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A few hours ago, my mom informed the asshole who is unfortunately my father that she wants a divorce. It couldn't have happened at a better time for me, because I'm not going to have to deal with the financial and other shit this is going to cause, since I'm leaving for boot camp on the 29th. It's about time my mom did this. Unfortunately, my dad is going to try to take the house. Luckily, the judge will most likely side with my mom. I wouldn't be surprised if the idiot ODs on crank now and dies, but I don't really give a shit.

oh...my than...

My parents seperated on my birthday. They didn't even get me anything that year. I win!

oh man... if i could, i'd hug you. thats kind of hard to do though.
i hope things get better for you...

advise your mom to get the best lawyer possible as soon as possible
tomorrow morning
9 am

she probably stuck it out this long thinking that it was best for you. shes gonna need you to support her emotionally for a while so dont forget to call her as often as you can from boot camp

best of luck. things will get better

I divorced my wife last year. Even under ideal circumstances its hard to deal with. Mine wasn't ideal.

Don't be afraid to talk about it...it does help.

she probably stuck it out this long thinking that it was best for you.Bingo.

Going in the Navy or marines?

A few hours ago, my mom informed the asshole who is unfortunately my father that she wants a divorce. It couldn't have happened at a better time for me, because I'm not going to have to deal with the financial and other shit this is going to cause, since I'm leaving for boot camp on the 29th. It's about time my mom did this. Unfortunately, my dad is going to try to take the house. Luckily, the judge will most likely side with my mom. I wouldn't be surprised if the idiot ODs on crank now and dies, but I don't really give a shit.

depends on what state you live in.

if you live in a blue state (new york, california et cetera) then your mom should be all set.

but if you give me an idea of which state i can come back with some info on the divorce law in your state.

Sorry to hear that. Good luck to you and your mother.

Is there a single thread here that we can't swing to the left with rhetoric like that?

A few hours ago, my mom informed the asshole who is unfortunately my father that she wants a divorce. It couldn't have happened at a better time for me, because I'm not going to have to deal with the financial and other shit this is going to cause, since I'm leaving for boot camp on the 29th. It's about time my mom did this. Unfortunately, my dad is going to try to take the house. Luckily, the judge will most likely side with my mom. I wouldn't be surprised if the idiot ODs on crank now and dies, but I don't really give a shit.

depends on what state you live in.

if you live in a blue state (new york, california et cetera) then your mom should be all set.

but if you give me an idea of which state i can come back with some info on the divorce law in your state.Californ-i-a.

Fifteen years later I'm still dealing with crap from my parents divorce. Sucks. Being away didn't make it better for me. But I wasn't as unreachable as you will be. Sucks.

A few hours ago, my mom informed the asshole who is unfortunately my father that she wants a divorce. It couldn't have happened at a better time for me, because I'm not going to have to deal with the financial and other shit this is going to cause, since I'm leaving for boot camp on the 29th. It's about time my mom did this. Unfortunately, my dad is going to try to take the house. Luckily, the judge will most likely side with my mom. I wouldn't be surprised if the idiot ODs on crank now and dies, but I don't really give a shit.

depends on what state you live in.

if you live in a blue state (new york, california et cetera) then your mom should be all set.

but if you give me an idea of which state i can come back with some info on the divorce law in your state.Californ-i-a.

PROPERTY DISTRIBUTION: California is a "community property" state. Any jointly-held property is presumed to be "community" property, unless it is clearly stated in a deed or written agreement that the property is "separate" property. Unless the spouses agree otherwise, all community and quasi-community property is divided equally between the spouses. If economic circumstances warrant, however, the court may award any asset to 1 spouse on such conditions as it feels proper to provide for a substantially equal distribution of property. In addition, if 1 of the spouses has deliberately misappropriated community property, the court may make an unequal division of the community property. Marital contributions to the education and training of the other spouse that substantially increases or enhances the other spouse's earning capacity are reimbursable to the community property. Each spouse shall be responsible for the following debts: (1) those incurred prior to marriage; (2) any separate debts during the marriage that were not incurred to benefit the community (marriage); (3) their equitable share of any community debts made during the marriage; and (4) any debts incurred after separation and before dissolution of marriage if the debts were for non-necessities and an equitable share of debts incurred during this period if the debts were for necessities. [Annotated California Code; Sections 2501, 2581, 2601, 2602, 2620, 2621, 2623, 2625, and 2641].


