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How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

get real

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.

You kidding me right?

Well....do what politicians do


Pretend the girl is the citizen's votes and that other guy is your opposition. Dig up dirt, make him look bad


Best I can say

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?


Unsuccessfully in my case.

You kidding me right?

Well....do what politicians do


Pretend the girl is the citizen's votes and that other guy is your opposition. Dig up dirt, make him look bad


Best I can say
Wouldn't that hurt more than it helps?

This is very important to me. My rejection rate with women is 100%. And that covers over 574 women.
I want this one. He can't love her like I can.

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.It's actually good advice, Be real. Any kind of act you try to put on will only work short term, assuming you're not exposed as a phony immediately. So be yourself. If she likes you, great. If not, there's plenty of time and others to choose from.

You kidding me right?

Well....do what politicians do


Pretend the girl is the citizen's votes and that other guy is your opposition. Dig up dirt, make him look bad


Best I can say
Wouldn't that hurt more than it helps?

Not if you pretend you never dug anything up

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.It's actually good advice, Be real. Any kind of act you try to put on will only work short term, assuming you're not exposed as a phony immediately. So be yourself. If she likes you, great. If not, there's plenty of time and others to choose from.
Others to choose from? With my 100% rejection rate?

And her friends hooking her up with all these other guys?

If you fight in front of her, you can sabotage either of you getting her.


Seriously, she'll take the one she likes most, and you can't 'make' a girl like you.

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.It's actually good advice, Be real. Any kind of act you try to put on will only work short term, assuming you're not exposed as a phony immediately. So be yourself. If she likes you, great. If not, there's plenty of time and others to choose from.
Others to choose from? With my 100% rejection rate?How old are you? If you're still 0fer by the time you're in your thirties, you might want to start looking either at people of the same sex or who don't speak English and want a green card, but until then, yes, you have plenty of time and options.

If you fight in front of her, you can sabotage either of you getting her.


Seriously, she'll take the one she likes most, and you can't 'make' a girl like you.
Then what do I have to do?

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.It's actually good advice, Be real. Any kind of act you try to put on will only work short term, assuming you're not exposed as a phony immediately. So be yourself. If she likes you, great. If not, there's plenty of time and others to choose from.
Others to choose from? With my 100% rejection rate?How old are you? If you're still 0fer by the time you're in your thirties, you might want to start looking either at people of the same sex or who don't speak English and want a green card, but until then, yes, you have plenty of time and options.
I don't want anyone else. I want this one. And only this one.

talk to her, but not obsesivly. maybe get her to smile. show your sensative side. and stress, that no matter what, you still want to be friends.

If you fight in front of her, you can sabotage either of you getting her.


Seriously, she'll take the one she likes most, and you can't 'make' a girl like you.
Then what do I have to do?

Stop dropping your nuts and ask her out?

If she turns you down, get over it. It happens. It hurts. There are 3 billion other women you haven't tried yet...

talk to her, but not obsesivly. maybe get her to smile. show your sensative side. and stress, that no matter what, you still want to be friends.
what is obsesivly?

If you fight in front of her, you can sabotage either of you getting her.


Seriously, she'll take the one she likes most, and you can't 'make' a girl like you.
Then what do I have to do?

Stop dropping your nuts and ask her out?

If she turns you down, get over it. It happens. It hurts. There are 3 billion other women you haven't tried yet...
And 3 billion other men they prefer over me. :cry:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

You will want to avoid appearing too eager. Just assert yourself and ask her out. I don't think flowers will hurt anything either. Or if you know her well enough you can come up with a better present that shows you've been paying attention. Like maybe something she collects.

Hope this helps

good luck

I know there are women on here. Am I doing the right thing? Should I be doing it differently?
Every time I see her I give her a hallmark card and a box of chocolates.
Then I go to field for a couple of weeks and come back. And her friends are giving her number to some other guy.
:cry:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

If you can buy her love, shes not worth it.

You will want to avoid appearing too eager. Just assert yourself and ask her out. I don't think flowers will hurt anything either. Or if you know her well enough you can come up with a better present that shows you've been paying attention. Like maybe something she collects.

Hope this helps

good luck
But one of her freinds just got flowers from her boyfriend. If I give her flowers it will look like I got the idea from them.

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

If you can buy her love, shes not worth it.
I don't want to buy her. I want to prove my love and my committment to her.

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

Honestly, yes. If you are still at a stage where she is not decided between going out with you and someone else, a diamond is a very bad idea.

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

My advice is simple. Be yourself! If you do not win her over by being yourself then it was not meant to be and you are better off without her.

I have been talking to her. Now Mr. Baldie man is coming out of left field with my back turned.

