NationStates Jolt Archive

What are your feelings about it? Are you very much against it? Couldn't care less either way? Think people actually SHOULD?

Please include why in your response...

I'm extremely against it because I think it's very immoral and disrespectful, and anyone that cheats shows by doing so that he or she doesn't love or care about the person they are with....

I added the one with the * as kind of an afterthought, because I was in an argument with someone and that's basically what she said she thinks...

Clarification due to the second poster: Cheating as in being unfaithful in a relationship, not as in cheating on a test or something :P

ummm
you mean like cheating on a test
no, actually I can figure out what you mean, but I think it should be made more clear

I'm against lying to someone you care about
so if you don't care about the person you're with, then don't miss an opportunity with someone you do care about
but make sure to leave the first person ASAP

If you do care about the person you're with, talk to them about what you're feeling rather than rushing into something you may regret. Hey, maybe they'll be into it ;)

edit: yeah, my only problem with it is lying to someone you love. If you're not lying, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Cheaters have a small *****! :p

It's wrong. It's a betrayal of trust from someone close to you. That's why the word "cheating" is used, because it's something you do that breaks the rules of the relationship.

Well, so what’s cheating? Let’s see, definitely seeking another highly intimate emotional bond with another person without your current partners general knowledge. There is a chance that side partner may move in and steal the person away. In fact many times that’s what they’ll want to do. They’ll plant evidence for the other person to find in hopes that they’ll break up so they can move in full time. But what if it’s a purely sexual nature? Say your partner doesn’t put out enough and all you want is more. Now in this case a person could hook up with two types of people, professionals and somebody who isn‘t a professional. There is no real attachment when dealing with a professional and there is no chance of stealing away the person. However if it’s not with a professional, than it may be likely that person will want to form an emotional bond, in which case that would be like the first situation. Now if your partner knows and consents/doesn’t care than it can’t really be called cheating. So my advice is to get a whore or hope your partner is open minded. Although some partners would consider getting a whore to be worse than cheating so be careful about that. ;)

I'd never cheat on my girl. I'd never do ANYTHING to hurt her.

I'm very against it. Cheating is disrespectful, both to your partner and to the value of your relationship. you cheapen your emotions and the love you supposedly feel if you cheat. It hurts your partner terribly, and you lose the trust it took you a while to build up. Simple words like "I'm sorry" do nothing to bring that back, and in the end, all the people involved are left emotionally damaged, whether by guilt or by self- doubt....

Hmm...never had anyone cheat on me... have had friends who've been broken up over being cheated on... and yes it hurts...

But my grandpa and step grandma had an agreement that it doesn't matter, they can fool around with whoever they like as long as their marriage is still stable... my grandpa is dead but it seemed to be a really good marriage - much better than his first one, at least.

cheating, where one partner deceives the other, is unacceptable. however, if both parties are aware and okay with an open relationship then i don't see any problem. most people call that "cheating," though nobody is actually breaking the rules the lovers have agreed upon, but i don't.

I think it is completely and totally none of anyone else's business of a person cheats on his/her significant other. It is between them and that is it. If one cheats and the other leaves that is their decision, if they don't leave, that too is their decision.

Well if you have agreed to a monogomous relationship then going back on your agreement is just wrong. I have no problem with non-monogamous relationships but that's not cheating. I imagine given the general cultural climate if you do not consider your relationship to be monogamous it is incumbent upon you to make that clear to your partner(s), but any "cheating" because of a difference in understanding about the nature of the relationship is not as serious as cheating when it is clear that the relationship is monogamous.

Cheating is sooooo tempting sometimes..... and I think EVERYONE has at least THOUGHT about giving it a try.... more often because that initial red-hot lust has kind of faded in your own relationship, and you like the thrill of being wildly attracted to someone new. I always managed to resist because I figured (as a woman) that the thrill was probably going to be better than the sex anyway, and it probably wasn't worth it. Of course, having someone really attracted to you physically is a nice ego boost, and I think that is part of the appeal, but they won't ever know you the way your partner does (unless you get into a relationship with THEM). Then, my significant other ended up cheating on me and I no longer thought of cheating as a naughty, yet fairly harmless act. If the cheating had been more in terms of an affair, with significant emotional attachment, I would have ended our marriage. It was a one time thing and he got ratted out by the woman, and we ended up separating for a few months, but then worked things out. That was nearly 6 years ago, but it still chaps my ass when I think about it, but although it's been difficult, the whole thing forced us to start being more honest with each other. And believe me, I thought of playing my "get out of jail free card" and having a fling myself, because he could hardly get pissed at me after that....but in the end, I decided being strongly, yet superficially attracted to someone isn't worth the pain it's going to cause your partner, the horrible gut-wrenching guilt it's going to cause you, and the years of trying to rebuild trust. You want to get your rocks of that bad... do it with your partner or do it by yourself...but don't fool yourself into thinking you're going to get away with doing it with someone else.

But that's just my opinion:).

If my husband ever cheated on me he'd find his ass to the curb, but since there is no chance of that ever happening, I'm not worried about it.

People who cheat are assholes and selfish and only think of themselves.. I have no respect for any one who cheats on any thing. A person or a test or any thing in life.

Cheating makes the Baby Jesus cry.