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Other: gotta have a good sense of humour (well she needs one going out with someone like me)

trustworthiness

I agree that those two are important factors. :)

I think most importantly she'd have to not tell my wife.

:D :D

i hate to break it to everyone who wants to feel deep, and better than we superficial folk.

but if someone's appearance isn't appealing, they're never going to be your girl or boyfriend. they might not even make it to "friend."

i'm sure you all know people with lovely personalities that you are not dating, have never dated, and wouldn't date. why is that? i doubt it's a sense of humor, trustworthiness, or some other personality aspect.

just my two cents. but what do i know? my girlfriend is gorgeous, smart, trustworthy, tall, thin, fun... :D

I think most importantly she'd have to not tell my wife.

:D :D

:)

Beauty.

Hard to say, but personality I guess.

Appearance is pretty important, sorry but I don't want to date an ugly guy... Amount of money they have is supremely unimportant, I don't care about money one way or the other... Ethnicity is unimportant... Religion is unimportant as long as they aren't trying to convert me to their faith... Political views aren't that important, although I'd hate to date a super conservative idiot... Whether they want children or not is important because I do not want children and they better not either.

Intelligence is high on the list too, though. Could never date an idiot. It would suck.

Most important factor in picking someone is that they have an interest in me. After that there are a variety of factor. While appearance is one of them, it is actually late in the process that I consider it, thus it always amazes me when I realize that someone I am deeply interested in doesn't meet my aesthetic criteria.

Whether I feel comfortable around them or not, since I don't feel comfortable around the vast majority of people.

Personality, interests, how they make me feel about myself and appearance.

Of course interests and how they make me feel are to some degree aspects of personality.

She must be
1. Not a bitch/nag
2. Not afraid of little critters
3. Not a self righteous, self congratulatory, braggart.
4. Less annoying than the rest of my family.


Now that I think about it a bit more. They all seem to be ale to fall under number 4. So lets add some things that don't fall under number 4.

5. Smart
6. Kinky
7. Playful

Any other good qualities would be an added bonus.

Personality.. beauty doesn't last forever. But I wouldn't date someone who's a monster either.

Another thing is chemistry.

Personality is most important if it's gonna last. I think in there you can find chemestry, intrests,thrustworthy etc.

Anyway, appearance, can't that be the way how he/she enters a room and make the others in the room feel. Don't know how to describe it, but lesser goodlooking people can make a great appearance for some people while others who are goodlooking doesn't. Anyone get what I mean?

I look for a lot of things, but I think it's a nebulous thing, what makes you love someone. It's not that easy to nail down. It's a combination of things like sincerity, honesty, shared interests, whether I can talk to them for more than five minutes without getting fed up or bored...a little bit of physical attraction, taste, intelligence, capacity for affection, depth, a sense of humor, consideration, thoughtfulness, dignity, self-respect, respect in general...

It's a lot of things.

Personality is most important if it's gonna last. I think in there you can find chemestry, intrests,thrustworthy etc.

Anyway, appearance, can't that be the way how he/she enters a room and make the others in the room feel. Don't know how to describe it, but lesser goodlooking people can make a great appearance for some people while others who are goodlooking doesn't. Anyone get what I mean?


Hey, I know what you mean. A good-looking bullshitter can get to look pretty unattractive in a short time. "Oh look. Fuck. It's so-and-so again. Let's go get some coffee. I don't feel like listening to a line right now."

On the other hand, someone who isn't conventionally attractive can be the face you love to see the best, someone who makes you light up as soon as you spot them, because they're someone who makes others feel good about themselves, and doesn't make them feel like he/she is putting on a show to impress them.

Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Another good saying is, "Handsome is as handsome does."

i hate to break it to everyone who wants to feel deep, and better than we superficial folk.

but if someone's appearance isn't appealing, they're never going to be your girl or boyfriend. they might not even make it to "friend."

i'm sure you all know people with lovely personalities that you are not dating, have never dated, and wouldn't date. why is that? i doubt it's a sense of humor, trustworthiness, or some other personality aspect.

just my two cents. but what do i know? my girlfriend is gorgeous, smart, trustworthy, tall, thin, fun... :D

But by the same respect, we probably all know really really gorgeous people who we'd never date because they have all the personality of roadkill.

i hate to break it to everyone who wants to feel deep, and better than we superficial folk.

but if someone's appearance isn't appealing, they're never going to be your girl or boyfriend. they might not even make it to "friend."

i'm sure you all know people with lovely personalities that you are not dating, have never dated, and wouldn't date. why is that? i doubt it's a sense of humor, trustworthiness, or some other personality aspect.

just my two cents. but what do i know? my girlfriend is gorgeous, smart, trustworthy, tall, thin, fun... :D
Ah, how's life at the shallow end of the pool? From such a 'privilaged' point of view you might have missed a phenomenom that is so hackneyed even open-mic comics can't use it anymore-the hot chic with the scrubby looking guy, or the hot dude with the scrubby looking chic. That would take time away from checking yourself in the mirror and congradulating yourself on being so hot......

