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First let me say:

Yes, I know this is not the best place to get advice on my love life.

But anyway, there is this girl that I have recently asked out. Her response was not a flat-out no, more of a:

"There's a lot going on between my best friend and I and these two weeks of school are going to be pretty stressfull, so I don't think we'd have a good relationship..."

Now, the best friend issues are settled, they are now best friends again, but I wish to know why the last two weeks of school would make for a bad relationship. Aren't boyfriends and girlfriends supposed to be there for each other in times of stress to help each other out?

I wish I could just find another girl but I can't, there are none really like her.

I wish I could just find another girl but I can't, there are none really like her.

Tell her that...

thing is, theres finals to contend with. and normally i would agree on the "best togher in stress" thing, but that is not the best way to start off a relationship. i would suggest holding off for those 2 weeks, and let her call you that next week. dont wanna sound too desperate.

what are u asking? it not really clear to me at all

Well, at least she was nice about it.

She could have been a bitch about it and held a grudge on you for no reason, as happened to me last year. :?

Maybe she was actually a man?

Im sorry to say..but it seems like she's just not interested, and that was a way to tell you no...without offending you.

"Letting them down easy."

One lemme ask how old r u?



two Always remeber if you cant get a girl SAFE SEX IS IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND! 8)

One lemme ask how old r u?



two Always remeber if you cant get a girl SAFE SEX IS IN THE PALM OF YOUR HAND! 8)

good lord. will that subject not die?! bloody perv thread...

lol

Im sorry to say..but it seems like she's just not interested, and that was a way to tell you no...without offending you.

"Letting them down easy."

Hmm.... That's what I am thinking... :cry:

what are u asking? it not really clear to me at all

Sorry about not making that clear, I am just in search of advice on what to do.

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I can't really give you advice. I am a loser in the ways of the women. :cry:

from a girl's point of view, i'm pretty sure she was just letting you down gently, however it might be worth asking her again after the 2 weeks of school are over if you really like her

I can't really give you advice. I am a loser in the ways of the women. :cry:

hmmmm.......didn't you call all english girls doped up alcoholic sluts that arn't going anywhere in life, maybe that's your problem

since I am a pimple faced geek who is in his 40's, balding and any hair I do have is greying, I do not have any experience in women :cry:



euthanize me!

Maybe she was actually a man? :shock:

since I am a pimple faced geek who is in his 40's, balding and any hair I do have is greying, I do not have any experience in women :cry:



euthanize me!

I see... "BRING IN THE EUTHANIZOR!!!"

"EUTHANIZOR READY SIR!!"

"INTIATE EUTHANIZATION PROCESS!!!"

an AKA 47 will solve everything, hell my nation will give ya one for free :thumbs up:

Yes, yes, I wish all conflicts could be resolved in such a way, but by using an AK, I doubt my love would ever think about going out with me again!

Dude forget her if she's gonna be like that. All us guys are studly in some way. Tell her that you don't need her, and go find a new woman.

But I can't do that!! There is no other "new woman"!

Oh, so it's like that. Well you best just tell her what you feel. But you can live through it if you get rejected. Don't take any bad things she says personal. I almost killed myself over a girl and I'm mighty glad I didn't.

Now I find the cause of the stress, memorizing lines for a play that's coming up, in fact it's Friday through Sunday.

Should I ask her out again after the play (incidentally the EOC's will also be all over for her after the play as well...) or should I wait a little bit?

Also, will a relationship even really work, because I really can't guarantee she'll be in any of my classes next year, I might not even see her. I just don't know what to do. :(

If you've got some balls I've got a plan.

You should go to the play and watch it, pay serious attention to her parts. And you buy her some red roses. And at the end of the play you give her the roses and tell her she did a great job. Then you have to tell her a specific thing you liked, because you don't want her to think you are just saying that.

First let me say:

Yes, I know this is not the best place to get advice on my love life.

But anyway, there is this girl that I have recently asked out. Her response was not a flat-out no, more of a:

"There's a lot going on between my best friend and I and these two weeks of school are going to be pretty stressfull, so I don't think we'd have a good relationship..."

Now, the best friend issues are settled, they are now best friends again, but I wish to know why the last two weeks of school would make for a bad relationship. Aren't boyfriends and girlfriends supposed to be there for each other in times of stress to help each other out?

I wish I could just find another girl but I can't, there are none really like her.



My sympathies go out to you but there are better fish out there. ZDo what I do, if she says no just say to yourself she is smelly hairy and anoying and then the final step is going out with a even hotter chick just to piss her off. That works with me and I feel a hell of alot better after that.

