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That is the story, but it is not the whole story. I knew JR. He was my friend. He played for the Varsity soccer team, and I play for JV. During an away game, while the JV team was playing, the Varsity team was in a classroom waiting for our game to end. While there, JR, one of only 2 black kids on the Varsity, went through people's bookbags and stole several calculators, wallets, etc. The next day at practice, the school police officer talked to both teams about the theft that had happened, and if you knew any information, you should tell him. The next day, someone turned JR in for the theft. He was kicked off the Varsity Soccer team, and suspended for 10 days.
His father was a police officer, and couldn't beleive that his son would do that. So they faught, and they argued constantly over the next few weeks. JR was scheduled to go to trial for the theft soon. On Monday his dad kicked him out of the house. On Tuesday JR skipped school. Tuesday night, last night, they got in a fight, and his dad handed the gun, and said his son would shoot him if he really hated him. JR shot his dad, then shot himself. He died today at 5:30 AM, just as I was getting out of bed.
Today at school, my 1st period class was in the library, when an emergency staff meeting was called. They sent us outside, but we watched through the glass as the meeting took place. Although we could not hear, it was obvious something happened, and we guessed pretty quickly someone had died.

After second period I asked a girl who died, and she told me. She was crying, she knew JR. JR's sister had come to school in the morning to clean out his locker. She told some people what had happened, and the word spread pretty quick. I was one of the first to find out. All I did not know until I got home is that his father gave him the gun, and said he would shoot him if he really hated him. I knew everything else.

Please, guys, if you can, say a prayer, or observe a moment of silence for my friend JR. He was a nice kid, a good guy. Everybody loved him. He had to have been so torn up, going to trial, his father yelling at him constantly. He was driven to do what he did, but it is still not excusable. We still love him though.

Guys, never, never take your own life. Whatever it is, it will pass. It is never worth it. It hurts everyone else so badly, it is not worth it.

God rest your soul, JR.


in memory...
Vincent "JR" Kerr, you will always be in our hearts, we will miss your laugh, we love you very much
October 6, 2004"Love is not a measure of quantity, but a measure of quality." -Enloe english teacher, Mr. Goheen

im sorry dude,

and i dont know all the details about their relationship and the mental health of the father or son... but it is wrong to shoot your dad. Are you sure this was all because he got caught for theft and kicked out of football, or was there something more?

Sorry about your loss.

An old Russian proverb, "You live only as long as you are remembered"

My heart goes out ot you my friend in your time of loss... i too just lost a friend... a comrade in the Revolution... he was a very special person to me, so i feel your loss... again my condolences and prayers to you and his family...

:( :(

I'm so sorry.

My deepest condolences. :(

im sorry dude,

and i dont know all the details about their relationship and the mental health of the father or son... but it is wrong to shoot your dad. Are you sure this was all because he got caught for theft and kicked out of football, or was there something more?
His dad was a cop. He could never understand how his son could do this. Soccer was big in JR's life, and without it, he slipped into the mold that exists for many young African Americans today. He began hanging out with the bad crowd, the drug dealers, kids from the projects. He skipped school. He was scheduled to go to trial for the theft soon. His dad was a police officer, and he just could not understand, or forgive, JR for what he did. Their relationship got worse, his life was getting more awful everyday. Yet at school, he seemed so cool, I talked to him on Friday, and he seemed like a normal kid.

This just illustrates, exactly, how life is just full of small mistakes, and you should never take your own life over one of them. It was a small thing, but both him and his father blew it way out of proportion. They were both fine, mentally speaking. Nothing was wrong with either or them, but he just had enough of it all, I guess, and in the heat of the moment, he took his fathers life and his own.

I will never forget.

I lost a childhood friend a few months back, because he was a passenger in a truck and they both were drunk. The driver survived but my friend didn't.

I feel your pain, and I will keep your friend in my prayers. So sorry for the loss.

Sorry to here that, dude.

You know what's messed up? 7 teens died last week from car crashes.

http://abclocal.go.com/wtvd/news/100604_NW_knightdaleshootingupdate.html

That is the story, but it is not the whole story. I knew JR. He was my friend. He played for the Varsity soccer team, and I play for JV. During an away game, while the JV team was playing, the Varsity team was in a classroom waiting for our game to end. While there, JR, one of only 2 black kids on the Varsity, went through people's bookbags and stole several calculators, wallets, etc. The next day at practice, the school police officer talked to both teams about the theft that had happened, and if you knew any information, you should tell him. The next day, someone turned JR in for the theft. He was kicked off the Varsity Soccer team, and suspended for 10 days.
His father was a police officer, and couldn't beleive that his son would do that. So they faught, and they argued constantly over the next few weeks. JR was scheduled to go to trial for the theft soon. On Monday his dad kicked him out of the house. On Tuesday JR skipped school. Tuesday night, last night, they got in a fight, and his dad handed the gun, and said his son would shoot him if he really hated him. JR shot his dad, then shot himself. He died today at 5:30 AM, just as I was getting out of bed.
Today at school, my 1st period class was in the library, when an emergency staff meeting was called. They sent us outside, but we watched through the glass as the meeting took place. Although we could not hear, it was obvious something happened, and we guessed pretty quickly someone had died.