CHILD CUSTODY: Joint or sole custody may be awarded based on the best interests of the child and the following factors: (1) the preference of the child, if the child is of sufficient age and capacity; (2) the desire and ability of each parent to allow an open and loving frequent relationship between the child and the other parent; (3) the child's health, safety, and welfare; (4) any history of child or spouse abuse by anyone seeking custody or who has had any caretaking relationship with the child, including anyone dating the parent; (5) the nature and amount of contact with both parents; and (6) any habitual and continued use of alcohol or illegal controlled substances. Marital misconduct may also be considered. Custody is awarded in the following order of preference: (1) to both parents jointly; (2) to either parent; (3) to the person in whose home the child has been living; or (4) to any other person deemed by the court suitable to provide adequate and proper care and guidance for the child.

http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/california.shtml

your mom should have a pretty easy time in legal terms for this divorce, he stands little chance of custody, and she'll probably get a good amount of property as a result as well.

again, i'm sorry i had to give you this info.

Boot Camp?

Anyone who joins the Imperial Forces now is either brain-washed into some racist motivated ignorance or is a sadist...

Whatever. I'm leaving the general forum for good. I don't have to listen to stuff like that in real life, and I don't intend to listen to it on the internet.

Texastambul, that was uncalled for and pretty much posted just to insult.

In short, shut yer yep

Texastambul, that was uncalled for and pretty much posted just to insult.

In short, shut yer yep

dont feed trolls

Texastambul, that was uncalled for and pretty much posted just to insult.

In short, shut yer yep

Is it an insult to call a spade a spade?

Do you think that the military is defending you by invading other nations and handing their resources over to Corporations owned by the War Planners?

Anyone who joins the military today either believes every lie their selected president tells them, or they really do just enjoy killing babies. Either way, they're not fighting for the ideas that founded America...

Thanks for joining the Armed Forces. We hope you stay safe and put a few terrorists in the dirt for us. Thanks again and God Bless.

My simpathies on the divorce, even if you think it's long overdue. Like it was posted before, don't be afraid to talk about it with anyone. Your fellow soldiers will support you personally and we support you nationally.

No matter how many times I hear of people joining the military, I am still in awe of those who choose to serve in the military. It's people like you that make me proud to be an American and give hope that our generation isn't going to turn out like the 60's generation that mostly still despises the military. Thank You.

† Keep safe, stay alert and if you ever feel afraid, know that God is there with you as are our prayers.

Texastambul, that was uncalled for and pretty much posted just to insult.

In short, shut yer yep

Is it an insult to call a spade a spade?

Do you think that the military is defending you by invading other nations and handing their resources over to Corporations owned by the War Planners?

Anyone who joins the military today either believes every lie their selected president tells them, or they really do just enjoy killing babies. Either way, they're not fighting for the ideas that founded America...

People like you are the reason Republicans are mad that Democrats are spreading ideas like that. Your assinine warrants nothing more than our stronger support for the troops and the satisfaction that people like you are in the minority.

Ditto with Halloccia's comments. Perhaps I'll see you around a base sometime. Best of luck to your mother with the divorce, and to you with camp.

It sucks people are so screwed and can't get along or anything etc. my parents fight now and then and despise each other they divorced once when I was younger (14 years ago or so I was 2-3 yrs old) now they say they will wait till my brother and I are grown (18) then they will. I'm not sure I give a damn if I have to side with anyone it'll be my father

Thanks for joining the Armed Forces. We hope you stay safe and put a few terrorists in the dirt for us. Thanks again and God Bless.
Yeah... drop some DU on those babies for all us back home: Praise God!

No matter how many times I hear of people joining the military, I am still in awe of those who choose to serve in the military. It's people like you that make me proud to be an American and give hope that our generation isn't going to turn out like the 60's generation that mostly still despises the military. Thank You.
Wouldn't it just be terrible if our generation wised-up to the double-standards of an unnecessary war, brought it to an end, and even pushed for Civil Rights... just terrible... thank God we blindly respect the authority of the State.

