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I know this has been asked 100's of times
but am I going to have to "change"(like my sister says) to get a g/f? I am shy when it comes to a asking a girl out.
I think I know what the answer will be, but its not easy to just change,
or am I hopeless & should I just give up on the whole thing?
any suggestions besides "get lost" or "no-one wants you" ? ;)

I think its hopeless......just remember all ya need is porn and internet......

Porn is an invasion of privacy, it is sexist and immoral, and it can ruin your life if you get addicted to it. I think that a girlfriend would be a better option.

Porn is an invasion of privacy, it is sexist and immoral, and it can ruin your life if you get addicted to it. I think that a girlfriend would be a better option.

Dare you declare war on pornography? Pornography has lowered crime and increased global happiness and it is absolutlely not sexist.

Hi Happi! Good to see you!

I've got no advice for you other than just ask her out. What's the worst thing that could happen? So she says no. You're no worse off than you you were before you asked. One day you'll meet a girl you like and she's going to like you and you'll feel silly because it was all so easy. And what ever you do, don't change. I like you the way you are.

I agree: don't change. Believe me, you're better off alone for a little while more than going with a girls if you have to lie on who you are and act through. Try to find someone who'll like you for who you are, otherwise it's not really love, it's living a lie.(I'm speaking personnal experience here).

As for the shy factor, have you thought about NOT asking her out to a date? By that I mean forget the "I wanna ask you out" lines you know and just find something you both like and say "I'm doing so-or-so saturday, wanna come?". That usually gives results if she's interested, and if not you're spared the humiliation of a flat out refusal.

Anyhow, good luck. But don't try to get a girlfriend just for the fun of it: I advise not to move unless you actually feel something for the lass. Giving in to per pressure is stupid. I know what I'm talking about. :?

Porn is an invasion of privacy, it is sexist and immoral, and it can ruin your life if you get addicted to it.

Question: is gay porn sexist?

I think its hopeless......just remember all ya need is porn and internet......

I would rather stay alone ;)

Hi Happi! Good to see you!

I've got no advice for you other than just ask her out. What's the worst thing that could happen? So she says no. You're no worse off than you you were before you asked. One day you'll meet a girl you like and she's going to like you and you'll feel silly because it was all so easy. And what ever you do, don't change. I like you the way you are.

I hope I find someone I like & she likes me & it goes easy :)

I agree: don't change. Believe me, you're better off alone for a little while more than going with a girls if you have to lie on who you are and act through. Try to find someone who'll like you for who you are, otherwise it's not really love, it's living a lie.(I'm speaking personnal experience here).

yea, I would rather be alone, then have to live a lie

As for the shy factor, have you thought about NOT asking her out to a date? By that I mean forget the "I wanna ask you out" lines you know and just find something you both like and say "I'm doing so-or-so saturday, wanna come?". That usually gives results if she's interested, and if not you're spared the humiliation of a flat out refusal.

hmm, never thought of that, that sounds good ! :)

Anyhow, good luck. But don't try to get a girlfriend just for the fun of it: I advise not to move unless you actually feel something for the lass. Giving in to per pressure is stupid. I know what I'm talking about. :?

I for sure don't want a g/f for the fun of it, nor the other way around(she wants me for the fun of it)

:)

Just rape small defenseless children like me. Do it in the name of Allah. They let you get away with anything as long as it has something to do with religion.

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I think its hopeless......just remember all ya need is porn and internet......

Hmm. That's a rather odd philosophy lol.

Well i really have no advice for you except just ask her out man up and ask her out thats what i did and it worked great.

Don't change yourself for a girl, Happiness.

If she doesn't like you for who you are, she's not worth it.

I think its hopeless......just remember all ya need is porn and internet......

And a nice stong grip! And porn is perfectlly legal! It's just a way to keep the nympho's happy I guess.

Just rape small defenseless children like me. Do it in the name of Allah. They let you get away with anything as long as it has something to do with religion.

Same on you, monkey man!

I know this has been asked 100's of times
but am I going to have to "change"(like my sister says) to get a g/f? I am shy when it comes to a asking a girl out.
I think I know what the answer will be, but its not easy to just change,
or am I hopeless & should I just give up on the whole thing?
any suggestions besides "get lost" or "no-one wants you" ? ;)How old are you? If you're in your twenties and you're having this problem, then maybe an examination is in order, but if you're in your teens (especially your early teens) then give yourself some time. Be happy with yourself--girlfriends come and go, but you have to live with yourself. Don't sell out for quick gratification.

Change to get a gf? Well I suppose you may have to change a little as in being less shy, but don't change a whole lot. We wouldn't want that. It's no use having a partner if they don't know the real you.

Now you toddle off and have lots of sex now, you hear?

Don't change man! Then you'll be living a lie.

First off

You obviously should change, because you are asking the question.

Change is part of life; refusing to change is like saying "I want to be X years old my whole life!"

It does not happen, and trying to make it happen is bad for you both mentally and physically.

It is only when we embrace change that we can truly live.

One must be the rock and the stream; to be either in isolation is to be doomed to despair and failure.

Also, fun is the best reason to get a girlfriend. Let me remind you that that is the whole point of having one!

Girls are just as into kissing and sex as any male; you just have to remember that (ok, not always sex because they can get pregnant, but they still like it a lot, let me assure you).

Also, remember that everyone is into expirementation; you never know what someone is willing to do until you ask them. That said, do not simply walk up to a girl out of nowhere and ask for a date. Then you a weird. You must first prepare the ground by asking any mutual friends about her, talking to her a lot, and making sure to hang out as often as possible.

If you are willing to learn, you will find that things will occurr as they will. It is not the goal that matters, but the Way. Trust yourself, be willing to give up your time, and you will find joy in both yourself and others.

PS: I am male, so don't go gettin any ideas! ;p

I know this has been asked 100's of times
but am I going to have to "change"(like my sister says) to get a g/f? I am shy when it comes to a asking a girl out.
I think I know what the answer will be, but its not easy to just change,
or am I hopeless & should I just give up on the whole thing?
any suggestions besides "get lost" or "no-one wants you" ? ;)


Freind, you do not have to change for anybody. But if you do fall in love ( I'm assuming your a young man)be prepared for the rollercoaster ride of your life. It's a fun ride Boom or bust!!!

Porn in is like getting a blood transfusion from the devil...


But back to you...

Change is ok, if you want to do it. All of us have areas that we can work on, or improve. Don't just settle for whatever, or who ever just to be with someone, or to have a g/f. Be yourself, and have fun. When you are happy with who you are, that will show and I can assure you girls will be attracted to that.

Porn in is like getting a blood transfusion from the devil...


no its really not, i've had an satanic transfusion, its more like mainlining meth. :twisted:

thanks for all the comments ! :)

never really thought of, if you have to change(unless you a grumpy/nasty person ;) ) there is no use being with him/her(in this case her)

I'm 16, I know thats young, but I am a very mature(I think ;) )
I'm almost out of school(another month), I have a job & I am paying for my own new car(2003 Lancer ;) ), about the only thing I don't have is my own house ;) lol