After second period I asked a girl who died, and she told me. She was crying, she knew JR. JR's sister had come to school in the morning to clean out his locker. She told some people what had happened, and the word spread pretty quick. I was one of the first to find out. All I did not know until I got home is that his father gave him the gun, and said he would shoot him if he really hated him. I knew everything else.

Please, guys, if you can, say a prayer, or observe a moment of silence for my friend JR. He was a nice kid, a good guy. Everybody loved him. He had to have been so torn up, going to trial, his father yelling at him constantly. He was driven to do what he did, but it is still not excusable. We still love him though.

Guys, never, never take your own life. Whatever it is, it will pass. It is never worth it. It hurts everyone else so badly, it is not worth it.

God rest your soul, JR.


in memory...
Vincent "JR" Kerr, you will always be in our hearts, we will miss your laugh, we love you very much
October 6, 2004"Love is not a measure of quantity, but a measure of quality." -Enloe english teacher, Mr. Goheen

Yeah, it's good when criminal impose the death penalty on themselves. You steal something, it's stolen. And you're a theif.

You have my sympathies, becuase I know it hurts you. But he doesn't.

I know this sounds ridiculous, but use this moment in your life to do something. One of my brothers lost three close friends in a car accident, and later that day he gave blood (which they say saves three lives each time you do it). It sounds cheesy and doesn't erase the pain, but gives a clarity and feeling of manageability to it.

When my high school teacher was killed in a car accident, I came out later that day. I began to think that if I were killed that way, I would have died having never told the truth. We were very close, and his death was hard, but today I look back on it as though he gave me a tremendous gift.

God rest the soul of your friend. I hope you can find a way to deal with this that is healing for you and others.

Best, atom

My prayers and thoughts are with you, your friends, and your friend's family.

Man I'm so sorry for you. It's the worst feeling when you lose a friend and I hop you'll never have to feel it agian.

So many in such a short time period :(

sorry to hear about your friend and his dad both.

CC

Hurumf......

I am sorry to hear that. If only he knew.......

Deepest sympathies to you and everyone else who was close to him.

Sorry that you lost a friend, but my god. He stole, he did lots of bad things, then he shot his dad and then himself. This kid obviously wasn't going anywhere in life if he had so many problems.

Happens, doesn't it?

Condolences.

http://abclocal.go.com/wtvd/news/100604_NW_knightdaleshootingupdate.html

That is the story, but it is not the whole story. I knew JR. He was my friend. He played for the Varsity soccer team, and I play for JV. During an away game, while the JV team was playing, the Varsity team was in a classroom waiting for our game to end. While there, JR, one of only 2 black kids on the Varsity, went through people's bookbags and stole several calculators, wallets, etc. The next day at practice, the school police officer talked to both teams about the theft that had happened, and if you knew any information, you should tell him. The next day, someone turned JR in for the theft. He was kicked off the Varsity Soccer team, and suspended for 10 days.
His father was a police officer, and couldn't beleive that his son would do that. So they faught, and they argued constantly over the next few weeks. JR was scheduled to go to trial for the theft soon. On Monday his dad kicked him out of the house. On Tuesday JR skipped school. Tuesday night, last night, they got in a fight, and his dad handed the gun, and said his son would shoot him if he really hated him. JR shot his dad, then shot himself. He died today at 5:30 AM, just as I was getting out of bed.
Today at school, my 1st period class was in the library, when an emergency staff meeting was called. They sent us outside, but we watched through the glass as the meeting took place. Although we could not hear, it was obvious something happened, and we guessed pretty quickly someone had died.

After second period I asked a girl who died, and she told me. She was crying, she knew JR. JR's sister had come to school in the morning to clean out his locker. She told some people what had happened, and the word spread pretty quick. I was one of the first to find out. All I did not know until I got home is that his father gave him the gun, and said he would shoot him if he really hated him. I knew everything else.

Please, guys, if you can, say a prayer, or observe a moment of silence for my friend JR. He was a nice kid, a good guy. Everybody loved him. He had to have been so torn up, going to trial, his father yelling at him constantly. He was driven to do what he did, but it is still not excusable. We still love him though.

Guys, never, never take your own life. Whatever it is, it will pass. It is never worth it. It hurts everyone else so badly, it is not worth it.

God rest your soul, JR.


in memory...
Vincent "JR" Kerr, you will always be in our hearts, we will miss your laugh, we love you very much
October 6, 2004"Love is not a measure of quantity, but a measure of quality." -Enloe english teacher, Mr. Goheen

Having lost a close friend just last Saturday (he committed suicide), I can definitely sympathize. I'm very sorry for your loss. If there's anything I can do, please let me know.

I've had only one friend who has died, but I can remember the feeling of loss when you don't see that person day after day. It's been about six months, and I still think of him.

I hope that you and all of those who knew JV are able to remember him well. We all make bad descisions, but he didn't have time to regret his.

Sorry to hear about this. Very sad and something no one should have to go through.