† Keep safe, stay alert and if you ever feel afraid, know that God is there with you as are our prayers.
Yes, every time you drop a 100,000 pound bomb on some "terrorist" hide-out (and kill everyone in the surrounding area in the process) know that God is on your side::: God Bless the USA -- home of the brave men who drop bombs on peasents!

Do you think that the military is defending you by invading other nations and handing their resources over to Corporations owned by the War Planners?

Anyone who joins the military today either believes every lie their selected president tells them, or they really do just enjoy killing babies. Either way, they're not fighting for the ideas that founded America...
O contraire

Most who join the navy don't necessarily do it because of the politics or what is being done but may do it because of what they may learn, the benefits and things of the sort.


It's people like you that make me proud to be an American and give hope that our generation isn't going to turn out like the 60's generation that mostly still despises the military.
Those who despise the military have their anger (or frustration) pointed at the wrong direction. Those in the military just do what their told, its the ones high up that make the decisions and so I will enver understand people like Texastambul.



Yeah... drop some DU on those babies for all us back home: Praise God!
Last I remember the Navy didn't use DU rounds. Do share a source saying otherwise however.

Also this isn't Vietnam where we are quite careless in carrying out plans but we have been more careful. Unfortunatly there will always be accidents. The best thing you can do is try to minimize it by bringing the fighting elsewhere, which insurgents won't do as their main strength is not being known who they are in addition to lacking heavy equipment.


Wouldn't it just be terrible if our generation wised-up to the double-standards of an unnecessary war, brought it to an end, and even pushed for Civil Rights... just terrible... thank God we blindly respect the authority of the State.
We already ousted Saddam's regime, captured him and destroyed his military. It would be irresponsible for us to leave prematurely.


Yes, every time you drop a 100,000 pound bomb on some "terrorist" hide-out (and kill everyone in the surrounding area in the process) know that God is on your side::: God Bless the USA -- home of the brave men who drop bombs on peasents!
Last I heard a great amount of equipment was pulled out of the region a while back. Some was returned because of the insurgents but not near the total we originally had involved.

Also 30,000 more troops are heading over to Iraq. Heard this from one of my buds in the army. His division is among those being sent over.

If I am not mistaken though most of the fighting is being done by ground troops, not aircraft or other heavy equipment.

Thanks for joining the Armed Forces. We hope you stay safe and put a few terrorists in the dirt for us. Thanks again and God Bless.
Yeah... drop some DU on those babies for all us back home: Praise God!

No matter how many times I hear of people joining the military, I am still in awe of those who choose to serve in the military. It's people like you that make me proud to be an American and give hope that our generation isn't going to turn out like the 60's generation that mostly still despises the military. Thank You.
Wouldn't it just be terrible if our generation wised-up to the double-standards of an unnecessary war, brought it to an end, and even pushed for Civil Rights... just terrible... thank God we blindly respect the authority of the State.

† Keep safe, stay alert and if you ever feel afraid, know that God is there with you as are our prayers.
Yes, every time you drop a 100,000 pound bomb on some "terrorist" hide-out (and kill everyone in the surrounding area in the process) know that God is on your side::: God Bless the USA -- home of the brave men who drop bombs on peasents!

You must hate being an American right now huh? Hate the fact that people like me exist and we think America isn't immoral. Hate the fact that we respect Ronald Reagan. Hate the fact that we support the troops. Hate the fact that we believe and love God. Hate the fact that we freed Iraqis and Afghanis from tyranical rulers. Hate that fact that we don't emulate France and Germany in every way that your socialist mind would like us to.

You really think our troops are the true enemies of freedom and just the enforcers of an imperialist nation don't you?

Ryanania, thanks for the chance for us all to see what kind of person Texastambul is. Sorry the chance had to come from your parents divorce and his insult to you. Please know that is not how most rational people view the military and we do support you.

Wow, as much as this may be good news for you, you'll realize that it'll still hurt someday.

This is so sad. I mean the general trend to get divorced. People are growing more and more irresponsible these days...In Hong Kong, the divortion rate is a whopping 50%. That's a lot. :cry: :cry:

May God bless you and your family, Ryanania. :D

Well, now. That's pretty exciting profound news, don't'cha think?

