NationStates Jolt Archive

Okay, I'm just curious about other people's opinions on this matter. My friend and I had different ones. Say you went to a very public place such as Seaworld and you were there with your significant other. They propose to you on the jumbo screen and let's say the answer has to be no. For whatever reason. Maybe you are not ready for marriage or you are not that serious about them, whatever. How would you do it? Would you- Tell them right there in front of everyone with the camera on the both of you watching every move, or would you tell them "yes" to save them from embarrassment only to turn around later when the two of you are alone and tell them "no"? I picked tell them right there- even though it would embarass them. I thought that was better than lying to them. What do you all think?

i dont think you should get their hopes up by telling them no and then changing it, and if they did it in public, how many people would they know there to be embarrased in front of anyway? i mean sure it would be embarrasing, but it isnt like everyone you know saw it and will remind you of it for the rest of your life

The only solution to save both of you from public embarrassment, yet to remain honest would be to temporarily lose your mind, rip off your clothes and streak onto the field and/or jump into the killer whale tank.

With any luck, the question will be withdrawn. :D

You know, having seen public proposals done a number of times, I've often wondered what would happen in this situation. I think I'd go for the 'telling them there & then' option. Oh sure, it may seem cruel, but at least it's honest & I'm sorry but if a guy is daft/arrogant enough to propose in public & put a girl on the spot like that, he's brought it on himself. She shouldn't be the one who feels embarassed.*

Incidentally, has anyone ever seen that show where they get girls to put their men on the spot & try to shame him into marrying them on television? The evil, bloody-minded bitch in me has always longed to see the guy turn around and say "Well if you are shallow enough think you have to embarass me into marrying you on national television, you clearly aren't the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with and under the circumstances, getting into this relationship was a huge mistake".

* Note: I only assume that the guy is doing the proposing because I'm female myself.

The only solution to save both of you from public embarrassment, yet to remain honest would be to temporarily lose your mind, rip off your clothes and streak onto the field and/or jump into the killer whale tank.

With any luck, the question will be withdrawn. :D

I like that idea. :D

But failing sudden insanity, I would rather tell them then and there.

How'd you come up with this question anyway? Doesn't seem like something that would happen often.

I'd go get something to eat.

Yup, that's what I'd done.

I think doing something like that on the big screen is emotional blackmail. They're trying to pressure you into saying yes. I'd hate to be them when I said no. I'd almost say no just for the fact that they'd sunk so low as to use the big screen. It would just reinforce my feelings about them.