Go back up and read what I said. I just consulted two hot girls and they said that would so work on them.

Cuneo,

That's one hell of an idea, and I just may do it.

Glad you like it. Like I said though, it takes balls. And don't get nervous man. Just talk to her like you would anyone else, just with a little more politeness. If you need any other consulting, please talk to me because I'd love to help you.

Oh, so it's like that. Well you best just tell her what you feel. But you can live through it if you get rejected. Don't take any bad things she says personal. I almost killed myself over a girl and I'm mighty glad I didn't.

I wish you did.

Oh, so it's like that. Well you best just tell her what you feel. But you can live through it if you get rejected. Don't take any bad things she says personal. I almost killed myself over a girl and I'm mighty glad I didn't.

I wish you did.

Alright that is way too far. Finally we've got you actually flaming pretty much.

Oh, so it's like that. Well you best just tell her what you feel. But you can live through it if you get rejected. Don't take any bad things she says personal. I almost killed myself over a girl and I'm mighty glad I didn't.

I wish you did.

Knock it off.

Thanks Hack. I posted something in moderation because he has been repeatedly following me to threads I post in and saying rude things.

I wish to know why the last two weeks of school would make for a bad relationship. Aren't boyfriends and girlfriends supposed to be there for each other in times of stress to help each other out?


She was probably in a bad mood, and didn't want to hurt your feelings. She probably likes you very much, and wanted to start on the right foot with you. Her problems are solved, so maybe you could ask her out, now. Don't start a relationship so fast. Sometimes, in the night, it simply clicks, and you'll never know what hit you. Don't rush things. It will happen automaticly, if you manage to take her out. Don't be pushy :wink:

Mate, I've been in a similar position several times, and my only advice is this: Females are alive to please the eye, to torture the mind, and to crush the spirit.

Mate, I've been in a similar position several times, and my only advice is this: Females are alive to please the eye, to torture the mind, and to crush the spirit.

How optimistic. That just makes me want to go grab a hair dryer and jump into a bathtub.

I think he should just do what I said with seeing the play and giving her the flowers. What girl doesn't like flowers and a compliment. It always works.

Well there is always that possibility. But when your are crazy about a girl, you just need to make a move. If he gets rejected it will piss him off enough to get over her. If he just sits and waits its bad.

Mate, I've been in a similar position several times, and my only advice is this: Females are alive to please the eye, to torture the mind, and to crush the spirit.

How optimistic. That just makes me want to go grab a hair dryer and jump into a bathtub.

If that's what you want to go, I won't stop you. I'm just writing based on my own experiences.

Yeah, you should always try.

I'm in an extremely happy marriage with a stunningly gorgeous young woman right now. She was the office hottie and believe me I wasn't sure she would like me. But I asked her out and she said yes. What if I hadn't done that, then none of this would have happened because maybe she would have said no and I was scared.

Now, the best friend issues are settled, they are now best friends again, but I wish to know why the last two weeks of school would make for a bad relationship. Aren't boyfriends and girlfriends supposed to be there for each other in times of stress to help each other out?
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Yes, it's good for significant others to help out in times of stress. However, these times are a horrible time to start a relationship. A new relationship is stressful enough (very happy stress, but it does involve changes to your routine and your circle of friends) and that shouldn't be compounded with a lot of outside junk, not at first.


I wish I could just find another girl but I can't, there are none really like her.

If I had a nickle for every time I said that...and then found another... :D

That too, I'd be a pussy, without a girl, and with one more rejection added to my list. But what am I. I'm a real man, with a hot girl, and a solid marriage. And a hell of a lot of respect and jealousy from the other men at the office.

He should ask her out. Even if it's not her there is someone for everyone.

Oh, so it's like that. Well you best just tell her what you feel. But you can live through it if you get rejected. Don't take any bad things she says personal. I almost killed myself over a girl and I'm mighty glad I didn't.

I wish you did.
And I wish I didn't have to issue out so many warnings. But I do. Consider this one of them.

Your name is now on the list.

Myrth
Forum Moderator

Hey Myrth, I thought you should know that another mod, I believe Cogitation, warned him on another thread. It was called Hottest Guys on NS.

Oh, so it's like that. Well you best just tell her what you feel. But you can live through it if you get rejected. Don't take any bad things she says personal. I almost killed myself over a girl and I'm mighty glad I didn't.

I wish you did.
And I wish I didn't have to issue out so many warnings. But I do. Consider this one of them.

Your name is now on the list.

Myrth
Forum Moderator

Gah....

~sigh~ Fairy nuff call.

is my name on the list?

is my name on the list?

Right below mine.