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a recent discussion made me curious as to how many people really were in love with the first person they slept with. i wasn't, never thought i was, nor was he in love with me. but i honestly think i had one of the best first times that anybody could ask for, because we respected and liked each other and he was a relatively experienced (and very nice) guy. i've always been glad i didn't have my first time with somebody i was in love with. but i'd be open to hearing from both sides, if y'all have any opinions.

:wink: :wink: :wink: we could find out!

umm... no.. I didn't even fancy her that much...

*feeling belated guilt*

No, but he was.

The last person? Yes.

:(

umm... no.. I didn't even fancy her that much...

*feeling belated guilt*

Just as long as you didn't marry her... :P

umm... no.. I didn't even fancy her that much...

*feeling belated guilt*

Just as long as you didn't marry her... :P

Nope.. managed to avoid it on that occasion!! :P

Nope, love wasn't even an issue

No and it was crap, i didn't enjoy it at all.

She did though :wink:


I just saw it as this horrible thing hanging over my head, something I had to lose.

I wish to god I had waited until it was somebody I loved. ah well.


S'pose I've changed now though......Uni opened my eyes. :shock:
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I wish to god I had waited until it was somebody I loved. ah well.


why so? I don't... if I had it might never have happened!

umm... no.. I didn't even fancy her that much...

*feeling belated guilt*

Just as long as you didn't marry her... :P

Nope.. managed to avoid it on that occasion!! :P

*is saying nothing* :P

I wish to god I had waited until it was somebody I loved. ah well.


why so? I don't... if I had it might never have happened!

At the time I didn't care.
But looking back, I wish I had waited for my first time.

Heh I'm not complaining though. :D

I can't imagine having waited & then doing it with someone that, at the time at least, I thought I loved. It wasn't a particularly pleasant exparience & the idea of that being a memory within the parameters of a loving relationship makes me feel a bit weird

Hmm, I liked her, and she turned me on... but loved her? No, I don't think so. Still, I don't regret it. :wink:

Edit: What do you know about love when you're 14 anyway?

I wish to god I had waited until it was somebody I loved. ah well.


why so? I don't... if I had it might never have happened!

At the time I didn't care.
But looking back, I wish I had waited for my first time.

Heh I'm not complaining though. :D

I'm just intrigued because, like Iki, I'm not sure why waiting for someone you loved would have made the experience so much better. If you want the sexual experience to be perfect with the one you love then you'd better practice a lot first, right? :wink:

If you had waited for The One and then the first time had been rubbish, you might be regretting that right now.

I wish to god I had waited until it was somebody I loved. ah well.


why so? I don't... if I had it might never have happened!

At the time I didn't care.
But looking back, I wish I had waited for my first time.

Heh I'm not complaining though. :D

I'm just intrigued because, like Iki, I'm not sure why waiting for someone you loved would have made the experience so much better. If you want the sexual experience to be perfect with the one you love then you'd better practice a lot first, right? :wink:

If you had waited for The One and then the first time had been rubbish, you might be regretting that right now.

Good point.

I stand corrected, I'm am now happy that my first time was crap!

I'm just intrigued because, like Iki, I'm not sure why waiting for someone you loved would have made the experience so much better. If you want the sexual experience to be perfect with the one you love then you'd better practice a lot first, right? :wink:

If you had waited for The One and then the first time had been rubbish, you might be regretting that right now.

Absolutely... practice makes perfect! :wink: 8)

I wish to god I had waited until it was somebody I loved. ah well.


why so? I don't... if I had it might never have happened!

At the time I didn't care.
But looking back, I wish I had waited for my first time.

Heh I'm not complaining though. :D

I'm just intrigued because, like Iki, I'm not sure why waiting for someone you loved would have made the experience so much better. If you want the sexual experience to be perfect with the one you love then you'd better practice a lot first, right? :wink:

If you had waited for The One and then the first time had been rubbish, you might be regretting that right now.

Good point.

I stand corrected, I'm am now happy that my first time was crap!

I'm just intrigued because, like Iki, I'm not sure why waiting for someone you loved would have made the experience so much better. If you want the sexual experience to be perfect with the one you love then you'd better practice a lot first, right? :wink:

If you had waited for The One and then the first time had been rubbish, you might be regretting that right now.

Absolutely... practice makes perfect! :wink: 8)

I'm just intrigued because, like Iki, I'm not sure why waiting for someone you loved would have made the experience so much better. If you want the sexual experience to be perfect with the one you love then you'd better practice a lot first, right? :wink:

If you had waited for The One and then the first time had been rubbish, you might be regretting that right now.

Good point.

I stand corrected, I'm am now happy that my first time was crap!

That's actually my stand point too, I just don't think I explained it well

I stand corrected, I'm am now happy that my first time was crap!

hell, so was mine. but at least it was a long time ago.

I'm going to the wedding of my first this coming weekend.
Pondering whether to do the whole objection thing and declare my undying love.
Probably won't :wink:

Anyway, we weren't in love but were and still are very good friends. I think that makes a difference...

kinda sorta maybe :?


