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I got this from the site below I thought I'd share.
heterosexual questionaire (http://www.SMYRC.org/bridge13/heterosexualquestionaire.html)

Most LGBT people are put, all too frequently, into situations where they have to defend their sexuality. This places a considerable burden on people who resent feeling they need to justify or explain their sexual lifestyle. To help non-gay people understand how it feels to be placed in such a situation, Alan K. Maylon, Ph.D. devised a questionnaire, which is based on “heterophobic” premises, rather than homophobic premises, which exist chronically in our society.
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What do you think caused your heterosexuality?

When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?

Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?

Is it possible you heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?

Isn’t it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?

Heterosexuals have histories of failures in gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?

If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?

If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?

To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?

Your heterosexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you don’t try to force it on me. Why do people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?

The great majority of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?

Why do you insists on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?

Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?

With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual like you, considering the menace of over population.

Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?

Does heterosexual acting-out necessarily make one heterosexual? Can’t a person have loving friends of the opposite sex without being labeled a heterosexual?

Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?

Why do you make a point of attributing heterosexuality to famous people: is it to justify your own heterosexuality?

I got this from the site below I thought I'd share.
heterosexual questionaire (http://www.SMYRC.org/bridge13/heterosexualquestionaire.html)

Most LGBT people are put, all too frequently, into situations where they have to defend their sexuality. This places a considerable burden on people who resent feeling they need to justify or explain their sexual lifestyle. To help non-gay people understand how it feels to be placed in such a situation, Alan K. Maylon, Ph.D. devised a questionnaire, which is based on “heterophobic” premises, rather than homophobic premises, which exist chronically in our society.
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What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
I was born that way.

When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?
Well I didn't decide it.

Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?
Nope.

Is it possible you heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
Nope.

Isn’t it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
No, I'm happy with my girlfriend.

Heterosexuals have histories of failures in gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?
I didn't "turn" to it because I've never been a homosexual.

If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?
Well I'd explain exactly why but I might get kicked off this server.

If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?
Because a majority of the population in general is hetrosexual.

To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?
Well pretty much everyone I talked to knows I'm straight and given I only know one or two homosexuals that I would call friends, most everyone is pretty much on the same page.

Your heterosexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you don’t try to force it on me. Why do people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?
People fear the unknown and feel seducing others will change them.

The great majority of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?
Given all my teachers that I'm aware of are hetrosexual and I've never been molested, I think it's fine. I don't really care what orientation my teachers are.

Why do you insists on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?
Actually, I don't announce it or anything.

Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?
Well I personally don't but I can't speak for those who do.

With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
Because people don't treat marriage as serious as they should.

How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual like you, considering the menace of over population.
It wouldn't, we'd waste all our resources and die.

Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?
Given it is the way you are born, I don't think it matters.

Does heterosexual acting-out necessarily make one heterosexual? Can’t a person have loving friends of the opposite sex without being labeled a heterosexual?
Sure but gossip and image are powerful things.

Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?
I donno.

Why do you make a point of attributing heterosexuality to famous people: is it to justify your own heterosexuality?
I don't give a damn which celeberties are gay and straight. If they're all gay, well I don't care.



All my answers are under the questions themselves.

All my answers are under the questions themselves.

I think it flew over your head... or your post flew over mine.

meh, answer if you like. I did when I was shown the site.

That's pretty darn good. *bookmarks site*

Haha, very funny. First replyer...gah.

One of the questions about sleeping with someone of the same sex and how we wouldn't know if it feels better is sort of bias, although this whole poll seems to question why people are straight. Well, if there were no straight people, the gays and lesbians would have to start having a lot of sex to maintain the population and by nature, creatures feel a need to reproduce, although I'm guessing that same feeling may not be as prevelant in homosexuals, am I right or just pissing in the wind?

That's called missing the point.

That's called missing the point.



I know, I know the point is that homosexuals are always having to defend their sexuality and now someone feels hetrosexuals should have to do the same.

I wish I was bi.

I wish I was bi.



Really, I don't personally but there are people that I wish were.

I know, I know the point is that homosexuals are always having to defend their sexuality and now someone feels hetrosexuals should have to do the same.
LoL. those questions are exactly the ones which gay people are asked... it's just satire... i think.

(satire is the right word yeah?)

How clever... *yawn*

LoL. those questions are exactly the ones which gay people are asked... it's just satire... i think.

(satire is the right word yeah?)

Yes, satire is the right word. But I don't think that the questionnare is entirely satirical- it has a grain of truth to it. If you're straight, did you ever question that? It's written to make people realize that they shouldn't favor any one particular path over the others.

I think it flew over your head... or your post flew over mine.

To me, his answers looked like he exemplifying the fact that most heteros don't care about defending their sexuality.

The only LGBT people I know that feel oppressed by doing so, are those who have a feeling that they are actually doing the wrong thing, such as one friend I have, who has told me that they weren't, the question it leaves me with and I ask the most is, why not just accept yourself for who you are.

