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This thread is dedicated to signs that your girlfriend or boyfriend is not worth your time...

Here is what we'll start with...my example...but first, the story of what inspired this:
The other day at work, a customer who had the build of a defensive lineman, or maybe a linebacker and his friend of the same build asked me "What would you do if two guys like our size were hitting on your girl man? What would you do?" Of course, I'm 6'2", 130lbs, and definitely no match for those guys, so I didn't really have a clear cut response for them right then and there, however...I thought it through some more, and here is what I think...

Even though I don't currently have a girlfriend, if some guy or group of guys was hitting on my girl, and she wasn't ignoring them or walking away, it wouldn't be worth my time to go trying to beat any one up. It's one thing if they're grabbing her and restraining her, but if they're just excessively flirting with her, beyond a point which I am comfortable with, then it's time for her to find a new boyfriend. If she's more interested in some other guy than she is in me, than what point is it for me to try keeping the relationship together? By that point, it's just a waste of time.

Anyone else have any other situations?

Anyone else have any other situations?
Okay, so let's say it's 2 girls built like linebackers, and they're hitting on you? Let's just assume they have more facial hair than you do, as well. What then?

Or more to the point, what if 2 giraffes and a kangaroo, built like linebackers, are hitting on you?

This thread is dedicated to signs that your girlfriend or boyfriend is not worth your time... /bla bla bla bla

I thought you were a chick

When your reaise that they are just after your money..

What is a defensive lineman and a linebacker? Is this American army jargon>?

I agree. Just ignore it.

What is a defensive lineman and a linebacker? Is this American army jargon>?
These are references to American Football (not to be confused with International Football, which is known in the United States as "Soccer").

--The Democratic States of Cogitation

Well unfortunatly i have NEVER EVER had a girlfriend and i am still a virgin... *sigh*

to make matters worse i'm 19.

This thread is dedicated to signs that your girlfriend or boyfriend is not worth your time...

Here is what we'll start with...my example...but first, the story of what inspired this:
The other day at work, a customer who had the build of a defensive lineman, or maybe a linebacker and his friend of the same build asked me "What would you do if two guys like our size were hitting on your girl man? What would you do?" Of course, I'm 6'2", 130lbs, and definitely no match for those guys, so I didn't really have a clear cut response for them right then and there, however...I thought it through some more, and here is what I think...

Even though I don't currently have a girlfriend, if some guy or group of guys was hitting on my girl, and she wasn't ignoring them or walking away, it wouldn't be worth my time to go trying to beat any one up. It's one thing if they're grabbing her and restraining her, but if they're just excessively flirting with her, beyond a point which I am comfortable with, then it's time for her to find a new boyfriend. If she's more interested in some other guy than she is in me, than what point is it for me to try keeping the relationship together? By that point, it's just a waste of time.

Anyone else have any other situations?

You'd dump your girlfriend for flirting with other guys (those that you couldn't beat up)? Man, that's pretty possessive and paranoid and a little neanderthal, too. Have you never flirted with a woman who wasn't your significant other? C'mon Opal, lighten up a little. Flirting is fun and makes the world go around. It's where she sleeps at the end of the day that counts. Who she chooses furniture with. You know, all of that stuff.
I don't like to be catty... well, OK, I DO like to be catty, so I'll come right out and say it. Is there maybe a reason you don't have a girlfriend right now, ie that women consider you insanely jealous and possessive?

You'd dump your girlfriend for flirting with other guys (those that you couldn't beat up)? Man, that's pretty possessive and paranoid and a little neanderthal, too. Have you never flirted with a woman who wasn't your significant other? C'mon Opal, lighten up a little. Flirting is fun and makes the world go around. It's where she sleeps at the end of the day that counts. Who she chooses furniture with. You know, all of that stuff.
I don't like to be catty... well, OK, I DO like to be catty, so I'll come right out and say it. Is there maybe a reason you don't have a girlfriend right now, ie that women consider you insanely jealous and possessive?