I hate bald people. And people who shave their heads.

I hate bald people. And people who shave their heads.

:-/

I see no reason for that. And do not act like you hate the other guy. In my opinion, that is not the best thing to do. Make it seem like you are the nicer guy.

But in the end, be yourself!!!

If that does not win her over then she was not worth your time.

I know there are women on here. Am I doing the right thing? Should I be doing it differently?
Every time I see her I give her a hallmark card and a box of chocolates.
Then I go to field for a couple of weeks and come back. And her friends are giving her number to some other guy.
:cry:

That may be a big part of the problem. If you're gone for two weeks immediately after meeting somebody, they're most likely not going to wait around on someone that they think won't even be there most of the time. I don't know how realistic a career change is for you, but I imagine your luck would increase.

The stuffed doggy idea may be good, but the diamond sounds like a little much this early on. May put too much pressure on her.

I hate bald people. And people who shave their heads.

:-/

I see no reason for that. And do not act like you hate the other guy. In my opinion, that is not the best thing to do. Make it seem like you are the nicer guy.

But in the end, be yourself!!!

If that does not win her over then she was not worth your time.
Would it be ethical to hire someone to kill him?

Would it be ethical to hire someone to kill him?

No.

Before I was with my girlfriend there were two guys that she liked. I was just myself and I did not show any scourn towards the other male (I also did not feel any). I knew that no matter who she chose it would be best for her, and that is what I wanted. Luckily she chose me and it has been the best 4 months of my life! I want to talk to the other guy, they are still friends and such. I never have talked to him. :(

I know there are women on here. Am I doing the right thing? Should I be doing it differently?
Every time I see her I give her a hallmark card and a box of chocolates.
Then I go to field for a couple of weeks and come back. And her friends are giving her number to some other guy.
:cry:

That may be a big part of the problem. If you're gone for two weeks immediately after meeting somebody, they're most likely not going to wait around on someone that they think won't even be there most of the time. I don't know how realistic a career change is for you, but I imagine your luck would increase.

The stuffed doggy idea may be good, but the diamond sounds like a little much this early on. May put too much pressure on her.
I've known her since September. The military won't let me leave for another year and 7 months. If that was it, I would do it in heartbeat. Even if it meant going AWOL and deserting.

:roll:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

:roll:

Would it be ethical to hire someone to kill him?

No.

Before I was with my girlfriend there were two guys that she liked. I was just myself and I did not show any scourn towards the other male (I also did not feel any). I knew that no matter who she chose it would be best for her, and that is what I wanted. Luckily she chose me and it has been the best 4 months of my life! I want to talk to the other guy, they are still friends and such. I never have talked to him. :(
Actually, I feel more intimidated by the other guy.

:roll:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

:roll:Will people stop qouting this.

Her freinds won't even talk to me.

No.

Before I was with my girlfriend there were two guys that she liked. I was just myself and I did not show any scourn towards the other male (I also did not feel any). I knew that no matter who she chose it would be best for her, and that is what I wanted. Luckily she chose me and it has been the best 4 months of my life! I want to talk to the other guy, they are still friends and such. I never have talked to him. :(
Actually, I feel more intimidated by the other guy.

Try not to show that. Show him respect, in my opinion. If he starts getting in your face stay calm. If she notices this (which hopefully she will), she will see you as the better man and hopefully go for you.

How old are you?

Ahh.....male dominance for the female at it's best. One man against another for the affection of the mate. Who will win?

What would happen if I just proposed marriage to her?
A nice atomic bomb like that? Would it help me or hurt me?

What would happen if I just proposed marriage to her?
A nice atomic bomb like that? Would it help me or hurt me?

Hurt.

No.

Before I was with my girlfriend there were two guys that she liked. I was just myself and I did not show any scourn towards the other male (I also did not feel any). I knew that no matter who she chose it would be best for her, and that is what I wanted. Luckily she chose me and it has been the best 4 months of my life! I want to talk to the other guy, they are still friends and such. I never have talked to him. :(
Actually, I feel more intimidated by the other guy.

Try not to show that. Show him respect, in my opinion. If he starts getting in your face stay calm. If she notices this (which hopefully she will), she will see you as the better man and hopefully go for you.

How old are you?30

What would happen if I just proposed marriage to her?
A nice atomic bomb like that? Would it help me or hurt me?

Hurt.So. No nuclear attacks?

Her freinds won't even talk to me.

You might be coming on too strong. It is not a good thing if her friends will not talk to you. :(

How old are you?30

I shall exclude my age at the moment.

