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What was the worst rejection you ever have suffered? I'm talking about asking people out on a date here, not how bad you got stuffed playing basketball yesterday. :wink:

Nothing humiliating. Maybe more like, a guy talking to me...just to get to my friend. :|

But then, the friends end up just weeding out the guys I don't want.

What was the worst rejection you ever have suffered? I'm talking about asking people out on a date here, not how bad you got stuffed playing basketball yesterday. :wink:

Where do I begin?

The time I overheard two of the popular girls talking about which boys they absolutely wouldn't want to go out with (I lost to the kid voted most likely to be the next Kip Kinkel).

The time two girls played the "1 to 10" game, and had an argument in front of me about whether they were allowed to use negative numbers or not (they compromised and allowed zero, giving me a lifetime average of .5).

The time the girl I asked to senior prom told me never to talk to her again.

Take your pick.

Where do I begin?

The time I overheard two of the popular girls talking about which boys they absolutely wouldn't want to go out with (I lost to the kid voted most likely to be the next Kip Kinkel).

I've had that happen.

The time two girls played the "1 to 10" game, and had an argument in front of me about whether they were allowed to use negative numbers or not (they compromised and allowed zero, giving me a lifetime average of .5).

My average is about 6, so I'm somewhat ahead of you there.

The time the girl I asked to senior prom told me never to talk to her again.

We have a winner!

And why am I not surprised that CP isn't rejected often? :wink:

I took a girl to the Junior Prom but she ignored me all night.
So I asked another girl to the Senior Prom, and she spent the whole night with the first girl! Didn't say a word, wouldn't ride home with me in my car.

Fortunately, things have improved since high school.

Xenophobialand, you must either be extremely unlucky in your choice of girls, or intellectually or physically incompatible with said girls... ugly or smart, take your pick. *g*

As for myself... I guess I haven't had worse than having a guy tell me he's not my type and then wander off with my friend, who was almost exactly like me as well. Or having a girl quickly add I'm not her type after making the first confession of her bisexuality.

Maybe I'm just ugly and smart. *g*

And why am I not surprised that CP isn't rejected often? :wink:

Well, my ex did cheat on me. But I took that as more of a backstabbing, since we were more like just really close friends.

Xenophobialand, you must either be extremely unlucky in your choice of girls, or intellectually or physically incompatible with said girls... ugly or smart, take your pick. *g*

As for myself... I guess I haven't had worse than having a guy tell me he's not my type and then wander off with my friend, who was almost exactly like me as well. Or having a girl quickly add I'm not her type after making the first confession of her bisexuality.

Maybe I'm just ugly and smart. *g*

What's up with the *g*?

i got a bloody mary thrown in my face once. i kinda deserved it tho. i was drunk and i walked up to a girl and dropped a line during finals week.

"hey baby, lets preactice our math skills. lets add you and me, subtract the clothes, devide the legs, and multiply like rabbits"

im really dumb drunk.

i got a bloody mary thrown in my face once. i kinda deserved it tho. i was drunk and i walked up to a girl and dropped a line during finals week.

"hey baby, lets preactice our math skills. lets add you and me, subtract the clothes, devide the legs, and multiply like rabbits"

im really dumb drunk.

Isn't everyone?

"hey baby, lets preactice our math skills. lets add you and me, subtract the clothes, devide the legs, and multiply like rabbits"

I would laugh my ass off if I heard that. :lol:

Demonic Furbies, I used a very similar line once in highschool and was back handed. By my girlfreind no less. I guess it's alright as we are engaged now.

Isn't everyone?

It's getting worse as the years go on. And I am only 22. :(

Xenophobialand, you must either be extremely unlucky in your choice of girls, or intellectually or physically incompatible with said girls... ugly or smart, take your pick. *g*

As for myself... I guess I haven't had worse than having a guy tell me he's not my type and then wander off with my friend, who was almost exactly like me as well. Or having a girl quickly add I'm not her type after making the first confession of her bisexuality.

Maybe I'm just ugly and smart. *g*

The trifecta would probably be the best bet. Well, maybe not ugly. I've been told several times that I'm kind of cute (although this seems to be a catchall phrase among women that could mean anything from "Pants down. Here. Now." to "I'm trying to be nice to you, Elephant Man."). But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

I've been told several times that I'm kind of cute (although this seems to be a catchall phrase among women that could mean anything from "Pants down. Here. Now." to "I'm trying to be nice to you, Elephant Man.").

Female is a very difficult language to pick up.

But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

Lacking courage, or just realistic?

But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

It's all about confidence. Believe me, I am pretty damn shy IRL, especially if I am interested in someone.

But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

It's all about confidence. Believe me, I am pretty damn shy IRL, especially if I am interested in someone.

I'll agree with that. Confidence is the thing that women, and people in general, react favorably to. Don't try too hard. Don't need them. If you don't look like you want something, you just might have it given to you.

When their 34 and single, they'll want to get in your pants.

ya Um I went out with one girl in 9th grade and we only went out for two weeks cuz I found out she was PRETENDING to go out with me

um...had another gf who cheated on me with some 24 yr old dude name dave...

um now im a junior and I havnt had any other bad rejections but I did cheat on this one girl with another for payback but yeah..

