my baseball fandom, my videogame addictions, my constant science trivia, and my geeky comicbook collection. he is okay with the fact that i am bisexual and is even willing to check out girls with me (though he's sadly straight, so we can't really appreciate boys together).

he also manages to bring out the best parts of me. i find myself becoming more like the person he sees in me, and that person is a sum of all my strengths and talents. he never lets me get away with being less than i am capable of.

he's the best of best friends (in fact, we were friends long before we were dating), and there's pretty much nothing i like doing that won't be improved by doing it with him. he's the only person i know who can thoroughly kick my ass at Dynasty Warriors AND Tony Hawk, he listens to the same kind of music i do but always seems to have an insider track for new bands we will like, and he is a splendid opponent for debates of all sorts.

plus, he's a demon in the sack.

i am extremely fond of my hetero life partner because he is inexplicably enchanted by what i believe are some of my worst qualities. he puts up with my baseball fandom, my videogame addictions, my constant science trivia, and my geeky comicbook collection. he is okay with the fact that i am bisexual and is even willing to check out girls with me (though he's sadly straight, so we can't really appreciate boys together).

he also manages to bring out the best parts of me. i find myself becoming more like the person he sees in me, and that person is a sum of all my strengths and talents. he never lets me get away with being less than i am capable of.

he's the best of best friends (in fact, we were friends long before we were dating), and there's pretty much nothing i like doing that won't be improved by doing it with him. he's the only person i know who can thoroughly kick my ass at Dynasty Warriors AND Tony Hawk, he listens to the same kind of music i do but always seems to have an insider track for new bands we will like, and he is a splendid opponent for debates of all sorts.

plus, he's a demon in the sack.

He should treat you right, because it sounds like you are the perfect woman.

And Dynasty Warriors is the best goddamn game in history.

Would you like to fight with Ziang Fei?

Can I ask an honest question:

Why do so many women seem attracted to utter assholes, and repelled by "nice guys"? Is it that they can't differentiate confidence from arrogance? They mistake kindness for weakness? Or is it that they want a guy who treats them badly so they have something to complain about, or to satisfy some martyr complex? Or maybe they think they can change the guy and get the "diamond in the rough"?

The whole phenomenon has me truly baffled...
having done this myself in the past, I think that it is because we have the hope that our love for them will somehow fix their issues and make them better people....untrue but there it is.

OK... it isn't true (menwise)(unless they're stupid)(or sexists)
Well, yeah. I agree. And there are more than a handful men who are stupid or sexist, or stupid and sexist. I didn't say all men, or even the majority, I just said many.

Man marries woman, thinking she'll never change.
Woman marries man thinking she'll change him...

**raises hand** Am I allowed to saftly say that it's the nice guys who get the short end of the stick from BOTH sides? Guys think he's a pussy, girls think he's a coward.

so what ur saying is, we have to be pretty much a perfect figure, a few pounds here or there are acceptable in your eyes. well thanks for letting us lasses know what standards we have to live up to in your eyes.
ive actually thrown away all standards cos lets face it even if u do gte ur ideal bloke/lass ur only gonna break up or find each others faults, and whats the point of havin a dream partner if they have faults, its just a bit of a bubble burst aint it.
:sniper:

nay mate... not a perfect figure...but a healthy one. I mean able to walk on your, able to breathe easly and maybe engage in some kind of sports with out falling over from your weight in 20minutes, or without getting exhuasted from lack of oxyagen in your blood cuz you 100 pounds underweight and iron deficent to the level where your hyperventaling at rest to stay concious. so :mp5: right back at ya!

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:

Not me. First, I prefer brunettes, and second, I couldn't stand to be with a girl who couldn't carry on a semi-intelligent conversation.

**raises hand** Am I allowed to saftly say that it's the nice guys who get the short end of the stick from BOTH sides? Guys think he's a pussy, girls think he's a coward.

Lol, tell me about it.

I'm a hetero male who sings in a chorus and does ballroom dancing :D

But then again I'm in a long-term relationship (by young standards anyway!)