Ahh.....male dominance for the female at it's best. One man against another for the affection of the mate. Who will win?
It would be more like female dominance wouldn't it?
She's the one who has 100's of men to choose from. She don't have to compete with anyone.

i dunno man but what makes you think you are better then this fool any how?....maybe you should think long and hard on what makes you better and then try to casually show it off (like accidently dropping ur pants ha ha ).i wont give a diamond to a girl im not going out with man..sounds awfully despret dont take advice from me seriously...i usually dont put that much effort into chasing women......it only seems to work for me if the woman makes the first move...i dunno why ...i guess i seem to despreat when i ogl over a woman and scare them away

Her freinds won't even talk to me.

You might be coming on too strong. It is not a good thing if her friends will not talk to you. :(
That is why I am upset.

:roll:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

:roll:Will people stop qouting this.

Probably not. Like I said, it was a bad idea. I don*t mean to be rude, but you seem to be obsessing a bit over her if you are buying her a diamond at this point. You may well have already scared her away. The diamond most likely will, if nothing else has.

You are probably best off sucking it up and moving on.

(And yes, right now you feel like she is the only one. I have been there. You will get over it. If not, you may have a problem.)

And I haven't even seen her yet, since I've been back.

Her freinds won't even talk to me.

You might be coming on too strong. It is not a good thing if her friends will not talk to you. :(
That is why I am upset.

Calm down a bit and breathe. Act like yourself. Try to act like you would if she was just another person that you thought highly of. Show her respect, flatter her at times, but do not overwhelm her. In the end, just be yourself. It sounds so simple but it is indeed difficult at first.

What would happen if I just proposed marriage to her?
A nice atomic bomb like that? Would it help me or hurt me?

Bad, BAD, BAD idea! From what you have said, she would either laugh at you or think you were a stalker.

:roll:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

:roll:Will people stop qouting this.

Dude, listen to yourself for a minute. You are talking like you are a 15 year old kid with a crush and too much money. Sit back and think calmly for a while. Run over the scenerio in your mind, go through everything that is happening and asses what you have been doing so far. You love her, but does she return the feelings? If you have been going on duty for two weeks and she is already losing interest in you, then it is doubtful that she is serious about you. Proposing at this point would be a BAD idea. While it might reclaim her interest for a while, it cannot hold it. In then end it has to be YOU who she is in the relationship for, not the ring. The stuffed doggie, on the other hand, is a very cute idea, though you might want to calm down with the gifts. You mean well by giving them, but if you have something for her every time you see her, she might feel like you are smothering her. It is a mistake I have made in the past. Gifts are a wonderful sign of affection, but the are not special if the are always coming in. I know it has been said many time already, but be yourself. If she does not love you for that, then the relationship will not work in the end, and when it does end it will be all the more painful. Please, think rationally, be yourself, and do not try to force her into anything.

Ok, my age now. I am a mere 17 years of age. *sigh* Now everyone will ignore me in here. Hehe, but I felt like putting my age for the hell of it.

Ok, my age now. I am a mere 17 years of age. *sigh* Now everyone will ignore me in here. Hehe, but I felt like putting my age for the hell of it.

I'm 18. You can talk to me again once you can vote and drink :P

Whittier -- Before you even THINK about going AWOL, check out the web for support groups. If you still believe in your military service but are missing your sweetie, then check in with your unit's HR (Human Resource) person -- They might offer counseling for you at no charge.

If you have doubts about the wisdom of this war in Iraq, then check out your alternative BEFORE you act foolishly -- Going AWOL for unrequited love is foolish!

Soviet Democracy has great advice -- Please listen to SD.

Colodia -- I'm surprised you suggested what you did, especially after just inquiring in another NS forum about moderation watching your movements!
(BAD ADVICE YOU GAVE THIS LOVESICK GENTLEMAN)

You know what her friend did?
She told the other guy that I hadn't talked to her in 30 days. It was more like 14 days.
Plus she gave her phone number to him right in front of me and made sure I heard every single word she spoke. It was like a knife in the gut.
She absolutely refused to talk to me.
Tommorrow will be the first time in 3 weeks that I have seen her. And I missed her during that time. And she is all I ever talked about.

Ok, my age now. I am a mere 17 years of age. *sigh* Now everyone will ignore me in here. Hehe, but I felt like putting my age for the hell of it.

I'm 18. You can talk to me again once you can vote and drink :P

Almost there...almost there! Actually, a little over a month. *shrug*

You know what her friend did?
She told the other guy that I hadn't talked to her in 30 days. It was more like 14 days.
Plus she gave her phone number to him right in front of me and made sure I heard every single word she spoke. It was like a knife in the gut.
She absolutely refused to talk to me.
Tommorrow will be the first time in 3 weeks that I have seen her. And I missed her during that time. And she is all I ever talked about.