That girl gave topclass head though.

I'm going to the wedding of my first this coming weekend.
Pondering whether to do the whole objection thing and declare my undying love.
Probably won't :wink:


Do it! You know you want to! I dare you! :D

I thought I was in love... the sex was still crap. I'd have sooner had a few pints and a curry.

Do it! You know you want to! I dare you! :D

She would kill me :(
Still, it'd be a laugh...

Do it! You know you want to! I dare you! :D

She would kill me :(
Still, it'd be a laugh...

I believe you. (On the first conclusion at least.) :lol:

But i'm sure she'd be very flattered at the same time.

No.

But I can't answer the poll as presented.

Truly, madly, deeply, yes.

it may be that i am not the easiest person in the world to live with, or at least not for some people. i know i've never been entirely happy living with anyone else.

we thought we'd try each other out before making further commitments.
i don't know if that was a good thing or not but i think it might have been.

at any rate i know i was in love with her and she may of may not have been with me.

i was dissappointed when she left me. we were togather most of a year.

that was a long time ago. she never really told me why she wanted to leave, but i guess maybe she emotionaly couldn't some how or why.

at any rate and for whatever reason she got tired of me long before i ever would have of her.

still been happier more of the time i've lived alone then any of the times including now, that i'm married, that i've ever lived with anyone.

still in love with a lot of dreams, some who have hugged me back, some who have shaired physical pleasure, even some who never have.

still wish everyone in any world love and happiness.

(and still wish i could live by myself in a cave out in the woods with a bunch of critters and a bunch of tecnology and as little direct human contact as possible)

=^^=
.../\...

it may be that i am not the easiest person in the world to live with, or at least not for some people. i know i've never been entirely happy living with anyone else.

we thought we'd try each other out before making further commitments.
i don't know if that was a good thing or not but i think it might have been.

at any rate i know i was in love with her and she may of may not have been with me.

i was dissappointed when she left me. we were togather most of a year.

that was a long time ago. she never really told me why she wanted to leave, but i guess maybe she emotionaly couldn't some how or why.

at any rate and for whatever reason she got tired of me long before i ever would have of her.

still been happier more of the time i've lived alone then any of the times including now, that i'm married, that i've ever lived with anyone.

still in love with a lot of dreams, some who have hugged me back, some who have shaired physical pleasure, even some who never have.

still wish everyone in any world love and happiness.

(and still wish i could live by myself in a cave out in the woods with a bunch of critters and a bunch of tecnology and as little direct human contact as possible)

=^^=
.../\...

Heck no I wasn't in love with her. I wasn't even all that atracted to her although she had a killer bod and was extremely popular. Fact of the matter was that I was a freshman, she was a senior, I beat out her b/f for starting right mid on the soccer team and when they broke up cuz he was cheating on her, she asked me to go to Homecoming with her instead as a jibe. So we went, we got frisky and we had fun ssex... although I was terrified I would screw something up. he found out, got rightly pissed and she got even... yep... I was just a tool but I didn't mind... Honest!!!

I wasn't in love with the person- but I am now- we're still together, but we first slept together before I oculd honestly say I knew enough about him to love him.

I definitely do now.

:D

I thought I was, I was sure I was, but I was only 14, and I didn't have the faintest idea what love really was. Looking back on it, sleeping with her stands out as one of the only decisions in my life I truly regret.

I thought I was, I was sure I was, but I was only 14, and I didn't have the faintest idea what love really was. Looking back on it, sleeping with her stands out as one of the only decisions in my life I truly regret.

That bad? I have a similar experiance: It wasn't the first time anymore, but not sleeping with stands out as one of the few decisions in my life I truly regret. In a parallell universe I probably did sleep with her and regret it just as much. Some times there are loss-loss situations...

No, because I was raped.

I thought I was, I was sure I was, but I was only 14, and I didn't have the faintest idea what love really was. Looking back on it, sleeping with her stands out as one of the only decisions in my life I truly regret.

That bad? I have a similar experiance: It wasn't the first time anymore, but not sleeping with stands out as one of the few decisions in my life I truly regret. In a parallell universe I probably did sleep with her and regret it just as much. Some times there are loss-loss situations...

Well, the sex wasn't bad, perse. It was as good as I could have expected both our first times to be. It was extenuating circumstances of the relationship that made me regret losing my virginity to that particular girl.

To this question I answer yes.

To this question I answer yes.

Not only no, but I was trying to think of ways to break up with her. Instead we stayed together for another year before she realized the relationship was extrodinairely lopsided.

Which of course makes me a bastard.

In fact, I feel that the dry spell that followed (and continues) is a result of the universe punishing me for being such a jackass. She was really into me (in a way I found creepy, I mean-she joined the navy because I didn't tell her not to. even if I did love her I wouldn't do that-it's her life, her decisions. I only get limited input) and was up-front about what she wanted and stuck around thinking I would 'come around.' And she was hot and I am very much not(I was that guy), so the universe was being very kind...and yet so cruel...