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Ok I am 13 years old and for the first time there is a girl (there I just broke a habit) who wants to go out with me (I think) And I want to go out with her too... But I A) Don't know what to say and B) Don't know when to ask her out. Any suggestionss?

Do what kids at my school do, have a friend ask her for you.

Go on a walk with her, and talk to her first. This will help you to feel more comfortable about asking her. If you guys start hitting it off, then you ask her, and I can guarantee she will say yes.

Do what kids at my school do, have a friend ask her for you.
But see that is the problem, My freind likes her too but does not have her in any of his classes, She is 5 of my 8 classes

awwwwww! bless! so cute!

Go on a walk with her, and talk to her first. This will help you to feel more comfortable about asking her. If you guys start hitting it off, then you ask her, and I can guarantee she will say yes.

^^^ He's right. Do that.

But see that is the problem, My freind likes her too but does not have her in any of his classes, She is 5 of my 8 classes

If you really like her, but are afraid to talk to her, pass her a note or something. This may seem kind of crude to you, but the way it works where I live is, ask the person straightforward, don't ask them at all, or have a friend ask for you.

"The way to a woman's bed is through her parents. Have sex with them, and you're in."

^^^ He's right. Do that.

Really? I will try that tomorrow...

If you really like her, but are afraid to talk to her, pass her a note or something. This may seem kind of crude to you, but the way it works where I live is, ask the person straightforward, don't ask them at all, or have a friend ask for you.

I have talked to her and I have no probem doing that... But since she is new to my school I don't know a friggin thing about her...

I have talked to her and I have no probem doing that... But since she is new to my school I don't know a friggin thing about her...
So just talk to her. Try to get to know her. But don't put off asking her out for too long, because then you'll just be "really good friends" (and trust me, that can suck).

So just talk to her. Try to get to know her. But don't put off asking her out for too long, because then you'll just be "really good friends" (and trust me, that can suck).

Yea I know a little about her but not much...

Don't do it. It's only going to last a few weeks at most.

Don't do it. It's only going to last a few weeks at most.
Why?

Probably best you don't know too much....Though if you're thirteen (and I assume she's a similar age) there shouldn't be too much past history to worry about...OH SHIT FILTER KEYS HAS TURNED ON SO I NOW CAN@T TYPE SENSIBLY>>>ANYWAY< JUST BE CASUAL AND DON@T GET TOO WORKED UP ABOUT IT< IF SHE SAYS "NO" THEN TAKE IT LIKE A MAN< NOT MUCH ELSE I CAN SAY REALLY> THE OTHER@S HAVE COVERED PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING ELSE< EXCEPT< GOOD LUCK!
NOW I@M GONNA GO TRY AND SORT OUT MY PIECE OF SHIT GODDAMN MOTHERFUCKING COMPUTER>>>

Don't do it. It's only going to last a few weeks at most.
So?

So just talk to her. Try to get to know her. But don't put off asking her out for too long, because then you'll just be "really good friends" (and trust me, that can suck).

Exactly, he can be friendly but his must watch/feel it when he is asking to much and there is no such bad thing if one of his friends will get her instead of him.


Be interested an get her talking.

She is actuly 12 so I do have an advantage because I am older than her but we are still in the same grade (I started school late like when I was six...)

I'd say that you have the upperhand on your freind, but if you are afraid that he will take her I'd say go now and get it over with...

Yes I think I do have the lead on my freind... Everyone has suggested what to do and not what to say, I really need help with this part simply because I have never done this before... I have seen my freind( Yes the same freind) ask many chicks out and I have found what and not to do, but for obvious reasons I didn't hear any of his conversations.

Ask her out, you have nothing to lose.

Then again, I can't take I've never had a girlfriend, date, still a virgin...

But that's because of my teenage low self esteem :P

Bleh who needs women...

*goes back to sucking his thumb*

Hide behind some bushes near her house. When you notice her in a window take off all your cloths and streak around her house while shouting "I love you (insert her name here)!!!!!" And maybe throw in a few Whooooooooooooooooo's and wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee's

Frankly If you have 2 months go with the beer depravtion method get her to be good freinds with you then start missing out on meetings then go back to talking to her and ask her out simple as that. everyone wants it to go fast but time will lend you the keys to the car instead of fate.