Do not get on the friend's bad side. Be kind to the friends at all costs. And try not to act completely obsessive unless she is completely obsessive about you.

As I said before, breathe and relax a bit.

Whittier -- Before you even THINK about going AWOL, check out the web for support groups. If you still believe in your military service but are missing your sweetie, then check in with your unit's HR (Human Resource) person -- They might offer counseling for you at no charge.

If you have doubts about the wisdom of this war in Iraq, then check out your alternative BEFORE you act foolishly -- Going AWOL for unrequited love is foolish!

Soviet Democracy has great advice -- Please listen to SD.

Colodia -- I'm surprised you suggested what you did, especially after just inquiring in another NS forum about moderation watching your movements!
(BAD ADVICE YOU GAVE THIS LOVESICK GENTLEMAN)
I don't know what unrequited love is. :?

Ok, my age now. I am a mere 17 years of age. *sigh* Now everyone will ignore me in here. Hehe, but I felt like putting my age for the hell of it.

I'm 18. You can talk to me again once you can vote and drink :P

Almost there...almost there! Actually, a little over a month. *shrug*

Nah I'm just kidding, you've given out some good advice so far in this thread.

Whittier -- Before you even THINK about going AWOL, check out the web for support groups. If you still believe in your military service but are missing your sweetie, then check in with your unit's HR (Human Resource) person -- They might offer counseling for you at no charge.

If you have doubts about the wisdom of this war in Iraq, then check out your alternative BEFORE you act foolishly -- Going AWOL for unrequited love is foolish!

Seconded. This is the best advice you are getting. Especially seeing the HR person. The chaplin may be of help as well, even if you are not religious.

Nah I'm just kidding, you've given out some good advice so far in this thread.

And I am glad I put to use that advice in my personal life. It worked for me and as I said before, best 4 months of my life and still going very strong.

Of course, this is my first girlfriend. My advice will not get you flings, but it will get you a solid, loving, caring, committed relationship. But, it will not give you very many of those. Why? Because a wonderful relationship does not come along very often.

You know what her friend did?
She told the other guy that I hadn't talked to her in 30 days. It was more like 14 days.
Plus she gave her phone number to him right in front of me and made sure I heard every single word she spoke. It was like a knife in the gut.
She absolutely refused to talk to me.
Tommorrow will be the first time in 3 weeks that I have seen her. And I missed her during that time. And she is all I ever talked about.

Do not get on the friend's bad side. Be kind to the friends at all costs. And try not to act completely obsessive unless she is completely obsessive about you.

As I said before, breathe and relax a bit.
Maybe she trying to get back at me. She told me her life story, asked me to move in with her. And she stares at me all the time.
But I do not love her. And I think maybe she jealous. And trying to hurt me out of revenge.

Dude, listen to yourself for a minute. You are talking like you are a 15 year old kid with a crush and too much money. Sit back and think calmly for a while. Run over the scenerio in your mind, go through everything that is happening and asses what you have been doing so far. You love her, but does she return the feelings? If you have been going on duty for two weeks and she is already losing interest in you, then it is doubtful that she is serious about you. Proposing at this point would be a BAD idea. While it might reclaim her interest for a while, it cannot hold it. In then end it has to be YOU who she is in the relationship for, not the ring. The stuffed doggie, on the other hand, is a very cute idea, though you might want to calm down with the gifts. You mean well by giving them, but if you have something for her every time you see her, she might feel like you are smothering her. It is a mistake I have made in the past. Gifts are a wonderful sign of affection, but the are not special if the are always coming in. I know it has been said many time already, but be yourself. If she does not love you for that, then the relationship will not work in the end, and when it does end it will be all the more painful. Please, think rationally, be yourself, and do not try to force her into anything.

I have to agree with the above. You are way too hyped over this. You cannot make a woman like you, no matter what Hollywood says, it just doesn't work that way. You need to relax and stop going overboard.

Age 30? Sounds more like a teenagers behaviour! When I was that age I get as stressed as this but soon learnt that time heals all wounds and life should never be taken too seriously. One girl I dated broke my heart and I thought at the time I loved her and it was torture. Looking back now years later I realise it wasn't love but lust and also quite ridicoulous how intense I got. Further hindsight (perfect 20/20 hindsight as is often the case) shows me that my relationship was shallow and superficial.

There is somebody out there for you, but this young lady may not be her.

Move on.

:twisted:

I don't know what unrequited love is. :?

Unrequited love is love that is not retuned. You love her, but she does not return your love.

Nah I'm just kidding, you've given out some good advice so far in this thread.

And I am glad I put to use that advice in my personal life. It worked for me and as I said before, best 4 months of my life and still going very strong.

