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How do you feel about spanking? Do you feel it is a legitimate discipline for unruly children who need that little extra push? Is it wrong with kids, and just teaches them that violence is an acceptable solution? And what about adults? Is it alright, something that adds spice to your life? or is it just sick and wrong, as no one should enjoy feeling or giving pain?

What is your opinion?

I don't feel this kind of corporal punishement is the way to go with children. It starts a rule of fear by the parents using it, when a child-parent relationship should be based on love. I believe grounding them and removing privileges(such as TV, computer, dessert; you name it) are a better method of handling discipline.

As far as adults goes; why not? I'm not into that kind of thing, but as long as it doesn't hurt anyone....err... I mean as long as nobody's getting hurt...err...
What I really mean is whatever floats your boat :-P After all, it's just light S&M.

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i used to get smacked when i was younger and it never did me any harm! i don't see the problem with a light spank when a child does something wrong, it taught me not to do the same thing again.

As for adults spanking, well whatever floats your boat! i personally wouldn't enjoy it i don't think, but some people do and that's their business

My parents always spanked me and I'm not a violent person. And trust me it works. For example, one lesson I learned was to never stick my tongue out at my mother. My mom tried to ground me one time, but I don't even remember why. Physical pain does wonders for the memory. I am for spanking children all the way, as long as it isn't too hard (child abuse).

A smack on the bottom or leg, does a child no harm, and will teach them not to do the wrong thing again.

When my children were younger, I tried grounding them...they climbed out of the bedroom window!

These days you cannot send a child to their room, they all have games, t.vs. p.cs etc, so that just does not work.

As for adult spanking.....thats your own business...some do, some don't...

Parents who spank should be charged with child abuse. A parent's role is not to punish or teach a child. Punishment of anyone is a concept for the middle ages- rehabilitation is the way it should be. As for teaching a child, the school system should teach them things, and as for right-and-wrong things, expose the child (when they are ready intellectually) to all philosophic schools of ethical thought and let them decide on their own which one to follow. Punishment, spanking, etc. all just breeds subconcious resentment which will probaly come back to bite the parent inbetween the ages of 14-17.

Adults who spank... I want no part of it, but if that's what gets you on, by all means.

how can you say it isn't up to parents to punish and teach their children!? that's one of the most absurd things i've ever heard! yes, children do learn at school but some things need to be taught before they get to school, like how to behave properly, which means punishment, and i think the best punishment you can give a child is a little smack, next time they consider doing something wrong they'll remember what happened last time and won't do it again! And as for the resentment bit, i was smacked and i certainly don't resent my mum for it, i think it was one of the best things she ever did for me!

Are any of you old enough to have children of your own if so do you have any. The thing with kids is that they are the most infuriating & lovable things in the world.
I am a parent and i can say that children will wind you up & up until you are fit to burst. So i think a light smack is ok. But i do not think a parent going hammer & tongs at a poor kid in a supermarket or shop is on. Mainly because that kid is bored and just wants to go & play, just like their Dads. That is why you see so many arguments between men & women in shops.
When children get to the age of around 6-8 you will find they do not need the little smack, just a severe warning. But if they weren't given those little smack when they were younger they hane nothing to gauge it against.

Who is in charge -- the parent or the child? Of course, I think spanking is acceptable for children.....and about adults...umm...that's your problem....

I think that giving a kid a swat on the behind does them no harm.

Maybe a couple of generations ago, parents would beat their kids within an inch of their lives. This has never been okay. It was taking discipline too far. Still, it beats the hell out of (forgive me the pun) not disciplining them at all.

Too many parents these days never say no to their kids, or enforce it. They give their kids anything they want, so long as it shuts them up and keeps them out of their hair. You see, parents are often too lazy to raise their kids. Usually the kid has a tv and a computer and a phone all in their room...they don't eat dinner together, and it's almost never an actual cooked meal. If they only had one tv in the house, and one phone, and ate dinner together around a table, they might actually be forced to speak to one another, and the parents might have to take an interest in their kids.

Spoiling a kid is another form of neglect, in my opinion. It can never be a good thing.

God, when my mom said she'd pull us out of the supermarket if we didn't act like people, she meant it, and even if she wanted to get something, she'd pull us out of their so fast our heads would spin. It's all about taking the time and effort to be as good as your word, or to even HAVE a word.