Ask her if she likes bread :D

**wonders how many will get that**

Yes I think I do have the lead on my freind... Everyone has suggested what to do and not what to say, I really need help with this part simply because I have never done this before... I have seen my freind( Yes the same freind) ask many chicks out and I have found what and not to do, but for obvious reasons I didn't hear any of his conversations.
start with a mild converstation about the brain then move on to choclate being an basic love inducer then leave and come back start talking about parents then move on to stuff more intresting say "uhh look I have been avoiding this but ..." Insert your fave way of asking her out If you don't have one get one out of a movie that doesn't involve baby.

start with a mild converstation about the brain then move on to choclate being an basic love inducer then leave and come back start talking about parents then move on to stuff more intresting say "uhh look I have been avoiding this but ..." Insert your fave way of asking her out If you don't have one get one out of a movie that doesn't involve baby.
Again I don't have any pickup lines and all the movies I watch don't have pickup lines. For example the Matrix seires and Blade Runer... Any tips on pickup lines?

Do what kids at my school do, have a friend ask her for you.
Yeah, but that's the p***y was of doing it. Trust me, once you get to High School, all that changes.

Sneak up behind her and say in an almost raspy voice “here kitty kitty kitty kitty.”

Again I don't have any pickup lines and all the movies I watch don't have pickup lines. For example the Matrix seires and Blade Runer... Any tips on pickup lines?
all right since you ain't got none and they have to sound like a line you would use just say want to go on a date? or You want to go out?

Ask her if she likes bread :D

**wonders how many will get that**
All that comes to my mind is a certain popular marching cadence, but I think it's fairly safe to assume that's not what you're alluding to.

All that comes to my mind is a certain popular marching cadence, but I think it's fairly safe to assume that's not what you're alluding to.

See, you'd love to be able to say "I saw you in the classroom today. As the sun came from behind the clouds, a burst of brilliant light caught your hair, it was haloed in front of me. You turned, your eyes flashed fire into my soul, I immediately read the words of Dostoyevsky and Karl Marx, and in the words of Albert Schweitzer, 'I fancy you.' "

But no. At 13, you're just going, " 'ello, Sue. I've got legs. Do you like bread? I've got a French loaf. ( smacking sound ) Bye! I love you!"


(common people, this is practically word for word here!)

Yo man... If you really want to go out with her then just tell her. I asked my girlfreind to sit with me at lunchthen I asked her out then.

Don't. Be gay. Or asexual. It is much easier that way.

(So true Goed...and then you get hopeless romantics who get turned down because they are always too nice)

Don't. Be gay. Or asexual. It is much easier that way.

(So true Goed...and then you get hopeless romantics who get turned down because they are always too nice)

I wasn't planing on it...

I wasn't planing on it...
Hey, don't knock it 'til you try it. :)

I wasn't planing on it...
Save yourself much trouble. They aren't worth it at your age...at least until college.

Arrange for a SMALL group of friends to hang out, go to the movies...something and invite her along. Make sure your friends know whats going on. When you're out with her and your friends, you can talk to her to your hearts content, without it seeming like there's any pressure on you to live up to anything. Its a 'date', but without the pressure of it being a 'date'.

...I hate quotation marks.

I've done this many times, and it works more times than it fails.

See, you'd love to be able to say "I saw you in the classroom today. As the sun came from behind the clouds, a burst of brilliant light caught your hair, it was haloed in front of me. You turned, your eyes flashed fire into my soul, I immediately read the words of Dostoyevsky and Karl Marx, and in the words of Albert Schweitzer, 'I fancy you.' "

But no. At 13, you're just going, " 'ello, Sue. I've got legs. Do you like bread? I've got a French loaf. ( smacking sound ) Bye! I love you!"


(common people, this is practically word for word here!)




ahhhhhh, Eddie Izzard....

You're too young to need help. Just go with whatever feels good. Just don't use pick up lines, they suck.