To answer the question at hand, I don't look for anything other than a connection with the other person. Your not picking a car ("I like this, but do you have it in a Red-headed accountant?") your finding that you'd rather be with someone than without them.

I don't think I'd be able to spend more than five minutes with a guy who gave me the distinct impression that he masturbated only while looking at himself in the mirror. I'd strangle him if I couldn't get away from him fast enough.

;)

I'd have to say a mixture of good looks and a good personality.

I am not an either or kind of person.

An ugly person with an awesome personality is no good for me. While an extremely attractive person with no personality also, is no good for me.

The girl I'm trying to get with I am now having doubts about, as she seems to prefer the "cute" guys over anything else. Despite the fact that they are idiots, treat her like meat, and can't make anyone laugh... But as long as they are cute... *sigh*

Your not picking a car ("I like this, but do you have it in a Red-headed accountant?") your finding that you'd rather be with someone than without them.Well said, mind if I steal it?

Ethnicity doesn't matter because Ethnicity is a sub-division of race.

As long as the woman falls under the category "White race" they are fine.

Their ethnicity can be German, Russia, Polish, Italian, English, Spanish, Portuguese, Serbian, Irish, etc, it doesn't matter. White is white, and white is right.


That is why I went with political views then.

If race had been an option, I'd have selected it.

But race and ethnicity are not interchangeable terms.

Well said, mind if I steal it?
Knock yourself out.

Amount of money they have.

First years you get along well, but then you go live together and you start noticing the little differences. Your Husband/wife gets uglier with the years. The love dissapears and eventually you get the feeling you're sleeping next to your sister/brother. So go for someone rich, be wise, invest the money and when your 55 you'll still have the money.

And its really a 58 year old man who told me this. Dunno if he's right.
We'll just have to see

Ethnicity doesn't matter because Ethnicity is a sub-division of race.

As long as the woman falls under the category "White race" they are fine.

Their ethnicity can be German, Russia, Polish, Italian, English, Spanish, Portuguese, Serbian, Irish, etc, it doesn't matter. White is white, and white is right.


That is why I went with political views then.

If race had been an option, I'd have selected it.

But race and ethnicity are not interchangeable terms.

im guessing you dont get alot of dates

L'amor no té raó,
l'amor no té control,
és quelcom inexplicable,
que et torna irresonable. :fluffle:

It really matters that they're alive.

It really matters that they're alive.
Not to all people...

1. Personality
1. Appearance
3. Intelligence

L'amor no té raó,
l'amor no té control,
és quelcom inexplicable,
que et torna irresonable. :fluffle:

Translation, please, someone?

Translation, please, someone?
The sex has to be good :fluffle:

Can I say multiple of the above?

Appearence: Fricking duh, if I'm not attracted to them then nothing's going to happen
Personality: One of the more important aspects. We need to have quite a bit in common, otherwise we'll drive each other insane. Plus, I don't want a total bitch
Money: Meaningless
Employment: Meaningless, I don't control her life
Ethnicity: Not that important, though to be honest I am more attracted to asian girls, native american girls, and latino girls. **shrugs** cie'st la vie (think I spelled that right)
Religion: Important, but to an extent. Sorry, but it would drive me batty trying to go out with someone who's religious beliefs were far away from mine.
Age: As it is right now, my rule is 3 up, 2 down :p
Political Views: Yes, for the same reason as personality and religion. Opposites attract, but don't stay together.
Kids: I dunno. I'd like to have kids. Honestly. And I'd rather adopt. However, if she wants to be pregnant-her choice :p. Of course, I'm assuming this would be considered AFTER marrige...

Oh, and I'd classify stuff like "humour" under personality.

Ethnicity: Not that important, though to be honest I am more attracted to asian girls, native american girls, and latino girls. **shrugs** cie'st la vie (think I spelled that right)

Then you, my friend, have good taste. :)

She has to be a ballerina, a chemist or physicist (degree holding), and a poetess (no free verse). She also has to be piercing friendly, beer friendly, and like the food I like.

Personality. More specifically, brains and a sense of humour & doesn't take life/himself too seriously. And the ability to deal with my own rather eccentric personality.

I think someone else mentioned chemistry too.

PS: I also have to be able to trust them.

Then you, my friend, have good taste. :)hmmmm.....are you an Azn Girl?