As for adults wanting to be spanked, it's not my scene, but whatever floats your boat.

For me it's the final solution.

If a kid is so "out of control" and or is not backing off a challenge.

The kid has to respect authority.....

For the record I have never had to spank my girl.

My wife has only done it once and that was because she kept running to go out in the street near the public pool.

It didn't do much due to the diaper but it got her attention. She never tried it again after that......

So spanking is valid when properly used.

Smacking the kid at every transgression is wrong.....

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It's totally obvious that you have not had any children yourself...if you have, they must be awfull brats,and not a credit to you!

My children were smacked for bring naughty, and now they are parents two of the tree smack their own children.

The son whose children do not get smacked, are not such nice children as the others, therefore, will not be such nice adults....

They think that the world should revolve around them,and only them!

I was spanked many a time as a kid. But, I'm thankful now for it. There has to be a line drawn between just wagging the finger and when a good smack on the bottom is warrented.

Spanking is an effective deterrent/punishment for young children. Notice that I said young children, as a child matures other methods become much more effective. A 10 year old will take a spanking over being grounded for a week (being grounded means nothing fun whatsoever).

That said, it should never leave a bruise or draw blood, and striking the face should usually be avoided.

Not ever having children, I feel that I don't have a right to comment.

On saying that, if a parent says no! and the child carries on, the a smack should be forthcoming, but never a beating.

As for the other part of the question... evil grin...

I think its legit. My dad spanked me when I got outta line. Cuss at him etc? Thats a spanking. Lie? Thats a spanking. Fight with my brother or another? Thats a spanking. Etc. I'd say I'm better off for it My only problem with it is people hitting to hard you know getting crazy with it man thats sick. I usually got a belt but it was never to hard after awhile you'll toughen up and or do things like that less if at all.

Parents who spank should be charged with child abuse. A parent's role is not to punish or teach a child.

Are you serious? Of course it is the parent's role to punish and teach a child! Parents aren't around just to feed, cloth, and shelter the kid until they go to school. Parents have a major role in the teaching and disiplining of their own children.

Up to your usual sexual topics, eh TKK?

It think spanking is wrong for children because it promotes violence, and it just is plain mean. And it hurts.

But for adults? It's sexy. It's a major turn on. Go for it.

6) a) it's needed, in small doses, at times for small children who are not yet old enough to know the consequences of doing things like crossing the road by themselves at their tender age - a little swat on the backside or three will imprint them with a repulsion towards things like playing with electrical wires.

b) it's fun up to the point of being short of permenant damage for consenting adults who enjoy it and who are not cheating on anyone.

- Dru

Up to your usual sexual topics, eh TKK?

It think spanking is wrong for children because it promotes violence, and it just is plain mean. And it hurts.

But for adults? It's sexy. It's a major turn on. Go for it.

You should have seen my "Is the male genitalia inherently evil?" one. Phwoar, now that took more hits than the pot head next door!

I think that giving a kid a swat on the behind does them no harm.

Maybe a couple of generations ago, parents would beat their kids within an inch of their lives. This has never been okay. It was taking discipline too far. Still, it beats the hell out of (forgive me the pun) not disciplining them at all.

Too many parents these days never say no to their kids, or enforce it. They give their kids anything they want, so long as it shuts them up and keeps them out of their hair. You see, parents are often too lazy to raise their kids. Usually the kid has a tv and a computer and a phone all in their room...they don't eat dinner together, and it's almost never an actual cooked meal. If they only had one tv in the house, and one phone, and ate dinner together around a table, they might actually be forced to speak to one another, and the parents might have to take an interest in their kids.

Spoiling a kid is another form of neglect, in my opinion. It can never be a good thing.

God, when my mom said she'd pull us out of the supermarket if we didn't act like people, she meant it, and even if she wanted to get something, she'd pull us out of their so fast our heads would spin. It's all about taking the time and effort to be as good as your word, or to even HAVE a word.

As for adults wanting to be spanked, it's not my scene, but whatever floats your boat.

what sheila said

spanking isnt the best choice of way to dicipline your kids but its better than no dicipline. if you understand a bit of child development and keep an eye on what your kid is doing you will seldom need to spank. it really shouldnt get out of hand to the point where a spanking is warranted.

as for adults, i have never understood why pain should be sexy. im not interested in giving or receiving pain. but people do way more kinky things than a little spanking so its fine with me if they do what pleases them.