Of course, this is my first girlfriend. My advice will not get you flings, but it will get you a solid, loving, caring, committed relationship. But, it will not give you very many of those. Why? Because a wonderful relationship does not come along very often.
Good advice.

Maybe she trying to get back at me. She told me her life story, asked me to move in with her. And she stares at me all the time.
But I do not love her. And I think maybe she jealous. And trying to hurt me out of revenge.

Ouch. That is definately not a positive if her friend use to "love" you. I say "love" because I do not trust others when they say it. I am rather cynical like that. But I know when I say it, I mean it. Anyways, back on topic. From the looks of it you can either calm down a lot and just be yourself. Use some charm here and there, but treat her normally, like like she is a Goddess. Or, you can move on now. Your choice.

Maybe she trying to get back at me. She told me her life story, asked me to move in with her. And she stares at me all the time.
But I do not love her. And I think maybe she jealous. And trying to hurt me out of revenge.

Ouch. That is definately not a positive if her friend use to "love" you. I say "love" because I do not trust others when they say it. I am rather cynical like that. But I know when I say it, I mean it. Anyways, back on topic. From the looks of it you can either calm down a lot and just be yourself. Use some charm here and there, but treat her normally, like like she is a Goddess. Or, you can move on now. Your choice.
She is the Goddess. I already talked about her, when I was logged in as Unclebob.

Age 30? Sounds more like a teenagers behaviour!

:( Not all teenagers are immature when it comes to relationships. Some of them are mature enough to handle a serious relationship.

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Stop being a nerd and asking for love advice on a forum... for starters...

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Stop being a nerd and asking for love advice on a forum... for starters...
Up yours dude. :evil:

She is the Goddess. I already talked about her, when I was logged in as Unclebob.

But you have to look at her like she is your equal, like you deserve her and she deserves you. You can shower her with love and affection, only if she showers you back. You have to make her feel special, but not smother her with stuff. Smothering can be scary and can seem rather pathetic to the one who is recieving the smothering.

She is the Goddess. I already talked about her, when I was logged in as Unclebob.

But you have to look at her like she is your equal, like you deserve her and she deserves you. You can shower her with love and affection, only if she showers you back. You have to make her feel special, but not smother her with stuff. Smothering can be scary and can seem rather pathetic to the one who is recieving the smothering.
But she always seems to like it. She says she does. That is why I do it.

What did you do to the other 574? :twisted: :roll:

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Stop being a nerd and asking for love advice on a forum... for starters...
Up yours dude. :evil:

Take that back or no more advice from me! And The Blue Viper is a female! Get it right!

Hi BV! How are you?! *hugs*

But I am about to go anyways... :D <--smiles because he is calling his special someone.

She is the Goddess. I already talked about her, when I was logged in as Unclebob.

But you have to look at her like she is your equal, like you deserve her and she deserves you. You can shower her with love and affection, only if she showers you back. You have to make her feel special, but not smother her with stuff. Smothering can be scary and can seem rather pathetic to the one who is recieving the smothering.
But she always seems to like it. She says she does. That is why I do it.

As I said before, be yourself. You cannot be her bitch.

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Stop being a nerd and asking for love advice on a forum... for starters...
Up yours dude. :evil:

Take that back or no more advice from me! And The Blue Viper is a female! Get it right!

Hi BV! How are you?! *hugs*

But I am about to go anyways... :D <--smiles because he is calling his special someone.
K. I take that back.

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Stop being a nerd and asking for love advice on a forum... for starters...
Up yours dude. :evil:

Oi leave vipes alone.

Oh and shes a girl, a very easy girl.





just kidding vipes babe, you know I love you

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Stop being a nerd and asking for love advice on a forum... for starters...
Up yours dude. :evil:

Take that back or no more advice from me! And The Blue Viper is a female! Get it right!

Hi BV! How are you?! *hugs*

But I am about to go anyways... :D <--smiles because he is calling his special someone.

sEX TO BOTH OF YOU... and curse these caps locks! No more blow up dolls for SD!

K. I take that back.

Hehe! Yay!

But I must go anyways.

In the end you have to be yourself. Do not change your life completely for her. Yes, you have to make compromises. But, both people must make compromises in their life. That is how it works. But be yourself and try to relax a bit.

Goodnight everyone!

Bye BV!!!

No more blow up dolls for SD!

YAY!

*picks up old doll that BV gave him* *watches is blow up as it hits the wall where he threw it*

Whoa...

Goodnight BV!

why arn't letters cools?

Hope you are feeling a little better Whittier.

