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I am trying to say goodbye to a girl whom I've loved for several years now. We were in a serious relationship and then I moved 2700 miles away, but we kept it up. Its too hard now and I have to say goodbye and break off connections. How the hell am I supposed to do this?

Saying goodbye twice?

no, just kinda a permament one. (once)

Since you moved so far away..Im sure she probably feels the same way.

It might be easier than you think.

Get a clown to tell her. Clowns made people less sad!

Just say:

"I don't think its going to work anymore. I love you but it's just to hard. I hope you understand why I have to break it off. Goodbye."

Nice and simple. :)

Get a clown to tell her. Clowns made people less sad!

Clowns are scary.

That would be like sending John Wayne Gacy to a slumber party.

Get a clown to tell her. Clowns made <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=people&v=54&src=zon">people</a> less sad!

Right, and thats gonna make her respect your maturity and integrety.


Why did ya move away from someone you loved in the first place?

My dad's job transferred. We went from Glen Rock, New Jersey to Scottsdale, Arizona. I like Grungefuttock's idea so far.

i suppose it really depends on what your relationship was like. but, for a general response, do it in as personal a way as you can. clearly, face-to-face doesn't seem possible, what with the distance and all. after that, the most interpersonal way would be a telephone (videophone even better, but the chances that either of you have one aren't very good). Then, when you do say something, just be as direct and honest as possible. In truth, the words probably aren't the hard part. They'll just come. The hard part is actually getting courage enough to do it. Don't let it get to you, though, we're all rooting for you.

grungefutocks is right, nice and simple.

good luck

There isnt really any "good" way to do it.
All you can do is just open up and tell her.
Grungie's right, you just have to get to the point.

Given the circumstances, she'll probably understand, if not completely agree.

yeah, you should just be sensible and sensitive. Hey, instead of cutting connections completly, why don't you ask if you can just be long distance friends?

Also, don't build up to it, go straight to the point. A build up would just make it more upsetting.

I'm writing a letter right now because its the best I can do at the moment. Neither of us have video-phones and our schedules at the moment don't allow time for me to call her.

I'm writing a letter right now because its the best I can do at the moment. Neither of us have video-phones and our schedules at the moment don't allow time for me to call her.

Woah.

Sending a letter is a cowardly way to do it.

She deserves to hear it from you.

I am sorry you are forced to call of the relationship with the one you love for a silly thing like being thousands of miles away from each other, with no physical contact for months, but I inderstand that it must be hard. Rember, simple, sensitive. :cry: :cry:

I'm <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=writing&v=54&src=zon">writing</a> a letter right now because its the best I can do at the moment. Neither of us have video-phones and our schedules at the moment don't allow <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=time&v=54&src=zon">time</a> for me to call her.

Woah.

Sending a letter is a cowardly way to do it.

She deserves to hear it from you.

He is a billion miles away! Hows he gonna do that. And like he said, there differing schedules disallow phonecalls.

dp. see below.

I'm writing a letter right now because its the best I can do at the moment. Neither of us have video-phones and our schedules at the moment don't allow time for me to call her.

Woah.

Sending a letter is a cowardly way to do it.

She deserves to hear it from you.

I would, but here it is: We're three hours apart. I'm in summer school and working. She's still in school and works a lot. By the time I'm home and done with homework, it's about 10 there. She also lives with her grandparents and they bitched at me once for calling late. She also has her own social life where she goes out on weekends and such. If I can find a good time to call her, I will. But as it stands now, there is just no good time. I've called 3 or 4 times and she hasn't been home.

I think she'll be pretty understanding, a relationship like that is next to impossible to mantain.

Your just making me sadder! What sort of stuff are ya puttin' in da letter?

I'm writing a letter right now because its the best I can do at the moment. Neither of us have video-phones and our schedules at the moment don't allow time for me to call her.

Woah.

Sending a letter is a cowardly way to do it.

She deserves to hear it from you.

I would, but here it is: We're three hours apart. I'm in summer school and working. She's still in school and works a lot. By the time I'm home and done with homework, it's about 10 there. She also lives with her grandparents and they bitched at me once for calling late. She also has her own social life where she goes out on weekends and such. If I can find a good time to call her, I will. But as it stands now, there is just no good time. I've called 3 or 4 times and she hasn't been home.

All I can say is....MAKE TIME.

Sending a letter would be the most callous, cold hearted way you could possibly do it.

Call in sick to work, or school.or whatever you do..buy tell it to her yourself.

I think she'll be pretty understanding, a relationship like that is next to impossible to mantain.

Yeah.

Dearest Edna, I must leave you. Why I cannot
say. Where I am going you cannot know. How I will get there I haven't
decided yet. But one thing I can tell you, any time I hear the wind
blow it will whisper the name... Edna. And so let us part with a love that
will echo through the ages. -- Woodrow.
Bart the Lover (http://www.snpp.com/episodes/8F16.html)

Letters arn't so cold hearted. But you have apoint, it would be better to phone.

Dearest Edna, I must leave you. Why I cannot
say. Where I am going you cannot know. How I will get there I haven't
decided yet. But one thing I can tell you, any <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=time&v=54&src=zon">time</a> I hear the wind
blow it will whisper the name... Edna. And so let us part with a <a href="http://www.ntsearch.com/search.php?q=love&v=54&src=zon">love</a> that
will echo through the ages. -- Woodrow.
Bart the Lover (http://www.snpp.com/episodes/8F16.html)

Quoteing simpsons- Not the best breakup stratagy!

Dearest Edna, I must leave you. Why I cannot
say. Where I am going you cannot know. How I will get there I haven't
decided yet. But one thing I can tell you, any time I hear the wind
blow it will whisper the name... Edna. And so let us part with a love that
will echo through the ages. -- Woodrow.
Bart the Lover (http://www.snpp.com/episodes/8F16.html)

Nice.

I'll try to phone her this week i suppose. I was partly writing a letter because I do much better on paper than in voice. It gives me a chance to organize and put across what I really want to say, not some garbled piece of crap that I pull out of my ass while I'm hearing her.

I am leaving now. Good luck with the breakup! :wink:

Lol go out with another chick then ask her out then bring em to the same resturant it always works out in the end :wink:

heh. I'm going to go to bed now but Thank you everyone.