I'm sure that just like not all guys just want to find an empty-headed slut to jump in bed with, not all women want to find an empty-headed arsehole.

Craig

In my experience, all men are pigs. Well, okay, not all. Maybe not even most, but the pigs among men are loud enough to give a moment of hatred for all men when you meet them.

This is coming from a man. Honestly, I dislike most of the men I meet around here. They're mostly so obsessed with being 'real men' that they manage to eradicate any semblance of personality they may have originally had, and it all boils down to a bunch of men trying to convince each other that THEY are more manly than their friends. Stupid macho bullshit.

While I too love the idea of the charming rogue who I could claim as my protector and lover in equal measure, I have no delusions that such men exist. Maybe, some time, in a more romantic and noble age, they did exist. But if they did (which I somehow doubt), they certainly don't now.

Still, I love my man. He's no rogue, but he's charming when he wants to be. He can instill greater emotion in me than anyone else and is always there with a smile and a kind word when I'm feeling down and I try my best to do the same for him. He loves me despite my many flaws and I hope he realizes just how much I love him, even though he sometimes makes it clear he doesn't understand how I could love him.

Now if only we had the option to get married someday :rolleyes:

He should treat you right, because it sounds like you are the perfect woman.

And Dynasty Warriors is the best goddamn game in history.

Would you like to fight with Ziang Fei?
lol, wow, glad to hear there is another guy on the planet who doesn't mind if his girlfriend watches sports and reads comics. most guys seem to want their girlfriend to do girl things, i'm not sure why, maybe because they like to have something to get exasperated about.

as for DW, personally i like Wei Yan, because of that two-bladed spear thing and the fact that he breakdances for his limitbreak move. i like Sun Ce, too, and Lu Bu is just plain SICK.

Lu Bu is like the Yankees, so I won't use him. Wei Yan is pretty cool but he runs like a Welshman, doesn't he run like a welshman? (You get extra points if you can identify that quote) For my money the best one is Xiahou Dun, when his sword gets built up he is unstoppable.

I have to be extra super good ++
You don't have to be double plus good! We don't live in the 1984 world of Ignosc!

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:
I sure as hell don't - besides, there are TONS of brunettes at my school with all those qualities, and good looks to boot! :D

they (like me, tho) just really dont care about having a significant other just yet.

Man marries woman, thinking she'll never change.
Woman marries man thinking she'll change him...

**raises hand** Am I allowed to saftly say that it's the nice guys who get the short end of the stick from BOTH sides? Guys think he's a pussy, girls think he's a coward.
WRONG! at least as far as Im concerned, all I have EVER wanted in a guy when it comes down to it, is someone who will love me and treat me with the same respect, kindness, thoughtfulness, patience, and in some cases long suffering that I treat him with, I have found that and MUCH MUCH more and I sure as he!! am NOT letting go.....EVER! I think if you ask most girls over 19 who have had the time to date their fixer upers, their hot bodies, their money makers, and be burned by them, you will find that they generally feel the same way.

WRONG! at least as far as Im concerned, all I have EVER wanted in a guy when it comes down to it, is someone who will love me and treat me with the same respect, kindness, thoughtfulness, patience, and in some cases long suffering that I treat him with, I have found that and MUCH MUCH more and I sure as he!! am NOT letting go.....EVER! I think if you ask most girls over 19 who have had the time to date their fixer upers, their hot bodies, their money makers, and be burned by them, you will find that they generally feel the same way.

But...

Maybe it's just me, but I don't like the idea of being "the other guy." They go to the nice guys AFTER they realize the other guys suck. The nice guy is never the first choice, he's the "Damn, I screwed up" one. Almost like "well, he didn't work out-guess I'll just take this guy instead"

I would. If she can also be sent on assassination missions. You know, professional expectations.

Hmm, pink 'n' black hair could be a useful addition to being an assassin. No one would ever expect to be assassinated by a pink and black wearing girly-girl with matching hair. 'Specially not a 17 year old one with a collection of Lego castles and My Little Ponies who plays Morrowind.

