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does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

I would tell the bitch to get out.

Then again, I'm not that good of a person.

Ah, I remember going through that. Only he cheated on me thrice.

How serious?

Depends if you're living with her or not. And it depends if you're gonna dump her or not.

was it like a one time thing, or is it an on-going problem?

Ah, I remember going through that. Only he cheated on me thrice.

How serious?

One time a guy cheated on one of my friends that was a girl. And I chased him across the campus and socked him so hard he fell backwards and his lip bled.

If you're under 24, you're still developing emotionally, and don't need the pain that comes from a person you've invested into emotionally betraying you.

If you're over 24, you're past the age of letting small problems like cheating disrupt your life unless it's in the context of a marriage.

Good point dude. I am now over 24 but I wasn't when that happened to the girl I was friends with.

Tell her the doctor says you have AIDS, and ask her how you possibly could have got it. That'd be pretty hilarious.

no offence to AIDS/HIV people, just seems like justice... plus she'd freak out and dump the other guy too, most likely.

If you still want to be with her stay with her?

If you two are not married or looking to be married I wouldn't sweat it. People make mistakes.

well the story goes like this last night my mate told me to meet him up the street at 1:00am so we could get some booze and smokes as were walking down he tells me that his friend was out clubbing and he kissed my girlfriend but he didnt know who she was so i dont really blame him. this is all i know so far. Me and my missus have been together a year and 8 months.

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Just cheat on her. Free love, mon :wink:

My Girlfriend's Cheating on me

(Simpson's Nelson-style) Hah-Haaa!

just talk with her. she prolly just got caught up in the moment or sumthing.

You're posting on a role-playing site asking for dating advice...

How much does monogamy matter to you? If it's really important the dump her. If it matters alot, but isn't the most important thing then confront her about it and try to get her to promise to not anymore. If you don't really care then talk to her about it, and if you're lucky, welcome to the world of the open relationship. :wink:

well the story goes like this last night my mate told me to meet him up the street at 1:00am so we could get some booze and smokes as were walking down he tells me that his friend was out clubbing and he kissed my girlfriend but he didnt know who she was so i dont really blame him. this is all i know so far. Me and my missus have been together a year and 8 months.

If it was just a kiss, it's probably not that big of a deal. The best thing to do is talk to her about it.

Monogamy blows. I learned that a while ago.

It depends on who she’s cheating with. It’s it’s someone you know dump the slut and beat the fool she’s been cheating with. Then find out why she’s cheating on you. If it’s just the sex then that gives you permission to fool around too and the possibility to maintain your relationship with her. If it’s because the other person has more money you can either ask for a cut of her profits or dump the whore. If the guy looks better than you dump her. If she’s cheating on you with a lady, ask to join in 8)

Monogamy blows. I learned that a while ago.

Monogamy blows. I learned that a while ago.

Man, If you don't kick her ass to the curb, then something's wrong with you.

dump her immediately. you deserve better. she obviously does not love you as much as you love her. why degrade yourself by staying with her?

dump her immediately. you deserve better. she obviously does not love you as much as you love her. why degrade yourself by staying with her?

Yes, true.

If you're under 24, you're still developing emotionally, and don't need the pain that comes from a person you've invested into emotionally betraying you.

If you're over 24, you're past the age of letting small problems like cheating disrupt your life unless it's in the context of a marriage.

So you can pinpoint the moment when you all of a sudden think of cheating as a "small problem" ? :lol: (I'm 23 now, I guess my view will change next year)

Just dump her right now, no questions asked. If you stick with her, she's going to do it again, and who knows what kind of STD's she could be festering with.

-Once a cheater, always a cheater-

boy, the people here are so optomistic

I'd just talk it out with her, I mean remember you are hearing this from a friend who heard from a friend, not exactly first hand evidence. Dont ruin something good over what could just be a misunderstanding, also if the guy was drunk at the time it may not have even been her, possibly just someone who looks like her


oh and I do not understand the monogamy thing being a bad thing, I dont want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with me on the same level. It's not like sharing toys, these are people

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.
Whereas;
You posted this here AND are obviously upset AND
It was more like making out AND not carrying on an affair AND we can safely assume your buddy who told you told the the truth AND the whole truth (maybe) AND you still say your girlfriend cheated on you

In all liklihood you should proclaim her "your EX girlfriend who cheated on you."

Kick her to the curb.

:shock:

dump her

Monogamy blows. I learned that a while ago.

True, and occasionally it sucks too!

:shock:

oh well. go with the flow.

start singing "na na na na! na na na na! hey hey hey! good bye!" to her, then kick her to the curb

i appreciate all your advice thanks again guys.

If you are this upset over a 'he saw she saw' situation like this your relationship with this girl must already be on shaky ground. Take a minute and think about it. You are so upset that you are talking it over on this BB with strangers (and some of us are stranger than others). Have you talked it over with your mates? If not, is it because you don't think they would give you honest advice and tend to say things mainly to support you? Or have you talked to them and not agreed with what they have said.