Alright, look...

I'm 15. And I'm going to stay away from relationships for a fair amount of time. Right now, I don't want to lose any of the few friends I have left through crude break-ups, and that kind of crap. If I want to lose any of my friends, I'll just shut off AIM, unplug the phone, and not say a damn word to anyone in school.

Now, especially at your age. You need to give it at least another year or so before you can really understand what relationships and commitments mean. And don't even THINK about true love until at least age 20.

Ok I am 13 years old

Then I shall excuse anything hereafter.

and for the first time there is a chick

Step 1: Try thinking of her as a girl or a young lady. "Chick" is not a nice thing to say about a girl you'd like to go out with.

who wants to go out with me (I think) And I want to go out with her too...

Then there shouldn't be a problem, but such is the age. Always cute.

A) Don't know what to say

Start with a friendly "Hello". Try to refrain from "Holla" or "'Sup ho" or anything other than a nice smile and a friendly "Hello". She's probably just as nervous as you.

B) Don't know when to ask her out.

Well that's just a matter of convenience. However, if she wants to go out with you and you want to go out with her, any time should suffice.

Some tips:

1] Don't try to impress. Just be relax and be yourself.
2] Don't be pushy.
3] Find out what she'd like to do (by asking her, not others) and make your plans based on that.
4] Have fun! You're 13 ... no reason to be serious right now.

Wow thanks alot... I was going to walk her to her next class but it was to far away, but she did sit with me at lunch and we talked alot for like 30 minutes or sumtin till the little arabian lunchlady told us to get out...

Wow thanks alot... I was going to walk her to her next class but it was to far away, but she did sit with me at lunch and we talked alot for like 30 minutes or sumtin till the little arabian lunchlady told us to get out...


Hey! That's pretty cool! It's amazing the difference a simple 30 minute conversation can do. Bet it made your whole day, eh?

Good for you, man!

Oops ... forgot to include in my advice to avoid Arabic lunch ladies! :eek: :eek:

Hey! That's pretty cool! It's amazing the difference a simple 30 minute conversation can do. Bet it made your whole day, eh?

Good for you, man!

Oops ... forgot to include in my advice to avoid Arabic lunch ladies! :eek: :eek:

Thank you... It made the whole part of getting an "F" on my math test a hell of alot better...

Ok I am 13 years old and for the first time there is a chick who wants to go out with me (I think) And I want to go out with her too... But I A) Don't know what to say and B) Don't know when to ask her out. Any suggestionss?

First, don't call her a "chick."

Second, go for it.

Third, just be honest.

First, don't call her a "chick."

Sorry bad bad habit... It was the wierd arabian lunch lady who calls them chicks not me :D :D

Look man, take it from a 14 year old who's got lots of "friends" that are going out but isn't.
"I don't want a girlfriend. They're too high matinence."
"What should I go out for? So I can spend all my time with someone, neglect my friends and family, learn to love them, and then get dumped so I'm worse off than I was before? Sounds like lots of fun."

Then ignore my cynical side. All of my friends say that you should just go for it. Ask her out simply. "Do you want to go out with me?" if it's a no, don't feel bad. She isn't worthy of you if she rejects you. If it's a yes, she's lucky to be going out with someone as good a person as you are.

Makes sense to me...

ok, even though you feel like there's pressure because your friend is interested. there isn't all that much pressure if you're what she wants.

first, have a bit of a chat with her at school a few days in a row. then ask her if she'd mind you calling for a chat sometime, then hopefully she'll give you her phone number and you can call her and chat. once you get to know each other a bit better by talking on the phone a couple of times, find an opportunity to take her for a walk, and while you're on the walk, tell her you're interested and that you'd love it if she'd be your girlfriend (or if you could be her boyfriend, whichever you think sounds better).

trust me, even though it'll take about a week, you'll have more success for it. she'll be more comfortable with you and won't feel like she's being asked out by a stranger.

as far as telling you all the things you should say or talk about... she'll be wanting to get to know before going out with you... not us :)

hope that helps a bit?

Thank you... It made the whole part of getting an "F" on my math test a hell of alot better...

