Just to balance it out...
Tellenthion
17-09-2004, 02:58
I was just reading the topic Warpedmindsofthedead posted about how to ask a girl out, and I thought, just to balance it out, answer me this:
How do you break up with a girl if you want to stay friends with her?
Talk to her. Don't just declare it's over. Tell her why. And it won't always work.
Opal Isle
17-09-2004, 03:01
How to break up with a girl and stay friends?
Don't. Wait for her to break up with you, that then puts you in control (for the most part) of decided whether or not to stay friends.
Tellenthion
17-09-2004, 03:04
How to break up with a girl and stay friends?
Don't. Wait for her to break up with you, that then puts you in control (for the most part) of decided whether or not to stay friends.
That's what I've been trying to do. The question is, how can you trick her into hating you just enough for her to break up with you but not actually hating you?
Enoxaparin
17-09-2004, 03:05
The question is, how can you trick her into hating you just enough for her to break up with you but not actually hating you?
Subtly set her up with one of your friends.
The question is, how can you trick her into hating you just enough for her to break up with you but not actually hating you?
Ohhh.... That's such a great lead in to list my ex-boyfriends' bad habits. But I shouldn't.
Opal Isle
17-09-2004, 03:09
That's what I've been trying to do. The question is, how can you trick her into hating you just enough for her to break up with you but not actually hating you?
How come you've been a member for 5 more months than me and I have 4500 more posts than you? I am confused.
Eh...plan B is just break up with her then not try being friends for a while...like completely cut her off for a while so that it doesn't start out as a weak, shaky friendship that ends up not going anywhere. After a few months and after you've got a new girlfriend, start talking to the old one again. I've never talked to an ex-girlfriend much before getting a new girlfriend. (There is one I haven't talked to in about 5-6 months...but last week I ran into someone I met like 2 years ago, and I'm hoping I'll see her again soon sometime so I can remember to get her number...)
Staying friends is a bad idea unless both parties decide that the relationship is not heading in the right direction. If it's not a mutual decision then there will always be resentment. The best way is to let the "romantic" stuff fade out until what you basically have is just a friendship, then a fair conversation must be had.
... IMHO making a point to stay friends is worthless because it never works (in my personal experience), and even if it does it will not last.
Tellenthion
17-09-2004, 03:17
How come you've been a member for 5 more months than me and I have 4500 more posts than you? I am confused.
Because I didn't actually start posting in the forum until about 2 months in, and even then I never really post all that much, though I do pretty much read everything. Besides, I don't participate in debates (they usually just spiral downwards into flamewars), which is what most of the topics either start as or end up as.
Little Ossipee
17-09-2004, 03:20
Staying friends is a bad idea unless both parties decide that the relationship is not heading in the right direction. If it's not a mutual decision then there will always be resentment. The best way is to let the "romantic" stuff fade out until what you basically have is just a friendship, then a fair conversation must be had.
... IMHO making a point to stay friends is worthless because it never works (in my personal experience), and even if it does it will not last.Agreed.
Opal Isle
17-09-2004, 03:21
Agreed.
I second the agreement...
The Island of Rose
17-09-2004, 03:23
Kiss a guy on the lips, end of story.
Opal Isle
17-09-2004, 03:25
Kiss a guy on the lips, end of story.
Actually...that's probably a good way to get a lot of female friends...
and despite my heterosexualness, I actually like female friends a lot more than any of my male friends...but that's probably mostly because essentially all guys have one system of values: physical attractiveness, and I just don't completely conform to that (although it's a definite [small] part of my system of values).
Actually...that's probably a good way to get a lot of female friends...
and despite my heterosexualness, I actually like female friends a lot more than any of my male friends...but that's probably mostly because essentially all guys have one system of values: physical attractiveness, and I just don't completely conform to that (although it's a definite [small] part of my system of values).
Women seem to be quite fond of gay men... hence the metrosexual movement.
Opal Isle
17-09-2004, 03:30
meh...I have plenty of female friends without conforming to metrosexualism...
I just have this feeling that a metrosexual would take it in the ass if it meant he got to date a hot chick...and I'm just not down with that.
meh...I have plenty of female friends without conforming to metrosexualism...
I just have this feeling that a metrosexual would take it in the ass if it meant he got to date a hot chick...and I'm just not down with that.
Agreed.
Reltaran
17-09-2004, 04:44
How do you break up with a girl if you want to stay friends with her?
You go out and find the first piece of hot male ass you can, because you're obviously gay.
Kryozerkia
17-09-2004, 04:54
I was just reading the topic Warpedmindsofthedead posted about how to ask a girl out, and I thought, just to balance it out, answer me this:
How do you break up with a girl if you want to stay friends with her?
I'll give you the answer you might want.
I'm a girl, so I can tell you what your best approach is.
If you want to break up with her but remain friends, do it sooner than later. if you wait too long, then she'll be bitter and resentful of you. If you break up with her soon, and in a calm conversation explain that you still like her, but you're not ready to persue a relationship with her at this time, but you'd like very much to remain friends with her, and that you enjoy her company.