But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

It's all about confidence. Believe me, I am pretty damn shy IRL, especially if I am interested in someone.

I'll agree with that. Confidence is the thing that women, and people in general, react favorably to. Don't try too hard. Don't need them. If you don't look like you want something, you just might have it given to you.

When their 34 and single, they'll want to get in your pants.

Finally I'll be able to sleep tonight.

But my 2 cents.

Never, ever go out drinking with someone you like and proceed to get completely pissed that you spill your guts.

Also never get too drunk that you cannot remember doing it, so walk round for a couple of days whilst your freinds make snide remarks

But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

Lacking courage, or just realistic?

When you're as gunshy as I am, the distinction is moot.

Yes, I know that confidence is the key. Unfortunately, confidence is also one of those vicious-circle kind of things: you get rejected by a woman, which results in your losing confidence, which results in your inability to attract a woman, etc. It's a total Kobyashi Maru.

Nah I've only asked out girls that I've been absolutely positive about them liking me. Girls are scary.

Girls are scary.

Now tell me how you really feel... :twisted:

Girls are scary.

Now tell me how you really feel... :twisted:

Nah you're too scary.

Nah you're too scary.

*wound* :(

Actually, I thought about this pretty hard and I don't recall ever being rejected in a dating sense.

Not that I was always incredibly desired or popular. I think I just never put myself in a position to be rejected. Men have always been kind of easy for me to attract if I wanted to for some reason--and I didn't often want to. And women are just terrifying, so I never say anything, and they never get the chance to say anything bad.

Of course, those days are behind me now...

But basically, I've been the person doing the rejecting most of the time. :(

Weird.

Nah you're too scary.

*wound* :(

You're still less scary than 3 billion other women.

But considering it took me years of bucking up my courage to ask anyone to any dance at all, it shouldn't be surprising that I have no confidence at all anymore. I haven't even been able to muster the courage to ask a girl to dinner.

Lacking courage, or just realistic?

When you're as gunshy as I am, the distinction is moot.

Yes, I know that confidence is the key. Unfortunately, confidence is also one of those vicious-circle kind of things: you get rejected by a woman, which results in your losing confidence, which results in your inability to attract a woman, etc. It's a total Kobyashi Maru.

Even in the Kobyashi Maru, you can get a victory of sorts if you act honorably.

The worst rejection type thing that happend to me: Hot blond in history class, I start talking to her and we walk back to her apt. i get her number so everything is cool. That weekend im riding with a couple friends and we are looking for somthing to do and we decide to call up any girls we know just to hang out you know. So I call her and it turns out she didnt even remeber who i was, then my friends all started laughing cause she didnt know me, it was pretty horrible.

Never. I asked a girl out a year ago, she said no, and we are still the closest of friends. Nothing bad at all.

I took a date to my junior prom and all my friends avoided us for the whole evening. I thought I was being nobel or something. Anyway, about halfway through the evening, she drops the bomb on me that she's getting married. Mind you, this was junior prom, so we were both like 16 or 17. So, she tells me she's getting married and the kicker is she's marrying a 36 year old piano tuner. Turns out my friends knew about this because, just that day, he had been wandering around the halls of the high school trying to find her. Someone had asked him if he was her father and he'd gotten offended and replied, "No, I'm her fiance."

Wait, there's more...

After this charming little turn of events, the young lady in question cornered me in the hall one day and said she realized how awkward that evening must have been for me, but, even though she was getting married the summer between our junior and senior years, she hoped that we would still go to senior prom together. I was rather nonplussed by this and eventually asked her what her husband-to-be might think about that and she said she didn't want to take him because, "he wouldn't fit in." I told her, as graciously as I could, that I wouldn't feel right taking a married woman to prom and I didn't want to get in the way of whatever she and the piano tuner were building and then fled. Thinking I was finally done with the whole thing, I went to our spring vocal concert ready for summer and then my senior year. After the concert was over, and before I could get out of my choir robe, the young lady's mother, two hulking brothers and the piano tuner (who was stick thin and balding and, even though he was trying to look threatening, I kept thinking how I was about to be savaged by a used pipe-cleaner) surrounded me. After a moment of silence, her mother crossed her arms and said, "What's this I hear about you not taking my Angel (her name was Kelly, but she called herself Angel...draw your own conclusions) to senior prom next year? I wouldn't want her to be disappointed." My voice teacher came over at about that time and saved me from actually bursting out laughing in front of the goon squad. Needless to say, I had nothing more to do with Angel.

However, she did wind up taking the piano tuner to senior prom. They sat at the teacher's table. No one talked to them. It was glorious.

comedy genius

That's beautiful.

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the first time i asked Tink out she said no, she'd been leading me on for ages then in front of all my mates she said no

Rejected?! That is actually amusing because I've never been on the receiving end.

the first time i asked Tink out she said no, she'd been leading me on for ages then in front of all my mates she said no

i soon came to my senses :D