Note the beyond a point which I am comfortable with
and i dont think "possessive" is the right word. Possessive is where Opal wouldn't let anyone else have her, thinking only for himself.

You'd have to understand a few things about male and female psychology. Sometimes, girls don't know that what they are doing is making you jealous. While she's flirting with two mammoths of masculine muscle is not the best time for a private conversation on this topic.

MOre interestingly, sometimes they do. Not because they have any interest in THEM, but because they want to see what you'll do. This might not even be a conscious thing. Women are funny creatures. LIke Chris Rock said, women need three things to survive; Food, Water and Compliments. What better compliment to give your girl than to stand up for her?

Now on to male psychology. Men know other men a lot better than women know them. And if you aggressively, but non-belligerently tell them to move on to greener pastures, they probably will. I'm 5'9" 175 rather muscular pounds. I routinely play football and rugby with much larger and more muscular men. I'm used to getting my ass whooped. It also means I have very little fear of larger men.

If things look ugly, try this on them: "Look, I don't want to fight you. Because I'll lose. But understand that if we do, I fight dirty. One of you will most likely lose a nut. Or an eyeball. I'm not particular." It usually gets them thinking about how much they really like your girl.

Note the
and i dont think "possessive" is the right word. Possessive is where Opal wouldn't let anyone else have her, thinking only for himself.

Bottom line - it's about trust. If you don't trust her, then maybe it is time to think about ending things. What, do you think guys don't hit on her when you're not around? If you trust her, you'll know that she enjoys flirting because it makes her feel attractive and confident, but it doesn't stop her from loving you and wanting to be with you.

Often mistrust comes from projection. In other words, you don't think that in the same circumstances YOU'D resist temptation, therefore you assume she wouldn't. It ain't necessarily so.

don't forget Opal Being christain and calling them their chruch terms (A.K.A what they are called Infront of the kiddies), is evil and makes them not worth your time. (gays and broken families that is.)

Well unfortunatly i have NEVER EVER had a girlfriend and i am still a virgin... *sigh*

to make matters worse i'm 19.

Oh yeah? Well I'm a *20* year old virgin! hah!

You could always suggest a foursome with you, your girlfriend and the shaved gorillas. Of course the drawback is if they all agree.

Some thoughts:
Or if it gets to a potential fight situation, with your size I would consider doing the 'complete-fruit-loop-psycho-man' act. You know, you start hitting yourself in the face and yelling at them 'Do you want more? Want some of this?' as you slap yourself. With luck they'll feel sorry for you (or will be just plain freaked-out) and leave you alone.

Go straight up to your gf and say: "Oh honey, so sorry I'm late. The Taekwondo training session went on longer than I thought. You know how tough it gets this close to the World Champs. Man, I'm knackered! (pretending to notice the gorillas for the first time) Hey! Who are your friends?"

Whisper to one of them that your gf has a STD.

or final attempt:
Whisper to one of them that your girlfriend's really a man. You know like in 'The Crying Game'.

You could always suggest a foursome with you, your girlfriend and the shaved gorillas. Of course the drawback is if they all agree.

Some thoughts:
Or if it gets to a potential fight situation, with your size I would consider doing the 'complete-fruit-loop-psycho-man' act. You know, you start hitting yourself in the face and yelling at them 'Do you want more? Want some of this?' as you slap yourself. With luck they'll feel sorry for you (or will be just plain freaked-out) and leave you alone.

Go straight up to your gf and say: "Oh honey, so sorry I'm late. The Taekwondo training session went on longer than I thought. You know how tough it gets this close to the World Champs. Man, I'm knackered! (pretending to notice the gorillas for the first time) Hey! Who are your friends?"

Whisper to one of them that your gf has a STD.

or final attempt:
Whisper to one of them that your girlfriend's really a man. You know like in 'The Crying Game'.
LOL, they sound like good ideas

*vows to try them*
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ofcourse, there is the draw back with the last two that your GF would dump you ovwer it anyway :S