Well, not unless they've heard me ranting about removing people's eyeball jelly with syringes, of course*. Or the whole 'slicing-people-from-the-soles-up-with-a-surgical-laser' rant...

Well, people who don't me well won't expect it, at any rate. But I'm not sure I would trust an overlord who'd trust me with weaponry. I mean honestly, where's your healthy level of paranoia?


*Mmmmeyeball jelly...

You don't have to be double plus good! We don't live in the 1984 world of Ignosc!..........

Actually, I picked up the ++ thing from a friend (well, ex-friend) who works with C++, among other things. The whole 1984 connection didn't strike me until other people started pointing it out. Guess it has a fairly similar meaning either way though, so 't doesn't matter much.

honest answers please?

why do all guys go for the blonde girl without an ounce of personality over the non blonde with intelligence, character, blah blah...? baffled.

( and stinging from personal experience. ) :headbang:

ah, well, I don't know. I know why I tend to get physically attracted to them, but I don't go for anyone who does not interest me. someone who cannot hold a decent conversation won't get anywhere with me.

I think I know why the arrogant bastard types go for the blondes with no personality - they're probably easier to push around.

but as for men in general (in my limited experience as a male who only occasionally gets hit on by men,) they go for the girl they like, regardless of physical appearance.

some of them do go for blondes, but not all blondes have no personality, and attractiveness and personality are not mutually exclusive, anyway.

someone mentioned redheads. they drive me nuts (in the best possible way) even if they're not genuine redheads.

I have no idea why, except that the first girl I ever got a serious crush on was a redhead (a natural one, as well.)

unfirtunately for me, no matter how much I try to convince myself not to be, I'm a nice guy. end result - women ignore me because I'm not hitting on them, just talking to them, because I think they might not enjoy being hit on, and I'd rather get to know them than just go straight to having sex anyway (tried it the other way around once, and boy did I get screwed over once I found out what she was really like.)

so women treat me as a friend, and not a prospective boyfriend, maybe because they don't get the sense that I want to sleep with them, since I'm trying so hard not to make it seem like all I'm interested in. sucks, but male-female relationships aren't the be all and end all of existence. and I should be more assertive if I want a girlfriend. I don't think it's their fault for treating me as I act.

lol, wow, glad to hear there is another guy on the planet who doesn't mind if his girlfriend watches sports and reads comics. most guys seem to want their girlfriend to do girl things, i'm not sure why, maybe because they like to have something to get exasperated about.

I've been lucky that when I have been in a relationship, I've usually got the best of both worlds - a girl who is both girly and not girly. I adore the girly times and appreciate that she is not always girly and can talk about more than just makeup, boys, and clothes.

I don't mind if my girlfriend watches sports, as long as she doesn't expect me to be ecstatic about them (I'm not a fan of sports.) If she wanted to read my comics (as my one girlfriend did,) that's awesome.

Lol, tell me about it.

I'm a hetero male who sings in a chorus and does ballroom dancing :D

But then again I'm in a long-term relationship (by young standards anyway!)

I'm sure that just like not all guys just want to find an empty-headed slut to jump in bed with, not all women want to find an empty-headed arsehole.

Craig

Wait, didn't we establish that your gf thinks you're queer? Or did I establish that and ignore you when you tried to tell me otherwise? Man, I can't tell anymore. Thats what I get for turning up to tech hungover and then still being awake working at 1:46 the next evening. Bleh.

Wait, didn't we establish that your gf thinks you're queer? Or did I establish that and ignore you when you tried to tell me otherwise? Man, I can't tell anymore. Thats what I get for turning up to tech hungover and then still being awake working at 1:46 the next evening. Bleh.

Lol, if so she has a funny way of showing it!

Don't you have a film to make? ;)

Lol, if so she has a funny way of showing it!

Don't you have a film to make? ;)

Yeah I got one somewhere. Iss in in oz which is a problem. As is the fact that I'm working, everyone else is getting the gear and I still need to cast someone who looks like a tough securty guard but can actually act enough to say the lines.