I know I don't feel bad about defending my sexuality, or any of my opinions, and I have plenty of opinions that fall into "minority" categories that could be called politically incorrect, ie I'm a neo-conservative (which makes me borderline Fascist), I believe the only way military can stop insurgencies is to brutalise them into submission, lying to an ignorant population to support a positive goal is acceptable policy, and that a resource as important as oil is a viable reason for action in the middle east.

To me, his answers looked like he exemplifying the fact that most heteros don't care about defending their sexuality.

The only LGBT people I know that feel oppressed by doing so, are those who have a feeling that they are actually doing the wrong thing, such as one friend I have, who has told me that they weren't, the question it leaves me with and I ask the most is, why not just accept yourself for who you are.

I know I don't feel bad about defending my sexuality, or any of my opinions, and I have plenty of opinions that fall into "minority" categories that could be called politically incorrect, ie I'm a neo-conservative (which makes me borderline Fascist), I believe the only way military can stop insurgencies is to brutalise them into submission, lying to an ignorant population to support a positive goal is acceptable policy, and that a resource as important as oil is a viable reason for action in the middle east.

i didn't think of it like that... but it would get annoying to have to justify yourself to EVERY single person that knew you were gay.

Interesting idea, unfortunately, I will answer it (even though I know the idea of it is that it isn't supposed to be answered, but I'm showing you that it doesen't mean much when I can ansewr most of it) My answsers are bolded

What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
My existance as a human being.

When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?
I've always known I was, from the moment I was capable of understand the concept of sexual orientation

Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?
It is not a phase in the purest sense of the word, hence N/A. If you want to define phase more generally, then it is a neverending phase that will last all eternity, so no I won't "grow out of it"

Is it possible you heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
Nope, I have male friends I see on a very regular basis. I just have no romantic or sexual interest whatsoever in the same gender.

Isn’t it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
No not really, no matter how "good" of a lover that person was, how could I be interested in it when I have NO romantic nor sexual interest WHATSOEVER in the same gender?

Heterosexuals have histories of failures in gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?
I can't speak for other heterosexuals, but I have no "history of failure in gay relationships", since I have never had any interest in pursuing one. Therefore this question is not applicable

If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?
Umm is it that odd that because you haven't done something before you know you wouldn't like it? I mean I'm pretty sure most people know they wouldn't enjoy sleeping with a bear or something, but I'm sure they haven't done it.

If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?
Because a majority of the population is heterosexual. If more people in the population are heterosexual, then does it not make sense that more mental patients will be heterosexual?

To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?
Um, anyone who happens to be interested? Generally people just assume it, so I don't really have to say anything. They don't react in any sort of out-of-the-ordinary way, it's accepted as normal.

Your heterosexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you don’t try to force it on me. Why do people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?
I can't speak for others in this case, but I certainly don't feel compelled to draw people that aren't already into being heterosexual. They made that choice to be bisexual or homosexual, and once made, a choice cannot be unmade

The great majority of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?
Again, this question takes things way out of context. If indeed the great majority of child molesters were heterosexual, does this not make sense in light of the fact the majority of the population is heterosexual? I can compare this statement to the idea that, do you feel safe leaving your child in the presence of humans? After all, 100% of the people in prisons are human.

Why do you insists on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?
I don't make a public spectable of being heterosexual. Hence, this question is not applicable to me. I AM what I am and keep it rather quiet, unless someone asks or if it's related in some way to what I'm doing (i.e if I'm flirting with a girl I'm attracted to, the intent there is that I'm trying to get a date :P, hence there is a reason)

Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?
Why is that unhealthy? Face it, men and women are NOT the same. Does it not only make sense for men and women to play different roles in a relationship when they are different?

With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
Because societal support for marriage isn't good? Because people are stupid? People don't value relationships as deeply as they should? This question doesn't really apply to me since I value a relationship VERY VERY deeply... you'll have to find some random immoral person to answer this

How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual like you, considering the menace of over population.
War, plague, pestilence, natural disasters, man-made disasters, improving technology, etc. etc.

Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?
No, refer to the similar question asked above. I have male friends that I see often, but they are just that, *friends*

Does heterosexual acting-out necessarily make one heterosexual? Can’t a person have loving friends of the opposite sex without being labeled a heterosexual?
Er, if you have loving friends of the opposite sex, then you simply have really close friends? I don't understand the question. I love my friends of both genders, doesn't have any bearing on sexual orientation? If I didn't love them, they wouldn't be my friends...

Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?
Because of the way this society is constantly moving towards immoral behavior. Morality, honor and other such concepts are being discarded in favor of materialistic pleasure. I am not promiscous at all, so I cannot answer this question from a personal level

Why do you make a point of attributing heterosexuality to famous people: is it to justify your own heterosexuality?
I don't? Where on earth have you heard of a heterosexual person pointing at a famous heterosexual to justify their hetereosexuality? Actually when's the last time you saw a heterosexual feeling the NEEd to justify their heterosexuality?

