In love or in like?
How do you tell whether u are in love or in like? When u think abt the person 24/7? When he simply needs to smile and makes my day? Or when he doesn't know my feelings and hurt me?
How do you tell whether u are in love or in like? When u think abt the person 24/7? When he simply needs to smile and makes my day? Or when he doesn't know my feelings and hurt me?
Yes, yes and probably yes. :) But even worse when he/she is sad and your heart just breaks... not the ordinary compassion, but the real thing. Then you're probably very hooked.
All men can go to Hell
08-04-2004, 14:28
Just because you can't stop thinking of this person dosen't mean it's truly love. What really matters is how this person makes you feel, or even how you make them feel. It isn't a matter of thinking, it's matter of feeling. Besides, true love is rare.
Besides, true love is rare.
Where'd you get that one from?
Besides, true love is rare.
Where'd you get that one from?
More to the point..with that poster's name..somebody must have serious relationship problems...."All men can go to Hell"...ack....
Collaboration
08-04-2004, 14:57
Most love starts out fiery, like the blaze on the hearth when the wood first catches. Later it either goes out, or settles down to an enjoyable sustaining warmth.
I knew my love was more than lust when I saw a man dive into traffic to save a woman in danger , asked myself who I'd be willing to risk my precious life for, and the answer came "for her".
Besides, true love is rare.
Where'd you get that one from?
More to the point..with that poster's name..somebody must have serious relationship problems...."All men can go to Hell"...ack....
That poster could be a lesbian, I suppose.. :| :oops:
Besides, true love is rare.
Where'd you get that one from?
More to the point..with that poster's name..somebody must have serious relationship problems...."All men can go to Hell"...ack....
That poster could be a lesbian, I suppose.. :| :oops:
Lesbian or not..it's a pretty sweeping indictment of men in general. While our gender is indeed capable of unforgiving, even crude, and yes..dare I say it...evil behavior toward women....it is a two-way street in that behavior.
odd, why do people so often assume that a man-hater is a lesbian, or that a lesbian is a man-hater? :| you think lesbians go for women cos that's all they can get?
(i don't mean to get at you, Ixxi, i know you don't think like that)
There are many levels of love, it’s not just in love or in like. What matters most is your ability to trust them. The more you can trust somebody the deeper your love can be. All other things are just passions. You can love somebody and have no passion for them, or you can have passion for somebody without love. Love without passion is fine there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Passion without love is more of a shady area. At times there is nothing wrong with a loveless passion, in fact over time love can even blossom from passion, but at it’s worst it can lead to abuse, possessive qualities and addictions of the possessed to the one that possesses. Being in love can be confused with passion, but what being in love really means is that you love somebody and are passionate with them. You need to be able to trust, respect and have a passion for somebody before you’re really in love. The trick with love is knowing how much you can trust them.
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Freedom For Most
08-04-2004, 16:13
I find that I only know I was in love or not with someone when I break up with them.
Most of the time, I've broke up and thought "well, I didn't really like them that much after all".
Its an individual thing though.
imported_Curantan
08-04-2004, 16:18
well i reckon that you start off with passion, then if you're lucky it turns into love.
has never happened to me though.
Ecopoeia
08-04-2004, 16:41
The sad thing is that sometimes you only realise you are in love when it's too late. It's the absence of someone precious serves to clarify your feelings. And that ain't helpful.
Love is torture. Don't do it!
imported_Curantan
08-04-2004, 16:47
The sad thing is that sometimes you only realise you are in love when it's too late. It's the absence of someone precious serves to clarify your feelings. And that ain't helpful.
:( that is really sad. that's never happened to me either; i feel i've somehow missed the whole true love experience thing.
The sad thing is that sometimes you only realise you are in love when it's too late. It's the absence of someone precious serves to clarify your feelings. And that ain't helpful.
:( that is really sad. that's never happened to me either; i feel i've somehow missed the whole true love experience thing.
yer not missing owt....twenty years down the line you'll get screwed for every cent you are worth in the divorce settlement.
Benignity
08-04-2004, 16:53
of all the answers so far
Just because you can't stop thinking of this person dosen't mean it's truly love. What really matters is how this person makes you feel, or even how you make them feel. It isn't a matter of thinking, it's matter of feeling.
i agree with this most closely.
Besides, true love is rare.
i agree with this too
but just because it's rare, doesn't mean it never happens...
Ecopoeia
08-04-2004, 16:55
Me, earlier... "The sad thing is that sometimes you only realise you are in love when it's too late. It's the absence of someone precious serves to clarify your feelings. And that ain't helpful."
Oops, I don't want people getting all sorry for me - I've seen the above happen to others, I'm not certain it's happened to me. It's all part of growing up and learning, I guess.
Esselldee
08-04-2004, 16:56
Ok, this is so cliche, but I just knew.
There was a different sort of "energy" when I met him.
I'd been involved before and had just said to myself - "forget about finding someone and just relax and enjoy life", and a couple of months later, when I wasn't looking for or expecting it, there he was.
It will be 20 years next month that we've been together and I still think of him as my best friend and love him more than ever.
:D
Irish Beer Lovers
08-04-2004, 17:10
I THINK I am in love, but I am still deciding. My wife and I have only been together for 28 years, so it's still a little early to tell. :D
Irish Beer Lovers
08-04-2004, 17:11
I THINK I am in love, but I am still deciding. My wife and I have only been together for 28 years, so it's still a little early to tell. :D
From my experience, "like" and "love" that you may feel for someone isn't always a two way street.
And it can really turn upside down. Especially if it was a friendship to begin with :?
Are you in a relationship with this person Unicortia? or is it just a "want" thing right now?
You know its love when you would lay down your life for them. when you would follow them to the ends of the earth. When you respect them deeply & would never intentionally hurt them. when you can sit in silence with them but still be having a conversation. when you cook for them & don't mind (!).when they hog the PS2 & you don't mind (well a bit, lol) . when you don't want to be apart, not even for 1 night.
Listen to me!! Must be a bank holiday coming up coz I've gone all soppy!
ooo thats another thing - I have NEVER been mushy before - now I need a bucket all the time coz I make meself sick with the mushy rubbish I come out with! and another - when you can be 100% yourself & they are the same & you still go weak at the knees.
Just MHO. Have had a lot of relationships (oo that sounded bad!) - well 3 long term 'serious' ones. the guy I'm with now - hes 'THE ONE' - & I just know - call it instinct, guts.