Daistallia. BV, SD and others have given great attention here!
In the morning, check into a chaplan that is even remotely related to your faith. If you don't have one, there are even atheist counslors -- check out the websites for the American Humanist Association, etc.

To reiterate my earlier comments -- Put those AWOL thoughts out of your mind, unless you have a moral problem with fighting in war.

:( I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this. I'm 42 and I've had my share of struggle in this regard. It will pass.

Speak with a counselor. Maybe someone in your family you can talk to. Do you have a sister or a female cousin you sometimes confide in? They can give you some good insights -- and because they know you, they can boost your sagging morale.

Wherever you are in the world, please know that the community here at NS is thinking about you and mostly is hoping for the best for you, whatever happens. :wink:

The first thing to do is to stop counting the girls it hasn't worked with... counting up to 547 girls is obcessive.

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Rohypnol?*

* That was a joke. Please put the pitchforks down.

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Hope you are feeling a little better Whittier.

Daistallia. BV, SD and others have given great attention here!
In the morning, check into a chaplan that is even remotely related to your faith. If you don't have one, there are even atheist counslors -- check out the websites for the American Humanist Association, etc.

To reiterate my earlier comments -- Put those AWOL thoughts out of your mind, unless you have a moral problem with fighting in war.

:( I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this. I'm 42 and I've had my share of struggle in this regard. It will pass.

Speak with a counselor. Maybe someone in your family you can talk to. Do you have a sister or a female cousin you sometimes confide in? They can give you some good insights -- and because they know you, they can boost your sagging morale.

Wherever you are in the world, please know that the community here at NS is thinking about you and mostly is hoping for the best for you, whatever happens. :wink:
I have formally renounced God cause he never did anything for. Everything bad happens to me. and never anything good.
And my family never supported anything I did.

Maybe someone in your family you can talk to. Do you have a sister or a female cousin you sometimes confide in? They can give you some good insights -- and because they know you, they can boost your sagging morale.

Oh yes, very good.*

And yes, most of us are hoping good things for you. :D

*(I have no sisters and my only cousin is 17 years younger and has always lived far, far away. I hadn*t thought of it, but now that you mention it, I wish I had had a sister or cousin to ask!)

I have formally renounced God cause he never did anything for. Everything bad happens to me. and never anything good.
And my family never supported anything I did.

Ok. Please, please speak with a counselor of some sort. As above, speak to the HR person. They should be able to help. Maybe a more senior NCO could help as well - someone who has known you awhile and will help take care of you.

Please take care!

Whittier, take things easy. *I'm a girl by the way* Treat her like a person not a goddess...at least for a couple months. This will show that you're not desperate and gives you an opportunity to show her what YOU are like, what qualities you possess and what a great guy you are. When she is in an extremely good mood around you, be *just a little* flirty, very courteous and funny. I for example, can't resist a funny guy. ;) After that, see how things go. And um...try to avoid that friend of hers...sounds like she's got it in for you...what a beotch. :evil:

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Your best bet is to follow your love everywhere. Don't talk to them, just follow them. Keep a diary of thier daily activities. Anything they do could be a secret message to you. When they are at home, watch them through thier window. If they call the police, don't be discouraged. This is just a test to see how far you will go to be with your love. If they have another boy/girl friend send them threatening messages. You can intimidate them into leaving the one you love, because they do not care the way you do. Take pictures or video of your love and look through thier garbage cans for momentos. Use these items to create a shrine in your bedroom dedicated to the one you love.

Your best bet is to follow your love everywhere. Don't talk to them, just follow them. Keep a diary of thier daily activities. Anything they do could be a secret message to you. When they are at home, watch them through thier window. If they call the police, don't be discouraged. This is just a test to see how far you will go to be with your love. If they have another boy/girl friend send them threatening messages. You can intimidate them into leaving the one you love, because they do not care the way you do. Take pictures or video of your love and look through thier garbage cans for momentos. Use these items to create a shrine in your bedroom dedicated to the one you love.

Works for you, does it Zwako?

Age 30? Sounds more like a teenagers behaviour!

:( Not all teenagers are immature when it comes to relationships. Some of them are mature enough to handle a serious relationship.

My apologies. I was refererring to my own teenage behaviour and yes I was generalising when I shouldn't have.

You will have to admit though that the majority of teenagers are immature when it comes relationships though.

But there are exceptions, one of my sisters-in-law was very mature for her age and another is very immature!