You have been having a relationship with this girl for over a year and you do not feel comfortable enough with your feelings for her or hers for you to talk to her about it. That sort of indicates that there are more problems than a simple bar room flirtation on her part. One of the most important things in maintaining a good relationship, with a pal or a romantic partner, is communication. Being able to talk about anything and everything builds trust and removes misunderstanding. At this point in time you should feel comfortable enough to talk to her about this without doubt. So it is really quite simple...talk or walk.

If you're under 24, you're still developing emotionally, and don't need the pain that comes from a person you've invested into emotionally betraying you.

If you're over 24, you're past the age of letting small problems like cheating disrupt your life unless it's in the context of a marriage.

So you can pinpoint the moment when you all of a sudden think of cheating as a "small problem" ? :lol: (I'm 23 now, I guess my view will change next year)

Now, now, let's be accurate about this... if you read the quote carefully, you'll notice it only has descriptions of those under and over 24.

Logically, then, we can only conclude that while you're 24, you'll be in limbo.

Well, i would verify the story with her first. It may be innocent, in may never have happened. But if you are upset enough to post on-line before talking to her you already have some serious problems. I would say if you feel like this is important or if you are just unhappy and looking for a way out....Get out now.

You should decide before you talk to her, what your plan is.

You should have a clear idea what you want to do.

If she has been cheating, ditch her; if not, find out what exactly happened.

well what id like to do is find the guy and beat him to death with his shoes.

well what id like to do is find the guy and beat him to death with his shoes.

But it is not his fault. Beat her with his shoes.

someones gonna end up in hospital or the morgue by the end of this

someones gonna end up in hospital or the morgue by the end of this

Alright, but they are going to be dating while you are in prison....

I would suggest just walking away from it.

ive done stuff like this before and ive never got caught so ill just have to make it look like an accident.

This is why you do like me and join the clergy.

ive done stuff like this before and ive never got caught so ill just have to make it look like an accident.

Crimes of passion are where you always get caught. And since they can see everything that you have typed on here if something happens, dude, you are screwed.

well what id like to do is find the guy and beat him to death with his shoes.

whats he got to do with it? he's not the one that cheated on you

i know

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Just cheat on her. Free love, mon :wink:
Yeah, with her mother. If possible.

Take the moral high ground and just walk away. No violence, no name calling, just walk. Don't call her, don't drive by her place, don't talk to her at all, if her name comes up in conversation, simply act like you are deaf. She doesn't exist. Trust me, the best revenge is no revenge. It will haunt her for life.

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Just cheat on her. Free love, mon :wink:
Yeah, with her mother. If possible.

Sister/best friend/worst enemy/girl that see thinks is prettier than her.

All good choices.

hmm that could work... fuck it

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Just cheat on her. Free love, mon :wink:
Yeah, with her mother. If possible.

Sister/best friend/worst enemy/girl that see thinks is prettier than her.

All good choices.
Or if you realy want to shock her, seduce her father.

nah ill just go and get pissed with my mates and smoke some drugs and a pack of longbeach.

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Just cheat on her. Free love, mon :wink:
Yeah, with her mother. If possible.

Menage a trois! :mrgreen:

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

How do you know she's cheating? By the sound of it, you haven't caught her 'at it'. Talk to her, find out what is going on and then deal with it. You could be winding yourself up over nothing.

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Cheat on her, perferbably in a way you can get caught. When you do get caught, tell her you saw her cheating on you and assumed that that was okay to do now in your relationship.

i think i done that in a previous relationship i forgot how it worked out.

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Cheat on her, perferbably in a way you can get caught. When you do get caught, tell her you saw her cheating on you and assumed that that was okay to do now in your relationship.
Heres a thought, buy a blowup doll and place it in your bedroom in a place she's bound to find it together with a stash of gay/lesbian/transgender porn. :wink:

does anyone know how to handle a situation like this i havent talked to her yet.

Oh Sweetie, what a horrible thing to have to go through. Do you know she's cheating or do you just suspect? Don't go out and sleep with someone else just to get back at her. What if you're wrong? Why don't you just talk to her? Afterall, what do you have to lose? If she tells you that she's sleeping with someone else, then at least you will know. If she is cheating, don't go mad, keep your dignity. She will feel much worse if you quietly walk away, trust me. :wink:

It depends on who she’s cheating with. It’s it’s someone you know dump the slut and beat the fool she’s been cheating with. Then find out why she’s cheating on you. If it’s just the sex then that gives you permission to fool around too and the possibility to maintain your relationship with her. If it’s because the other person has more money you can either ask for a cut of her profits or dump the whore. If the guy looks better than you dump her. If she’s cheating on you with a lady, ask to join in 8)

:lol:

i know one thing if my friends lying hes gonna get a beating.