Definately a lawyer is in order, at least for a discussion of what happens next. Who gets what.

Do you have a place for you to stay prior to your enlistment?

My parents divorced, my mother, several times. It sucks now. It'll be okay soon, especially if they both want it.

Sorry for your situation man.

Anyway,congrats on joining the armed forces.In a time like this,soldiers and warriors are needed to defend their peoples and homeland(though Americans are more in the grey area betwen butchers/invaders and soldiers defending their homland.I definitely do not count Americans as warriors)

I'm also going into the army at the end if the year in Singapore,hopefully the elite forces.Who knows,Singapore is the second home and a logistics headquarters for the US Navy Seventh Fleet,perhaps I might run into you when you're cruising the seven seas and happen to stop by in South East Asia.

Best of luck in your military career.

To those discussing "Military is Good/Evil": Take it elsewhere and stop hijacking this thread.

--The Modified Democratic States of Cogitation

Thanks for the above Cogitation.

Ryanania my very best to you. I hear your concern for your mom and that is a good thing. CA has pretty decent laws as you have been shown. Hopefully it will all be over soon.

Don't waste your heart and time hating. It sucks the life from you. If your old man is an total f- up and an a-hole then that is his problem. F- him. Don't let him f you over - you're probably the one good thing from his miserable life so you go & you grow. Flush the toilet and let that crap go.

Never mind what others may say. The vast majority of Americans stand with and behind our men and women who have chosen to serve their country. We stand with and behind you. May your fortunes be strong and as ever - take the best & flush the rest.

Be well,
SHL

Sorry to hear that but try using ******* these puppies on your more colorful words :wink:

A few hours ago, my mom informed the asshole who is unfortunately my father that she wants a divorce. It couldn't have happened at a better time for me, because I'm not going to have to deal with the financial and other shit this is going to cause, since I'm leaving for boot camp on the 29th. It's about time my mom did this. Unfortunately, my dad is going to try to take the house. Luckily, the judge will most likely side with my mom. I wouldn't be surprised if the idiot ODs on crank now and dies, but I don't really give a shit.

Ry, that has to suck the big one. Going by what you say, I'd guess your folks breakup has somewhat to do with meth addiction on your dad's part.

I'm gonna say something and you might not like it. But I'll bet both of your parents love you. I'm sure your mother does from what you posted, but I'll go out on a limb here and say maybe your father does too. He's just... Nah, I can't make myself say it.

Yeah that ain't any help now, but just maybe he does care. Under the drugs and all. Since you're going into the military, I can say good luck. I didn't get the arm of the service you are going into from your post. But any one will be a great help towards getting your head straight. If you end up in the little part of the service that we call The Corps, well then, Semper Fidelis.

Anyway, if I had the ability, I'd reach out and give you a serious handshake. And hell, yeah, a hug too.

Well, kid. Watch your back, keep your feet dry. And when you get to boot, listen to your DI. He's there to help you, regardless of how he treats you.

Texastambul, that was uncalled for and pretty much posted just to insult.

In short, shut yer yep

Is it an insult to call a spade a spade?

Do you think that the military is defending you by invading other nations and handing their resources over to Corporations owned by the War Planners?

Anyone who joins the military today either believes every lie their selected president tells them, or they really do just enjoy killing babies. Either way, they're not fighting for the ideas that founded America...

WOW. that is FUCKING SAD. it doesnt matter if they are fighting for the ideas that founded america, they are fighting for what they believe is their duty, to be in service of their nation. Im not even an american citizen and i want to join their armed forces(cant do it though) becuase i fell it would be my duty to defend the place i live. It depends on individual principle, fucktard.

EDIT: Whoops, i didnt see Cog's post, really sorry.

So sorry about your situation, thank you for your service.

here, have a cheese burger

well you cant really eat it but its the best i can do

actaully the fact i said that is completely worthless

but you damn well better underapperciate it.

Thanks.

The American people stand behind you; I'll stand above you, and watch your ass from up there. I'll make sure to keep some DU handy in case you get into too much trouble.
Apologies for furthering the threadjack.

I'm just thankful I've never had to deal with a divorce; I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Things will turn up, don't worry. You've already got your old man beat by a long way.