:twisted:

OOC: ahahahahahaahahahahahahah. Well i have found this funny. you know maybe this will push him over the edge make him go on a killing spree of all those that rejected him. :lol:

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.It's actually good advice, Be real. Any kind of act you try to put on will only work short term, assuming you're not exposed as a phony immediately. So be yourself. If she likes you, great. If not, there's plenty of time and others to choose from.
Others to choose from? With my 100% rejection rate?How old are you? If you're still 0fer by the time you're in your thirties, you might want to start looking either at people of the same sex or who don't speak English and want a green card, but until then, yes, you have plenty of time and options.
I don't want anyone else. I want this one. And only this one.
Clone her.

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Your best bet is to follow your love everywhere. Don't talk to them, just follow them. Keep a diary of thier daily activities. Anything they do could be a secret message to you. When they are at home, watch them through thier window. If they call the police, don't be discouraged. This is just a test to see how far you will go to be with your love. If they have another boy/girl friend send them threatening messages. You can intimidate them into leaving the one you love, because they do not care the way you do. Take pictures or video of your love and look through thier garbage cans for momentos. Use these items to create a shrine in your bedroom dedicated to the one you love.
Screeeew that. Your wacko!

How do you convince a girl to pick you over another guy?
This is very important to me. Please help.

Your best bet is to follow your love everywhere. Don't talk to them, just follow them. Keep a diary of thier daily activities. Anything they do could be a secret message to you. When they are at home, watch them through thier window. If they call the police, don't be discouraged. This is just a test to see how far you will go to be with your love. If they have another boy/girl friend send them threatening messages. You can intimidate them into leaving the one you love, because they do not care the way you do. Take pictures or video of your love and look through thier garbage cans for momentos. Use these items to create a shrine in your bedroom dedicated to the one you love.
Screeeew that. Your wacko!

get real
I'm very serious. This ain't no joke.It's actually good advice, Be real. Any kind of act you try to put on will only work short term, assuming you're not exposed as a phony immediately. So be yourself. If she likes you, great. If not, there's plenty of time and others to choose from.
Others to choose from? With my 100% rejection rate?How old are you? If you're still 0fer by the time you're in your thirties, you might want to start looking either at people of the same sex or who don't speak English and want a green card, but until then, yes, you have plenty of time and options.
I don't want anyone else. I want this one. And only this one.
Clone her.
Is that possible?

OOC: ahahahahahaahahahahahahah. Well i have found this funny. you know maybe this will push him over the edge make him go on a killing spree of all those that rejected him. :lol:
No. But I am thinking about killing ever single other male on planet earth. That way I would be the only one. :evil:

Hope you are feeling a little better Whittier.

Daistallia. BV, SD and others have given great attention here!
In the morning, check into a chaplan that is even remotely related to your faith. If you don't have one, there are even atheist counslors -- check out the websites for the American Humanist Association, etc.

To reiterate my earlier comments -- Put those AWOL thoughts out of your mind, unless you have a moral problem with fighting in war.

:( I'm sorry you are having a hard time with this. I'm 42 and I've had my share of struggle in this regard. It will pass.

Speak with a counselor. Maybe someone in your family you can talk to. Do you have a sister or a female cousin you sometimes confide in? They can give you some good insights -- and because they know you, they can boost your sagging morale.

Wherever you are in the world, please know that the community here at NS is thinking about you and mostly is hoping for the best for you, whatever happens. :wink:I have determined to talk to her. I have always kept my word. But if she does want that, then for the first time, I will break my word, if she says that is what she wants.
If they want to put me jail for it, then I am very willing to go to jail for her.

My decision is that I will talk to her about it, tonight.
And when I do, I will give her Mr. Fluffy.
I can gaurantee, if anyone hurts her, I will hunt them down to the ends of the earth. No place on earth will be safe for that person.

I would burn down entire cities for her.
I would start wars for her.
Yes, I am fully resolved to talk to her. And there is absolutely nothing that will get in my way.

If nothing else, she's done wonders for your post count!

Not meant to be offensive in anyway *sympathetic*

I talked to her. And....

She tried to say she was a bad person. :?

No offense dude, but you're gonna have to back off this one a bit. You are way to obsessive and have quite rightly spooked the hell out of the girl.

I would burn down entire cities for her.
I would start wars for her.
Yes, I am fully resolved to talk to her. And there is absolutely nothing that will get in my way.

No. But I am thinking about killing ever single other male on planet earth. That way I would be the only one.

I have formally renounced God cause he never did anything for. Everything bad happens to me. and never anything good.
And my family never supported anything I did.

Buying her a diamond before your even goin' out in any serious way...

I do find it encouraging that you think that the stalker suggestion (which I believe was made in jest) is sick.

But really, you're gonna have to step back. At this point it would almost be more damaging if you found a girl that responded to this kind of thing. It ain't healthy man. You would most definetly smother the girl in your current state.