Then you have already learned one of the most important lessons you will ever learn: Some things in life are more important than grades. :D

Yea is does help... Would her screenname do? I know it is not the same as talking in person but it is a start... Plus to tell you the truth I don't know if her parents let her date you know what I mean...

Yea is does help... Would her screenname do? I know it is not the same as talking in person but it is a start... Plus to tell you the truth I don't know if her parents let her date you know what I mean...
I know exactly what you mean. Regrettably. I woulda had a chance, if I could have gotten through her damn parents...

Then you have already learned one of the most important lessons you will ever learn: Some things in life are more important than grades. :D
I have know for a long time that, for me, EVERYTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN GRADES!!! Just that my parents hate it when I come home with crappy grades(Which they should be acustomed to by now...)

I have know for a long time that, for me, EVERYTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN GRADES!!! Just that my parents hate it when I come home with crappy grades(Which they should be acustomed to by now...)
Lies and damned lies.

Lies and damned lies.

It's easy to get good grades, it's called studying ;) And yes that is a lie. Nothing is more important then grade. The Imperial Emporer Bush told me so.

It's easy to get good grades, it's called studying ;) And yes that is a lie. Nothing is more important then grade. The Imperial Emporer Bush told me so.
You people never fail to find a way to turn a completely nonpartisan issue into something political...

Ok I am 13 years old and for the first time there is a girl (there I just broke a habit) who wants to go out with me (I think) And I want to go out with her too... But I A) Don't know what to say and B) Don't know when to ask her out. Any suggestionss?
don't listen to anyone here.

You people never fail to find a way to turn a completely nonpartisan issue into something political...
It's those damned liberals :D

You should really try to find out if she has had a boyfreind before, if she says yes then you have a greenlight. If she says no then ask her if she is allowed to date. If she then says no you're screwed and wait till she can date.

It's those damned liberals :D
13 year olds shouldn't date! They'll have pre-marital Sex, and spawn more republicans!

13 year olds shouldn't date! They'll have pre-marital Sex, and spawn more republicans!

I am 14 now and I met my girl freind when I was 13... Plus in some area's in the states you need to have a girlfreind/boyfreind or you are a loner and everyone puts you down...

I am 14 now and I met my girl freind when I was 13... Plus in some area's in the states you need to have a girlfreind/boyfreind or you are a loner and everyone puts you down...

Yea where I come from it is like that too, just not as bad as yours sounds. Plus most kids in my school started dating in 5th or 6th grade... So I am preety late compared to other people in the school.

Yea where I come from it is like that too, just not as bad as yours sounds. Plus most kids in my school started dating in 5th or 6th grade... So I am preety late compared to other people in the school.

It can be bad at my school but so far this year it has been ok...

Yea my middle school was like that too. Now high school is worse so my advice is get girls now not later...

Yea my middle school was like that too. Now high school is worse so my advice is get girls now not later...

I agree, It is stupid to wait till high school to get a girlfreind. If she can't date yet at least be freinds till she can...

Ok I finnaly just asked her out and....... She said sure. I also found out that she lives like a block away from me and that she has wanted to go out with me since 6th grade.... The only problem now is where to go out to... The closest thing that is in walking distance is Burger King and the nearest movie theater is a few miles away...

Ok she just came over and I walked her back home. She has already told her freinds that she is going out with me. I still don't know where to take her though...

Hehe, good job. Bored forum browser here. I honestly didn't start "dating" till senior year of high school (should probably mention I'm an immature 21 years young now), but there were always girls.

I've always found that a quiet walk through a nice park (if you're a suburbanite, otherwise stay indoors!) at night is awesome. It's quiet, you're not all self-concious (spell check? probably wrong, I've always had trouble even pronouncing it) about eating in front of her or worried about begging mommy and daddy for money for BK and having to explain your going on your first date. (Aww, My baby is becoming a MAYUN!) More fun too, get to be yourself, she can be herself and you can snuggle up in the grass.

Best dates EVAR!

And will you look at that.. Joined in July 2003 and this is only my second post! My GOD I'M GOOD!