As you can see, they all have answers. The questions are fairly invalid for the most part, and the ones that aren't are easily answered.

Is LGBT a new term, I've never seen it before? I'm assuming it stands for Lesbians Gays Bis and Transexuals...

I wonder why neither of the posters who answered the questions knew/noticed the word 'disproportionate'.

What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
My natural urge to procreate
When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?
I did not decide
Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?
Yes, the next phase is death
Is it possible you heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
No
Isn’t it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
No, or do you mean gay as is happy? Then yes
Heterosexuals have histories of failures in gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?
No, I had no gay relationships
If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?
It seems absolutally wrong
If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?
Coincidence?
To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?
Everyone, they reacted like it was the most normal thing in the world (which it is)
Your heterosexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you don’t try to force it on me. Why do people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?
So they can understand them better
The great majority of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?
Better than no education. Childmolesters are an exception to the rule
Why do you insists on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?
Homosexuals don't do it either
Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?
They're natural role models
With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
Because divorce is now widely accepted as a way out when thing go bad, even for just a week or so
How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual like you, considering the menace of over population.
Most European countries would die out, because the birth rate is too low
Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?
They do, but it is not the reason for them to be heterosexual
Does heterosexual acting-out necessarily make one heterosexual? Can’t a person have loving friends of the opposite sex without being labeled a heterosexual?
He/She can certainly, but it is not common
Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?
YAY Generalizations
Why do you make a point of attributing heterosexuality to famous people: is it to justify your own heterosexuality?
I don't

Btw i made a typo, the such as one friend I have, who has told me that they weren't should have been such as one friend I have, who has told me that they wish they weren't.

i didn't think of it like that... but it would get annoying to have to justify yourself to EVERY single person that knew you were gay.

Yet again the question remains why justify yourself? Do you in any way have any responsibility about your sexuality to these people? Until your sexuality is considered key to your position in life (say you're a rep for a bible belt region, or a company CEO who gets deep investment from a predominantly anti-gay region), such information would never be anyone else's business.

Let me iterate this point, unless your sexuality is somehow a key notion to your responsibility in life, to feel the need to and/or defend your sexuality is purely your choice.

Now as for the questions, my answers might seem a little odd, but really I don't care, haha

What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
My natural disposition, culture and upbringing, which one holds the greatest weight I'm really not too sure, far too much personal bias.

When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?
I don't remember making a decision.

Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?
I drift between my heterosexuality and celibacy depending on what I'm currently doing in my life, when i get buried in other stuff, my girlfriends have become very bitter as I lose almost all sense of sexual drive.

Is it possible you heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
Not really, i have eastern european descendants, but one thing I've noticed is that most westerners have irrational fear of almost any male-male contact, such as the traditional greetings from that side of my family.

Isn’t it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
My sexuality has next to no control over my life, it's almost a conscious choice nowadays, so this question is irrelevant.

Heterosexuals have histories of failures in gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?
What few fears I have in my life are fast evaporating, having been clinically dead once sort of fixed the last few :P

If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?
They don't have the right working parts? lol

If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?
Because stupid heterosexuals breed? ;)

To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?
most people I know are aware of it, and how they reacted I never really took any notice of it.

Your heterosexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you don’t try to force it on me. Why do people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?
I don't.

The great majority of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?
I don't consider it safe to expose my children to catholic priests that are teaching if that's what you're asking? hoho, but seriously, a teachers sexuality is irrelevant to me.

Why do you insists on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?
Public sexuality of any notion is generally frowned upon in my ultra conservative part of Australia (I'm from Murdochville (the guy who owns Fox) err Adelaide, Australia), I prefer it that way.

Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?
Because it best suits my interests (ugh there's my machiavellian neo Fascism coming out again :P).

With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
As previously noted, because marriage is not held in the same esteem or respect as it was or should be.

How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual like you, considering the menace of over population.
Honestly, if slowing population down through westernisation fails (we breed slow), then more reproduction laws, akin to China's one child policy will be in order, this however to be successful needs to show more bias against the lowest common denominator.

Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?
Yes we do, it's all a big game ;)

Does heterosexual acting-out necessarily make one heterosexual? Can’t a person have loving friends of the opposite sex without being labeled a heterosexual?
This is a reflection of the same issue i answered previously, the irrational fear prevalent to male-male contact in much of western culture, which just isn't present due to my eastern european family ties.

Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?
Because modern western culture has stepped away from its roots (and by roots, i mean Socrates, Plato and Plato's students such as Aristotle, not religious overtures) and is declining, the sexual promiscuity being one of the obvious signs.

Why do you make a point of attributing heterosexuality to famous people: is it to justify your own heterosexuality?
I don't.