Being in the military diminishes this statement a great deal, but hopefully you'll get my meaning:You do not live and die on any event. (you know where this doesn't aply. If you don't, ask to be re-trained.) Right now, though, I'd guess you're depressed and angry in a manner that you should talk to someone (someone qualified to make that assesment, which I should say that I am not) about it.

I'm not saying you're a bad person, but I am saying you are scary as hell. Scope, man. You gotta get some scope.

Does anyone else feel like this is the male version of Danya? First he's dying of cancer, then his "friend" announces his death, which he prompty denies, then he's out trying to auction off his "friend's" nation as his own, and now he's asking for love advice, since he's been rejected by 574 women. It all seems a little far-fetched.

No offense dude, but you're gonna have to back off this one a bit. You are way to obsessive and have quite rightly spooked the hell out of the girl.

I would burn down entire cities for her.
I would start wars for her.
Yes, I am fully resolved to talk to her. And there is absolutely nothing that will get in my way.

No. But I am thinking about killing ever single other male on planet earth. That way I would be the only one.

I have formally renounced God cause he never did anything for. Everything bad happens to me. and never anything good.
And my family never supported anything I did.

Buying her a diamond before your even goin' out in any serious way...

I do find it encouraging that you think that the stalker suggestion (which I believe was made in jest) is sick.

But really, you're gonna have to step back. At this point it would almost be more damaging if you found a girl that responded to this kind of thing. It ain't healthy man. You would most definetly smother the girl in your current state.

Being in the military diminishes this statement a great deal, but hopefully you'll get my meaning:You do not live and die on any event. (you know where this doesn't aply. If you don't, ask to be re-trained.) Right now, though, I'd guess you're depressed and angry in a manner that you should talk to someone (someone qualified to make that assesment, which I should say that I am not) about it.

I'm not saying you're a bad person, but I am saying you are scary as hell. Scope, man. You gotta get some scope.

Dude, only that last qoute was serious.
The first one was poetic. The second one was a joke.
But as for the third, it is quite true that God never did anything for me. If you knew my life, you would agree. You would know that everything bad does happen to me. Not a single good thing has ever happened to me.
And no, my own family never supported me in anything. No one ever has.
Despite this, I survived to 30. If I can survive that long with the entire world against me, and no one on my side, what the hell makes you think I need anyone now. I don't need anyone. I never have and I never will.
I came into this world alone, and I will leave it the same way I came in: alone.
And when I talked to her, she was not scared. Cause I asked her.

Does anyone else feel like this is the male version of Danya? First he's dying of cancer, then his "friend" announces his death, which he prompty denies, then he's out trying to auction off his "friend's" nation as his own, and now he's asking for love advice, since he's been rejected by 574 women. It all seems a little far-fetched.
Do you know what you are talking about? Go back and read my posts.
First off, I did not say I had cancer, I said they think it is a possibility cause I do have blood in the stool.
And that nation was mine to begin with. I created it and gave it to him. I had the right to take it back.
Excuse me, unlike you, I have never ever been accepted by a single female. So you can Fuck off.

Who the fuck is Danya? And what the hell does he have to do with anything?

Alright Whittier, first of all, don't renounce God over a woman. He works in odd ways. I'm going to agree with everyone else in saying that you shouldn't give her a diamond right now. And I don't think that you should be thinking of her as a goddess, I have found that the best way to approach a woman is as an equal, and to simply be yourself. If you have to act differently for a woman to love you, then she isn't worth your time, and it can take a lot of work to keep up a charade. I realise that you have seen like, 500 something women, but that doesn't mean that she is the only person out there. I have doubts that you really did try over 500 women, but you're either counting random times when you tried a pick up line (by the way, pick up lines aren't a good idea) or you're exaggerating. I know what it's like to think that someone is the only one, but its been for three or four separate women, so there are others, it may not seem like it, but there are. :wink: I'm not completely sure why you're asking about love in a place like nation states, but I hope my advice helps.

Oh, and by the way, where is everyone here from? I've seen most of the posts made at like 2:00 AM, I'm from Maryland, in the US, and I'm writing these at about 4 or 5 AM, so I'm guessing that most people here aren't exactly near where I live.

Oh, and by the way, where is everyone here from? I've seen most of the posts made at like 2:00 AM, I'm from Maryland, in the US, and I'm writing these at about 4 or 5 AM, so I'm guessing that most people here aren't exactly near where I live.

Boston, Massachusetts.

Osaka, Japan

:roll:

I bought her a diamond. But I have not given it to her. And a stuffed doggy. I will give them to her tommorrow.
Is that a good idea?

:roll:Will people stop qouting this.

No.

You need to move on. This looks to me like a cry for help. If you have to buy a girls love, then she does not love you.